He is getting quiet why?

[Anonymous]

i met 3 months ago a guy in a city and we talked in person like 2 hours and then exchanged phone numbers. we are living in different countries. we started immediately with texting and we had been texting all this months, almost every day. it seemed like we've been on the same vibe and we got along well while texting. we met each other again because I went to his city. before we were meeting up he told me if we can meet in nighttime and I agreed. so we met in an apartment and he was very into me and started touching me like crazy. we didn't end up having sex because I rejected it. he was kind of ok with that and wanted to sleep next to me and before sleeping he said if I am going to visit again and that he can visit me one day in my city. I need to say that I haven't been very nice to him when we met in the night. the next day he texted me that im weird and that he is happy that we didn't end up in bed. now I can feel that the communication is falling apart and its not like before. is he starting to be not interested in me anymore?

[Secret6620]

I honestly think your rejection is making him pull away.

You don't seem to know what you want and that can be scary for a guy who is putting himself out there and making an effort.

Especially when you mentioned "you weren't very nice to him" I personally would have pulled away if a guy started being mean to me. I am very sensitive and don't respond well to rejection.

[Asker]

yeah you are right, I wasn't nice to him. I think I had built up a wall because I had made bad experiences in the past. and I really didn't know what I wanted and maybe he felt that. I wasn't even trying to get very close to him because he was in those moments just too intrusive for me. I even apologized to him the day after and he accepted it.

[Secret6620]

That's great that you apologized. I would have done the exact same thing. I hope everything works out for you too. Love is a beautiful thing.

[Asker]

and im also wondering why he didn't left immediately after it was clear for him that sex is not going to happen. but he wanted to stay and said he will sleep and he didn't even tried anything then. because he knew I don't wanted that in those moments.

[Secret6620]

Yay! Superb opinion ✨️

[Asker]

We are texting again. But its really awkward Not Like before. He said everything is fine for him and that He doesn't want to Talk anymore about that situation because im projecting on him

[PrettyPriya]

I think what he texted you says it all. He likely thought he was going to get lucky and since he didn’t he lost interested. I see the text as a red flag and would move on from this one.

From your details, it sounds that sex was his primary interest and not a relationship.

[Asker]

I asked him after the night with a text if sex was his only intention and why he couldn't be honest and he said just no it wasn't like that. and why he texted with me almost 3 months day by day if that was just the only thing for him? why he was spending so much time texting with me. I don't understand this person.

[Asker]

before he left he told me I had hurt his feelings.

[PrettyPriya]

@Estrellaleeya I don’t understand it either tbh. I imagine he was texting hoping that it would give the impression he was interested in something other than just sex.

Once he figured out you weren’t going to just give it to him, he turned nasty and sent the text about you being weird and pouted. Then, when it became apparent to him, communication fell apart.

[Iron_Man]

Texting alone is cold and dry eventually both of you will become bored with it you have to talk on the telephone live and have good voice communication listen to each other laugh it brings joy to the heart

[Asker]

You think its a good Idea to call him?

[Iron_Man]

Yes I do

[Asker]

You think the Chances are good that He is going to Pick Up?

[Asker]

I Just dont know what to say to him after all got pretty awkward right now.

[Iron_Man]

He may not pick up it may go into voicemail then you’ll have to leave him a message you have to go for the gusto if not you’re gonna be sitting there by yourself lonely

[Anonymous]

Most guys are only looking for sex... and due to this, the personality muscles often grow weak...

[Asker]

OK but why He didn't leave immediatly when He Had Seen that Sex is Not Going to Happen that night?

[Avicenna]

It might not be moving along like he wants it to

[Asker]

how you mean that? In the sexual way?

[Asker]

I just really hope that we can be communicating like before our hang out. I felt like a good connection with him

[Avicenna]

Then try to get him to communicate better

[TallAnon]

"No sex? Fuck that, next."

[Asker]

You really think that? But why He didn't left Just immediatly?

[TallAnon]

In his mind he wasted 3 months on you, he was almost there and you cut him off. Thinking back on it, I'm sure he felt cheated out of something. That's ofcourse very flawed thinking, but that's quite common.

[Asker]

Thats why he said I've hurt his feelings. you think he thought maybe that in the end I don't really like him? because I told him he could go to my room and stay there with me, so he thought maybe I want to end up having sex with him.

[TallAnon]

Hurt his feelings is a kind way of saying it. He was trying to fuck you for months, you were literally within reach, you got him as close as he could've gotten and boom, nothing 😂

[Asker]

yeah but then why he was always communicating with me and building like a connection with me. I mean I live in another country it could have been much easier for him just find some other girl there and not making effort getting to know me more and more. I really don't get men logic

[TallAnon]

How many women do you think we talk to? Lol. Most men take what they can get. Women have it a lot easier in that regard. Yeah, "building a connection" is more like "convincing you to get intimate".