Why did the stripper told me I was too quiet during the lapdance?

[CasaNorba]

I lost count on how many time's I've gotten lapdances and all the spontaneous incidents I had during the time.

But this is literally the first time I had a stripper tell me I was too quiet during a lapdance. not only have I've always stayed quiet during a lapdance because I love to stay focus and live on the moment, but aside from that I literally dont see what there is to talk about during a lapdance. I mean lapdances are borderline intimate just like getting massage so I really dont see a point in talking during one.

let's not forget that the music is always high at the strip club so I doubt we will be able to hear each other. till then why exactly did she pointed that out?

[TonyBologna25]

Why do you care so much about this? Lmao. The fact that you're making a question about this and place such an emphasis on figuring this out tells me that you might be a bit socially awkward when it comes to sexual advances. Throw a little feedback. Tell her how nice her ass and tits are. Sitting in a dead silence can come across as weird.

[CasaNorba]

and you're making it sound like I was trying to date her or something. brother this is not what you go to strip clubs for. not that I disagree with you on me being socially awkward nor do I care

[TonyBologna25]

I know man, but if her opinion was just of no value you to you, I feel like this question wouldn't have been made. It seems like focus on the responses you get from women so you can gauge if you're doing things right or wrong. She's just a stripper lol. I'm not trying to shame you with the socially awkward part though. It was just my assumption. My biggest piece of advice for you if my assumption is correct... is to be selfish. Sexual advances and women. You know that a little over 60% of women have a damn rape fantasy? Crazy shit, right? Lol. Stop thinking about what she wants sexually or how to impress her when you're flirting. Be yourself, and come from a genuine place wanting to be entertained. Make it interesting and fun for YOU. Women respond really well to this, and you get exactly what you want out of the situation.

[TonyBologna25]

So this situation... You're questioning if you were being weird. Change your perspective to "she's being weird and shouldn't want to fucking talk so much" Tell her that. With more tact of course aha. You don't want to talk, so have her adjust to your needs.

[CasaNorba]

I'm pretty sure the first time something will always strike some curiosity on you one way or another. I been literally a strip club goer for a decade and a half now and lost count of all the lapdances I've got a while ago. always been quiet with all of them until now for some apparent reason, so I got curious. especially in a place and situation where you really can't do a lot of talking.

never said I felt shamed or offended by your assumption but I obviously am socially awkward and there is nothing I can do but accept it so I am already being somewhat selfish. oh well women always talk out their asses so I think its well above 60% and you really can't get a lot out of a stripper unless you are down to continue paying. not that I have a problem cause I rather pay money than with my social image and freedom

[DonCachondo]

Keep her engaged with intermittent feedback. Let her know she's doing a good job by giving out nonverbal cues of approval (that is, if you ARE enjoying yourself...). The ladies get real excited by that shit! They get off by your approval while you get off by them ;)

[CasaNorba]

sounds true but I think I would only try this if they actually reward me with discounts or an extended time

[DonCachondo]

Sounds like a challenge but I doubt it's impossible. Set some goals, make it even more fun!

[CasaNorba]

Over a year ago I would of totally been down, its too bad Cardi B scared these agendas out of me

[DonCachondo]

In our imperfect world, some degree of risk is inevitable. The best you can do is minimize it. Besides, if licking some fine-ass titties is somehow what finally leads me to my demise, it's not like I could name so many ways I would've prefer to go!

[CasaNorba]

I've done that a lot of time with past strippers. along with many other acts

[AniKai]

I guess you should've added some porn cliche oohs and aahs. Don't know. Maybe she thought you fell asleep?

[CasaNorba]

who falls to sleep when they have a hot woman dancing on them? lets not forget that would be a waste of money or even worst they can go Cardi B on you without hesitation.

oh well I think only a virgin loser would climax to a lapdance

[AniKai]

Who falls asleep? I don't know - someone who has a serious case of a sleeping disorder?

[AniKai]

But a 'virgin loser', that's something what doesn't exist, except maybe in your alpha-male fantasies.

[TonyBologna25]

Losers and virgins exist both exist, sometimes they do exist codependent as well. A social hierarchy also exist whether you claim it doesn't or not. There are confident, successful, charismatic, domineering men with natural leadership ability. These are considered alpha to society. There are incompetent, insecure, passive, and socially weak men. These are considered betas. It's not a specific generic cut-out, but rather a basic principle of a social hierarchy that exist in every culture in society.

[AniKai]

@TonyBologna25 And this is why guys usually are called 'jerks'.

[TonyBologna25]

I mean... if everyone who recognizes the basics concerning the development, structure, and functioning of human society is a jerk, then you're entitled to that belief lol.

[ThisAndThat]

You should have told her you were afraid of getting MeToo-ed. Then got up and walked out. Had it been me, we wouldn't be have the conversation, I don't do strip clubs.

[CasaNorba]

not saying I disagree but I actually do strip clubs for that same exact reason. a stripper cannot and won't MeToo you unless you dont pay them for their service. is not like they will ever see you again or have your contact info or anything they can identify you with

[ThisAndThat]

Be very careful never say never. Men are bailing out in the millions which is why brand jewelry stores and wedding shops have closed nation wide and they're beginning to get desperate.