How come he recently started yelling at me? Is it his way of showing his masculinity?

[sage2021]

[JacobJordan]

no no no no absolutely not. A masculine man does not need to yell. A feminine man will yell because he has been taught that acting on his emotions is fine. As a married man who is head of household and the breadwinner as they say. I have not once yelled or even raised my voice at my wife, or my children. All I have to do is change the tone to stern and everyone knows serious dad is out. my voice does not get any louder. This is precisely why men are supposed to be taught that feeling your emotions is fine acting on those emotions is not. if a man gets angry and is masculine he takes the time to process it, deal with it, defuse it and continue on. if a man gets angry and is feminine he loses control and people get hurt. feeling is fine acting on those feelings is not.

[sage2021]

@JacobJordan
I remember one day he was yelling at me and I started crying, begging him to stop yelling at me. I couldn't even get in a word edge wise. So I tried yelling louder and I said "I have First Amendment Rights and you have to let me talk". Guess what, he clammed up right when I said that. It worked 👍

[JacobJordan]

yeah that isn't remotely healthy. guy needs to a long look in the mirror and realize you do not treat someone you claim to love that way. You can make your point without acting like a 4 year old man child. assuming you don't or haven't ended things going forward if he starts yelling you need to tell him in no uncertain terms "I am not going to communicate with you while you are acting like a child. when you want to talk and not yell then we can talk"

[Anonymous]

No. He was always that way. He just hid it so you’d go w him. Yelling isn’t a sign of masculinity. No wonder why women think men are toxic because they have no idea what masculinity is.

[Bethany22]

Yes, it could be, but it's still no excuse. Maybe he feels like you don't trust him, or that he feels like you find fault with the solutions he gives to your problems.

[sage2021]

@Bethany22
It's probably because he knew I couldn't trust him, and he wasn't trustworthy.

[sage2021]

@Bethany22
His idea of finding a solution to a problem was to eat something good 🙂 or to try and make me laugh with his zany cartoon character imitations 🤭😂

[FunkyMonkee]

No idea! Did you put shit in his pecan pie?

[sage2021]

@FunkyMonkee
OMG! That is so weird that you would choose pecan 🥧 pie because that was both our favorite pie. And you know why I am all alone now don't you (because he died).
The pecan pie is just blowing my mind. You could have chosen any pie in the world, but you chose to say the only one that was both our favorite. Maybe this another sign he us sending me. I had a huge one the other night that you aren't even going to believe what happened.
Stay tuned. Please tell me why you chose pecan pie, ok?

[FunkyMonkee]

I had no idea that was your fave!
Yes, I know why you're alone. And why I'm alone, too.
Well, the reason I chose pecan was because of Shel Silverstien.
https://youtu.be/Aw6q79glAUo?si=iNpvJ5svS3Klg3N1

[RealMarek]

No idea, but it is not acceptable.

[Likes2drive]

Who started yelling at you?

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
This is a question I should have asked (before you know what) but I am still curious why he was doing that.

[Likes2drive]

The brother of your boyfriend that passed?

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
No, not his brother. He had never yelled at me before until about a month before he was gone. He was also on social media reading about what a real man was, simp (?) Men, I don't know. But in other words to show your woman that you're not a whimp is maybe to tell at her to show her you're a real man. Don't mind me "M" I am having a bad day, sorry. I should have asked this way before now if you know what I mean. Because him yelling at me is something I won't tolerate and don't deserve. I didn't say things to provoke him to yell at me, he just did it one day, then more times until the end. I was just wondering why a guy would suddenly start yelling at his woman. He also stopped looking at me in the eyes right before the end, so something was going on that I didn't know about.
Anyway, I don't want to bring you down. You help me so much.
Have a peaceful day 🙂.
(Me trying to act happy)

[Likes2drive]

Yelling at a woman is not masculine, it means he is angry and can’t control his emotions, it’s definitely not masculine

[Andres77]

Break up already

[Benedikt_lol]

Yeah 💯