Am I over reacting after he shouted at me calling me a cunt?

[Anonymous]

He was being super sweet before he finished texting me saying he’d pick us up food and I should get the drinsk ready

On the phone he was talking about a night out and I asked was he going to cheat (he asked me for hours over text if I would do that when I was going out and almost ruined my night) I responded in a way that was reassuring and kind and made it clear I wouldn’t and I kept this up for the entire hour

I asked once and he went mental and said shut the fuck up you cunt I regret getting you this food. Threw it down when he got in and looked at me really weird. Ate his in the bedroom and I’ve been crying in the spare bedroom.

This isn’t the first time he’s shouted like that. I had asked him what he wanted to watch later on since his plans were cancelled and we were spending the night together he screamed shut the fuck up I couldn’t care less pick for once for fuck sake. I asked this question once. Only once. I would have left the car if our kids weren’t in the back.

Am I overreacting being this upset. It’s a reset that seems to happen every month. And each time I cry more and more, I don’t understand what I did to deserve that both times. This happens monthly I’ve just forgotten the previous ones

I have friends but no close friends. I have no family. I want to die most times and he’s all I have apart from my kids but I’m scared of him with the kids alone if he’d do that to them too.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You're not overracting.

Massive red flags. He's about to abuse you physically, not just mentally and emotionally.

Leave him. You don't deserve this treatment and he certainly has no right calling you names.

Even angry couples shouldn't call each other names like that.

[Anonymous]

'I want to die most times and he’s all I have'

'This isn’t the first time he’s shouted like that.'

'.. but I’m scared of him with the kids alone if he’d do that to them too. '

This is a codependent situation that is dysfunctional and unhealthy... potentially dangerous for the children. As long as you remain in this, it will get worse. If you can't get out for yourself, do it for the children...

[Guy13]

It does not sound like an environment that is good for your well being. Be safe.

[DizzyDesii]

If a dude called me that or the B word, we’re over. My first boyfriend called me that during our arguments and I made sure no other dude was every allowed to