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My guy of 7 years might have to file bankruptcy on his new business due to political who you know, who doesn't like you kind of paperwork stuff. He owes people a lot of money that have trust in him to start up that business.
He's said he is like dead inside, doesn't know what to do, is so mad. He's been drinking a lot. he's definitely depressed.
He's been not seeing me as much and almost pushing me away a lot of time. When I do see him, he calms down and I help him forget for a few hours.
BUT last week he outright almost blew me off the entire week if I didn't say something.
I've been supporting him, his anxiety, and his decisions with this business for years. I don't think it's fair He's is being a dick to me. I think if I broke up with him right now he may even be OK with it because he's so fucked up.
Should I leave him? I have high self worth I don't tolerate not being treated well but I also understand he's under enormous stress.
Any insite is appreciated
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This is a tough situation. A few thoughts:
- His business failing and depression is legit stress that would mess with anyone. Cut him some slack for being moody.
- But at the same time, taking it out on you and not making you a priority isn't cool either. You've supported him for years.
- Pushing you away when you're tryna help and be there for him is kinda messed up. Like bro, appreciate what you've got!
- Drinking a lot is never good when you're depressed either. Not helping himself there.
- Personally, I think you shouldn't dump him yet. Give it more time since you've been together so long.
- But you gotta lay down the law too. Tell him straight up his attitude towards you is unacceptable, even with his issues.
- Say you're there for him 100% but the disrespect stops now. See if he can check himself and appreciate you more.
If he keeps taking you for granted after that, then it may be time to re-evaluate. But for now, sounds like he just needs to pull his head out of his ass and remember what really matters. You seem like a super supportive girl - he's lucky to have you on his team!
Why do you feel like he's using you?
Because I've been behind supportive for months, years over this. Now the shit is really hitting the fan and I feel like I'm forcing him to see me.
Beyond supportive.
I would move on. You don't need this.