Why would men rather check you out (stare) than approach?

[Anonymous]

Is it just better to stare from afar?
Does that mean that's just it?

It's just about the looks and nothing more? Is that a good thing?

[VictorMachiavelli]

1) They’re used to meeting women online. That’s just the way most people meet nowadays.

2) They have no idea what to say to a girl when approaching in person, without making it awkward or weird.

3) They’re afraid of overt rejection. You send a message to a girl online who isn’t interested, you just don’t get a reply. There’s no awkwardness. Rejection in person is much more awkward if you don’t know how to deal with it.

4) While most women are polite when rejecting men, especially in person, they’re afraid of feeling humiliated by a harsh rejection or a bad reaction.

5) Many women complain about creeps trying to chat them up. They don’t want to creep women out or make them uncomfortable.

6) They don’t want to bother her while she’s going about her day. Maybe she’s busy and in a rush, and he doesn’t want to be annoying.

7) She looks good but she doesn’t look like she wants to be approached. He might be looking for a sign, a smile or something, to give him a green light. If she doesn’t give him he assumes she doesn’t want to be bothered by him.

8) He might have a girlfriend. He thinks the girl is hot but that’s all, he’s not going to try and pull her.

9) She’s really attractive, and he thinks she’s out of his league.

[Asker]

Omg I didn't know that could all be a part of it. That makes sense! Thank you for your time 🙏

What is it about men who think she's out of his league? Some guys said that to me as a compliment I think but I don't get that. I'm not that good looking tho

[VictorMachiavelli]

To put it simply they just think she’s too attractive to like them back. Maybe she’s more attractive than any of the women he’s been with or who are usually interested in him. He assumes that because she’s so attractive she can get more attractive guys than him.

[Asker]

Oh so that's why. That makes sense! 😇 even if I don't see myself like that. Now I understand it better.

What about this: "😍 He might have a girlfriend. He thinks the girl is hot but that’s all, he’s not going to try and pull her." Then why does he still make it obvious that he stares at her, checks her out every time from head to toe?
While the woman makes sure that she won't do anything cause she is no homewrecker and yet he does that every time he sees her.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you approach men you like? See? That's why. Cause you don't want to get embarrassed. And it's ten times worse as a guy cause your whole community will socially ostracize you if she calls you a weirdo.

[petitedollbabee]

It’s possible to appreciate beauty without wanting anything from her.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how to approach a women in the vast majority of situations, and sometimes it gives me bad anxiety.

[Luckycharms12]

You looked back clearly could made move also

[Anonymous]

Shyness usually plays a part.