Do guys who ghost you ever come back…🥺?

[Anonymous]

Just curious

[Anonymous]

Yes sometimes they do. But it isn’t always a good thing. A lot of times when a man comes back it’s because he’s trying to keep you as a side piece. Maybe he has a girl but he knows you like him so he may use that to his advantage to try to get you to sleep w him on the side. Maybe he may he got what he wanted from another chick, now he came back to you. Or she may have not given him what he wanted so he came back to you. He may have realized the grass isn’t always greener on the other side so now he’s back. Which to me is insulting. He’s basically telling your that point you weren’t my first choice. My first choice didn’t want me or things didn’t work out so I coming to you, my second or even theirs choice.

[Asker]

What I was the one who messed things up.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. He may come back. Depends though. How did you mess things up?

[Asker]

Well he ghosted after a first date…. Maybe a bit different

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so who messed it up?

[Asker]

I did.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. How did you mess it up?

[Asker]

Being insecure and toxic

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well think in this situation there’s a very slim chance he will come back. I say this because it was just one date, so he really didn’t have much time to attach himself to you emotionally. Now if you to had been dating for sometime, he may still have feelings for you that he would come back if he realized you had really changed. But w this situation, I doubt it.

[Asker]

We talked for 2 weeks… we had an intense talking stage…. He said he felt like I was unstable… but still wanted to meet… guess I wasn’t pretty enough

It’s a long story tho

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly men will sleep w a girl even if she’s crazy, just not be w her in a serious relationship.

[Asker]

Guess he didn’t want either. He was scared to sleep with me

[Opinion Owner]

So what exactly about you is toxic?

[Asker]

Everything. I have low self esteem

[Opinion Owner]

Ok but a low self-esteem doesn’t mean you’re always toxic. Do you argue a lot? Blow things up? Fight w him? Manipulate him?

[Asker]

Yeah…. I told him that I wasn’t looking and only wanted to be a placeholder.

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re willing to let him just use you till he finds a girlfriend?

[Asker]

No I made it clear no sex just chat until he moves on

[Opinion Owner]

So basically a friend. Which honestly to me there’s no real benefit to men having women as friends. If he’s like most men he isn’t going to want that. What could you give him as a placeholder?

[Asker]

He didn’t want that lol he said he would end up liking me for nothing.

[Asker]

We had an intense talking stage before our date… but I talked to other people about… they agree I messed things up.

[Opinion Owner]

So why not just move on?

[Asker]

Bc I still feel hurt, still have feelings, still in denial…

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well I think a big part of this whole thing is working on yourself first. Otherwise even if you move on chances are other encounters w men will be the same

[Asker]

That’s why I wasn’t trying to date anyone… I just started to cave in bc I felt he wanted something more and he’s level headed… made me feel emotionally safe. I thought he might of understood me. He did say that I need to take some time to work on myself.

I just feel so disposable … I am disposable. I just thought he cared enough to say he didn’t want to talk anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Hard to say. He may have just wanted to sleep w you that’s why he played the part of making you feel emotionally safe.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe

I don’t like to think about it.

I’m done letting him affect me. I’ve been depressed thinking about it and him. Haven’t slept, ate… felt good about myself… don’t want to go to work…

He cares nothing about me …that hurts

[Opinion Owner]

Ok but you can’t change that about about how he feels about you. You just have to process it then move on.

[Asker]

Yeah…, I’m trying

[exitseven]

If he is the ghost of Christmas past he will

"I told you these were shadows of things that have been. That they are what they are, do not blame me!"

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[PeachyPie93]

I have had some come back.
The ones with lots of options never come back.

[Thestupidusername]

They're pussies lol. Just move on to someone that deserves you.

[ZackBan]

The only thing more pathetic than ghosting is coming back.
Meaning he was spineless to say goodbye and spineless to stay away.

Hope you're not sitting around waiting for some bum.

[Anonymous]

I'll buy you a house if you be my girlfriend.

[Asker]

OKAY

[Ghost1962]

Same thing happens with guys, and the woman never come back unless they want something, like paying their rent or they need their car fixed

[Crankor]

After they have made their rounds, it's possible. But If the reason they ghosted you still persists then I wouldn't count on it

[Bklynbadboy12]

Some do but the question is do you want them to come back. Cause if he ghosted you once that means he'll probably do it again. You feel me?

[Asker]

Yeah… he’s not worth it.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Smart girl never settle for less than your worth! I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself

[SotiCoto]

I wouldn't count on it.
Not to say it doesn't happen, but nothing good will come of it.

[AmeerX]

Usually they don't but they can come back. You should try calling

[hotwheelz78]

YES, BUT ONLY IF WE NEED A BOOTY CALL..

[Staximus]

Wait around for somebody and you'll be waiting forever. The hell with them.

[Anonymous]

If the 😺 dries up where they're at, yeah they can come back.

[QuietRunner]

nope we never do

that's why the ghosting

[Slim57]

Why would you want them to? But the answer most times is no.

[patrick994]

Of course they do.

[sheikalana]

Most of them come back.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Doesn't sound very common

[Fuentes]

If i ghost u I ain't coming back lol

[Burakcharles]

It's too hard, I guess he won't come

[Anonymous]

Depends on the reason

[Opinion Owner]

It might not of had anything to do with you it could of been because of his asshole ex

[Yannae]

Some do for sure.

[OddBeMe]

If you put out.