Why do guys come back after they've ghosted you?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy who ghosted me after having a weird thing with him for over 3 years. One day he just vanished.

But then a year after he started to contact me again. By this point he had been living in another country for around a year now. Started subtilely by following me when he made an Instagram account, adding me on snapchat, etc (I didn't approve any of his requests). But then he started messaging. First on Facebook (which i keep seenzoning), but lately he's been trying to slide into my DMs on IG. Now a year after his first message (and more than 10 messages seenzoned later), he still continues to message.

Weird thing is he acknowledges that I seenzone him. Like some of his messages will go "Hey again. Just me trying to say hello" or like "I know you're probably busy but I have a funny story to tell you."

I don't get it. We live in different countries now so it isn't even like we can hook up. Obviously it isn't an ego boost if I never reply. So why does he keep messaging? And why bother even trying to reconnect in the first place?

[Darkfairie17]

That's really weird. Anyone who has ever ghosted me and came back ended up doing so because they met someone else. Then when things didn't work out with that person they decided they needed me back in their life because I was just "so nice".

[Asker]

I can kind of get the logic behind that but with him i dont. Like if youve been getting seenzoned for over a year, isn't the message pretty clear?

[Darkfairie17]

Some people just don't get it! It always amazes me the people who don't really see that. Like maybe he doesn't even realize you two aren't in the same country? Even though it should be obvious.

[Asker]

Oh he knows. He was the one who left lol. Weird thing is he come back for a vacation before and didn't reach out while he was here. He just comes and goes as he pleases. I thought for a while he finally got the message cos he stopped messaging on fb but now he's been pestering me on ig.

[Mega_illuminati]

probably a build up for one night stand when you go back to that country for vacation or something.

And most likely, it is to cheat on someone who he is with currently.