Now that I’ve stopped giving him attention, is this his effort?

[Anonymous]

He's been showing all non verbal signs of liking someone. Staring at me, body language, watching my social media consistently, smiling etc. i used to show it right back to him. but the non verbal signs just aren't enough for me anymore. So i acted like he didn't exist. Would walk past him. Would speak to everyone but him. Give hugs to his friends, walk right past him no eye contact. That same day he ended up helping me clean the floor. A mess i didn't even create. I Never asked for his help. He came out of nowhere, i never even knew he was around. He criticized his friends for not helping and helped me. I thanked him of course. They eventually helped too and i ended up more so talking to them than him. I guess he’s shy? Does this even mean anything? I just find it odd that he even cared. If he's not interested why even bother? I've already made peace. Just leave me alone ya know? Should i keep ignoring him? I'm 27 he's 30 Please friendly feedback only thanks everyone!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye girl, that boy is definitely feeling you! Helping you clean without asking, criticizing his friends for not helping too - that's classic moving-in behavior when he saw you wasn't giving him attention anymore. Shy guys especially will do little things to try and get your notice without outright saying how they feel. I'd say keep playing it cool when you see him, but don't completely ignore him - a little smile or eye contact goes a long way to let him know you see his effort. See if he tries talking to you again soon too. If he's still shy, maybe casually bring him into a group convo next time so he can warm up easier. But let him pursue you a bit - he'll start opening up more the more comfortable he gets. You've got him hooked sis, just reel him in at your pace!

[Billlewis]

That sounds promising, but he shouldn't have been helping you clean the floor -- you should have ordered him to clean it by himself. Other than that, I think you're on the right track.

[Asker]

Very true!! Thank you!!

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am.

[shmeed]

Mistake, maybe a big one. He is probably shy. By doing what you did you're just telling him he doesn't have a chance.

[Asker]

You could be right 😔😢

[Iron_Man]

Don’t act like he didn’t exist. Talk to him.

[Asker]

I know. But every time i see him i get nervous.

[Anonymous]

Why did society work so hard to discourage men from making the first move if women weren’t going to step up to fill the void? Now we have a bunch of lonely, sexually frustrated people trying to interpret staring and social media follows.

[Asker]

Trust me i don’t understand either. But im shy and afraid of rejection. So thats why i haven’t said anything. Just pray for me lmao

[Asker]

And by the way I’ve never discouraged men. There’s a difference between being a female and being a feminist. I’m not a feminist

[Opinion Owner]

Fair enough, just sad to see how antisocial everyone has become.

On that note, in my personal experience I would never cold approach someone to ask them out. There needs to be multiple friendly interactions to build off because I have no idea how to interpret non-verbal cues. Hell even verbal cues are hard to differentiate whether or not she’s just being friendly.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are playing childish games. If you like the guy, nut up and ask him out. It's not that fucking hard -- "hey, do you want to get a cup of coffee sometime"?

[Asker]

You seem upset. I mean you’re 44 years old. You’ve learned a lot along the way. I’m not at that point. I’m 25.. so calm down. I’m only looking for advice not to be cussed out. Toodles ! 🤍

[Anonymous]

I stopped reading at social media.

Right there, is why so many people are so clueless when it comes to how to build a relationship.

[Asker]

And now you’re deleted and reported. Right there at i stopped. Toodles!! ❤️

[In_Trance]

You have given up your right to ask where mind Games come from

[Asker]

No i have the right that’s why i asked. Reported your comment. Toodles. ❤️