If you 'give' less, it SHOULD make him want to move closer to you. However, if he's getting to the point where he feels like the relationship isn't what he wants, then he's not going to respond like you want him to. BUT if he doesn't want to be there for you, it's probably not the right relationship. I guess I'd give it a go for two weeks or so, and if he doesn't start responding, just ask him why he's been distant. If it's because of his family issues, then he should come around once things start to improve there. If it's because he's not feeling it, then he should be honest with you about that too.
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Ignoring the problem won't fix it.
There is a chance if he sees you becoming distant, that he will try to give you more attention and fix what's wrong.
Then there is also a chance, the communication between you two will come to a halt because you both are acting the same.
I say you bring this up to him and ask why he has been this way,
If it is to no effect then the relationship is already over because he doesn't take you seriously, or you remain of no importance to him. If this is the case, I think you should move on and invest your time and energy, into someone that is worth it.
No it won't work being passive aggressive never works. Sit down and have a face to face conversation about what is causing the problem in the relationship and let him know that you won't tolerate him wasting your time. Make a decision as to whether you two will work things out or call it quits. You deserve to be happy
How long is "lately"? Is there anything else going on in life?
If you stop paying attention / tone it down there is a chance it will succeed or fail. Better to get to the bottom of it.
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"if I stop trying & paying attention to him & trying to fix us, will he notice & try to come around more?"
Very unlikely.Perhaps, yes.
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