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We were a thing off and on for about 8 months over 2 years ago. It was long-distance and we started fighting. We were just doomed from the start.
He constantly joked about wanting to marry me and have kids with me, and I took it to heart a bit too much. I was more serious about him than he was me. I couldn't handle that he lived so far away and that we weren't together. So, I ended it for good over 2 years ago, and we've only spoken twice since.
We recently apologized to each other for how everything played out and have started talking again. Long story short, he's coming to see me in the next 2 weeks, but tonight he brought up how I broke things off out of nowhere, and I told him it was because I got paranoid and convinced myself he didn't care about me. He replied, "of course I do. I like you. I even have a certain level of love for you."
Am I being friend zoned? That sounds friendzoney to me.
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I'd take it as that.
My gut opinion is you foolishly think too much of this guy. Not saying he's a bad guy but IF you showed clear interest in him (and I don't know for certain that you have) then he needs to 💩 or get off the pot. You don't say this to someone who's a friend. You (i'm talking about him) DON'T exploit a friend emotions just because you like the feeling it gives you. That's NOT a friend or at least it's NOT a friend thing to do.
Keep in mind I'm not saying he doesn't like you. I'm not saying he doesn't sort of love you. But that's the point he needs to go the whole mile or STFU.
I'm not saying cut him off as a friend if he won't commit to you. Because that's up to you. Though I wouldn't blame you if he did. I know how hard it is to be around some as friends who does reciprocate like feelings. But AS A FRIEND he owes it to you to NOT EXPLOIT that friendship by using your feelings as a pump up for his ego.
That was basically why I broke it off. We talked everyday for months and months. I went to stay with him 5 separate times, 7hrs from home, for 3-7 days each. We went on a trip together, went on dates, talked about the future and planned things, but we never solidified anything.
I never met his family & he never met mine. Only a handful of our friends knew about the other. We were nothing. Meanwhile, he constantly fantasized about married life with me, how we'd split the house our chores, and where we'd live. He referred to his apartment as OUR place. For all intents and purposes, I was his girlfriend, but he was never my boyfriend.
So, I told him I wouldn't wait around. I told him to shit or get off the pot. He knew how I felt, and he was ok with losing me. Then, when I actually left, he lost it. He called me freaking out, and I'll just say it ended badly. It took a year for us to speak again.
I don't know what I'm going to do.
Well now that's you cleared that up to me it's pretty obvious to me. You be a friend to him (if you want) and that is all! He has to EARN you as a girlfriend. If that's what you want. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt to this point. Because I've been that scared guy before. Scared to admit feelings. But it doesn't sound like he's scared at all. In my opinion it sounds just like you said your his girlfriend but he has it just where he likes it. He's doesn't have the responsibility of him being your boyfriend.
If it were me and I was you I'd move on to another guy. But I understand how that's probably not what you want. If you choose the latter you need to ONLY give him what he's EARNED. And right now that sounds like NOTHING.
🤯 He sure is bad with words. He used "I like you" , I don't know about that , sounds pretty much like he is not excited about meeting up. You think this could be him getting back at you?
No, he's not vindictive. I'll give him that. He flies off at the mouth and can have a temper, but he isn't the type to scheme. He is extremely bad with words, though. He put his foot in his mouth so many times back when we were a thing. And he is never clear and direct about things when he does make an effort to communicate.
Like one time he left a key to his place out for me and showed me where he hid it. After I used it, I put it back because he didn't tell me he meant for it to be my key to his place. 2 weeks later, he found the key still there and took it to mean I didn't want to be with him because I'd left it there. He literally didn't tell me it was my key. Things like that happened a lot with us.
But also, we never exchanged I love yous. I didn't expect him to say anything about how he felt about me at all. He asked why I broke it off suddenly, I answered, and he offered that up. Weird dude, really lol
I am personally not one to say I love you to anyone, I generally just show people naturally that I do. Unfortunately this guy wasted your time , he has problems that he never dealt with and it is directly affecting his relationship with you. This guy is going to ruin your desire to ever be with a man and maybe he does not mean to but he is not good for you. You do care about him and that is why you are unsure. Just know that he is unsure about being serious with you although it's not difficult for him to imagine being with you because likely you are just that wonderful of a person but at the end of the day you are unsure about his behavior, his intentions and having a relationship with him. You don't owe him anything , don't even see him that's a bad idea.