Is 37m a red flag for liking me 21f?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been told I’m very attractive. My face in particular is a trait I’ve been praised for a lot. Getting attention from men isn’t new to me but it’s very excessive after losing a ton of weight and going to the gym. I get hit on by very young men and men who could be my great grandfather. I can tell that this specific man is interested in me, and I really like him. He has never been married and doesn’t have children. He looks a lot younger than 37. A Is he a red flag for being interested in me?

[NamerOfStars]

Not at all- attractive people are attractive, and while from what I've seen, men tend to have the... um, disattraction? -I don't think there's a word for the negative- that they feel towards "older women" fade, but it's not like younger ones STOP being appealing. It's like how little kids don't want to eat their vegetables (since those tend to be bitter, like most naturally occurring poisons), but want cake instead. As you age, your taste buds adapt, and you can come to appreciate vegetables- but you don't lose your appetite for cake.

However, if you're at radically different points in life, you may not be a good match in THAT way. It might not matter, but be ready for the possibility.

[Angelo75]

There are almost no limits to age difference.
As long as both parties are consenting adults with a fully developped brains so that none of the two parties is being taken advantage off.

[Anonymous]

You're both legally old enough to make up your own minds, but as someone who has been on the bottom end of large age-gap relationships, I will say the novelty tends to wear thin because you're at completely different stages of your life... always. When you're at the end of your baby-window, he's going to be looking at retirement. When you're hitting the swing of your career, he's going to be dead from prostate cancer.

[Asker]

I don’t see myself getting married anytime soon. :))

[Daniela1982]

37 is not that old for a 21 year old girl. Now when you get to 50 that may be an issue. Like dating your dad.

Dennis Quaid, 66 and wife, 27

[HighValue]

It's fine. Maybe he wants someone without a lot of emotional baggage, that hasn't ruined their ability to pair bond for long term so he wants someone younger.

[patrick994]

No, you are both adults of age, if you are good together and he respects you, there is nothing wrong with that.

[InspireGlow678]

That's a large age gap but not unheard of. How do you feel about it?

[Asker]

I don’t see myself getting married anytime soon, so I didn’t really think age mattered in my case. He is also in better shape physically than many men my age so I saw no cons but wanted to get someone else’s opinion. :))

[InspireGlow678]

I think it's fine then, especially since he's impressive physically. I understand

[Kelly6]

no

both are adults and can make own choice

[AngryCarl]

It's a red flag that he never married. At 37 that's unlikely to change.

What? I said it was unlikely, not impossible.

[Anonymous]

As much as a red flag as you are, I'm sorry to say.

A significant number of women your age are known for baiting older men. Some guys his age still haven't learned not to take the bait.

[Avicenna]

No, you're both adults