Why do I get a lot of people telling me I'm beautiful online but in the real world I get treated like trash?

[Anonymous]

When I share my pictures online plenty of people tell me I'm beautiful but when I go about my day like shopping I get looks like I'm an alien and I get treated like trash 🗑️. I'm dark skinned black woman. I'm 5"8 very petite and slim 121 pounds. I have long dark hair. I usually dress plain. I wear skinny jeans with sneakers and a hoodie usually. I also wear a little makeup but not much. I'm thinking of getting blonde highlights so that maybe would help. Any suggestions?

[Fireguy17]

It could be your personality, or how you present yourself. Looks alone aren't everything.
Maybe dump the hoodie, that is a fashion that could dissappear at any time, it just looks dumb with your hood up indoors when it is warm, or when it is warm out.
I've seen people wearing shorts and a hoodie with their hood up, which makes me thing are you warm, or are you cold?

[GregorSamsa]

Yeah, people give me dirty looks at the store too, but that's usually 'cuz they're shopping for food and I'm a giant bug. It's all about context.

Existential literature? No problem. Vermin in a place inspected by the FDA? Problem.
Instagram selfie? "Super cute!" Shopping for hemorrhoid creme, "Why's that chick looking at me? Does she see my ass bleeding? Don't look... just grab it and go."

[Wendysbitterapple]

You're giving it way too much thought. when you're in public people can't hide their feeling But online they can.

[Daniela1982]

Wait, do you look like this?

[Asker]

Lol, I have a body like that but smaller boobs and my hair goes to my mid back. I'm a tiny bit lighter than that too.

[lightbulb27]

if you project the image of a victim they will treat you as a victim.

[lightbulb27]

by that I mean, if you've been hurt before and are sensitive, hen you may project that emotion. It invites more abuse because people are animals until they rise above their pathetic state.

[molonski2]

Well your weight to height ratio is good , so BMI should be great , all sounds good , maybe try some presentation changes? What are you wearing online that gets you all the compliments?

[jarkitor20]

Are you nicer online than in person? Do you edit your pics when you post online?
Also possible the people online want your attention more and treat you better cuz they want something

[Asker]

I'm the same person. I never edit my pictures. I do dress up when I do share my pictures online. I dress very plainly when I go out.

[BoopBoopBeep]

So you get treated better when you dress up than when you wear a hoodie and you're seriously asking why that is?

[HelpfulWoman]

you get treated like trash? being pretty doesn't mean people are overly nice to you?

[Asker]

It would encourage me a little if people were that way.

[HelpfulWoman]

sounds more like you may be the problem over everyone else. you sound a bit deluded frankly

[Johnthompson418]

The way you describe yourself you sound pretty attractive. Definitely nice to be complimented By people online. People in the real world are just way too nasty to appreciate Or jealous of somebody that looks better than them.

[Anonymous]

Pick one outfit, put it online and walk around with it on and see what 1 gets the most reactions.

[Anonymous]

There an old meme that says "no matter how beautiful she is at some point she opens her mouth".😆

Maybe when you do you're very offputting. People are just looking at you online. Not hearing you.

[Anonymous]

you do anything differently between online pictures and when you go out? Like maybe dressing differently

[Asker]

I dress up when I share my pictures online. I dress plainly when I go out.

[Asker]

It's cold, and there's not much nice things to wear. I may get some cute winter boots and a cute jacket.

[Opinion Owner]

That's going to be some of your problems. Dressing up to take a Picture and Dressing very plain in public

[Opinion Owner]

You should get a nice outfit. Take a picture Put it online, then go out with the same outfit on to see the difference Between online and in public.

[Asker]

Okay, I'll do that

[Opinion Owner]

What type of boots do you have in mind?

[postaldudePL123]

Don't hang out with such people