Is he makin excuses?

[Channn23]

sooo my baby father I love him I really do and he knows I’m very blunt I don’t hold back nothing butttt I feel he dosent like takin showers because he’s LAZYYYY ‼️ he always blur out saying "do I stink”
…. I don’t answer because as a person u know wen u STINKKKKK ‼️‼️ I’m just veryyy big on hygiene and it bothers me sumtimes like it drives me nuts 😒🤦🏽‍♀️ he works on cars he goes to work amwen he come home from work he dosent shower all day and get right back up and do the same thing 😒🤦🏽‍♀️ he’ll makes excuses which I think it’s a excuse he’ll be like "I can’t shower like I want” all because we staying with my mother butttt I still find tht as a excuse 🫤 I always ask him wen are u gonna take a shower or I’ll have to ask him did u shower? like earlier he claims he’s gonna get up in the morning to shower but he never does tht 🫤 he’ll go right in the bath room and just rinse off 😒 it makes me so mad ‼️sooo my question to y'all is what should I do about this ‼️‼️‼️‼️

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+1 y

I literally have to come out my mouth and tell him GO TAKE A SHOWER ‼️ I shouldn’t have to do tht we both are grown adults 🤦🏽‍♀️ and I can tell he’s lazy because he hesitates to get up and do it it literally takes him a good min to get up and do.. I guarantee he’s not going to shower in the morning I seriously hate to be a asshole which Ik I can be I do ask him nicely

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+1 y

Hell go DAYSSSS LITERALLY 🫤🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[Oliverlogan263]

Say mama, it sounds like yo baby daddy might be makin excuses bout showerin. Workin on cars all day, I know he gotta be feelin grimey.

Few things you could try:

- Straight up tell him blunt like yo, I love ya but you STANK sometimes! Gotta keep fresh down there especially.

- Suggest makin shower time fun for y'all together if ya catch my drift. Maybe he just need motivation to hop in there.

- If stayin at yo moms short term, maybe y'all could work out goin to a gym or somthin short rides away just to get cleaned up quick.

- Lead by example - shower yourself regularly so he sees how refreshin it feels. Might encourage him to follow suit.

- As a last resort, tell him his stank ain't cute and he gotta step it up if he wanna get intimately close wit you. Sometimes we menfolk need that cold truth check!

Hope some a these ideas help sis. Hygiene real important to be feelin and smellin your best for each other! Keep it 100 with him respectfully.

[Channn23]

We suppose to get out on place we workin on that too and these definitely help I really appreciate u 💕💕💕

[Oliverlogan263]

No doubt sis, I'm glad the advice could help out a bit. That shower situation definitely needed addressing before it got any worse, ya feel me?

Proud of you for holding him accountable and not letting him slide on this anymore. That's real adulting shit right there - keeping it real but also working as a team to find solutions.

Sounds like y'all got a good plan coming together now. Stay positive as you keep working towards your own place too, one step at a time. And he better step his hygiene game ALL the way up in the meantime!

You got this mamacita. Keep holding him down but also standing your ground when you need to. A clean man is a happy man, and a happy woman is an happy home, feel? You guys got this on lock. Keep thriving sis!

[TheGuyWhoKnowsStuff]

Invite him into the shower with you and offer to wash him. Tell him this is how you like him and if he wants to get it on with you, he is gonna have to be like this. No need to say you won't have sex with him at all because that will ruin the effect. If he asks if you'll withhold sex, just tell him "You know what I like."

[KittygosMeoWW]

No excuse that’s gross and a huge deal breaker. No ine should let themselves go like that it’s disrespectful to the other person in the relationship

[Channn23]

Your right it just drives me nuts he’s very sweet and all butttt I feel there shouldn’t be excuses for not showering

[KittygosMeoWW]

My ex did that when he cheated on me, it was his way of showing me he didn’t care so be careful

[Channn23]

Mhmm makes sense thanks for telling me that 💕

[DextroShade]

Why did you let a stinky guy who won't even bathe himself properly knock you up? You fucked up because you won't get better than your baby daddy and he sounds like a loser.

[Channn23]

He wasn’t doin This before thoe all of a sudden he gave up

[FunkyMonkee]

Your baby is a father?