Players are the once that are attractive and know it, usually the ones that approach a woman when she's alone at a bar/club, the way to find out he's a player is to test the physical line, if he knows there's no chance of sex that night or even kissing then he will move on.
If a guy is actually interested he will stick around and actually get to know you without the whole charming flirty bit
Generally I’d think so.
But I’ve noticed other players actually brooding and pouting to look angry and pissed off on purpose to attract the females. So I guess it’s both.
The players that suck, smile.
The players who don’t suck, don’t smile.
Most men “want to be players” anyway! 🤷🏻♀️ So in that sense. There’s those who smile and those who don’t.
This is also what he did, looked sad when he looked at me.
Lol I hope not? Because that’s the first thing I find physically attractive in a person. A good, happy smile just gravitates me… charming, I’m sure there’s a good percentage of playa playa lol.
same hence y i always end up liking them more than they like me:(
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I’d say all players are charming guys but not all charming guys are players. 🙂
Just like if a girl is very charming towards a guy, she COULD be up to no good, trying to manipulate him.
Or, maybe she’s really just an honest charming gal. ✨
Players are great at getting a girl to let her guard down.
And seductive women are great at getting men to let their guard down.
Charisma and charm are powerful abilities people can use ethically or unethically.
Players are good looking guys who know most women find him attractive and he flirts with them all teasing them for fun. I used to work with one, all the girls loved him and his girlfriend worked there too. Another waitress there told him he’s such a player
Do they stare?
Stare?
Yeah
I don't know I’m not a player
@EmyyWolf Jordan
No, my brother is very charming and he’s not a player.
However, when he was younger some of his acquaintance guys were scared to introduce him their girlfriends, because they thought their girlfriends would like him more.
@EmyyWolf very this is why I have never dated or had sex at 30, I’m not within that zone of consideration
@EmyyWolf agreed, it would make the world a better place generations down the line. Then everyone will be attractive
@EBoyXx she’s delusional women over 30 do, why do you think most women that cheat in marriages are with 30-45yrs old. Plus they like younger men at that age due to their stamina to satisfy them.
At a young age women like older men and hot guys and at an older age women like younger guys and hot guys. So if you’re ugly you’re not good enough for either women your age growing up and you won’t be good enough older when everyone’s settled down with kids
@EmyyWolf I’m a guy I don’t need facial surgery to accept myself unlike women
@EmyyWolf good to know 😂
In some cultures smiling all the time is normal. In others it is only done with close friends.
What a silly thing to suggest. Generally, men who smile a lot (or women) are just happy people. We all know people like that. I like it.
Because I've had experience with guys who are like that and it didn't work out
Its not just smiling, its being charming too.
Some men are just confident others have reached that point in life where they realize what matters and what doesn't and they don't give an AF about the rest
Always? Certainly not. Maybe some are. And maybe some of them are just properly raised and aren't socially inadequate.
There could be some truth hidden. But not because they want to harm. They are not aware of the effect they create... :D
No, maybe they just like being around people and it shows in their personality.. I sometimes smile for no reason and can be charming... Sometimes Lol and I'm no player.. LOL..
From the hood or to multi millionaires, being charming is NOT a red flag, but people who are red flags usually ARE charming.
This is idiotic. So the fact that I smile makes me a player?
No, i also said charming
Uhm... yeah... I"m charming as well.
Thats y i asked
You're 35 years old and you think everybody who basically isn't socially awkward is a player? Did you spend your whole life on a commune?
Did u miss the q mark at the end?
That you are 35 and would need to ask that is why I think you've lived in a commune.
I ask because rhe guys I've liked who dont follow thro with their flirting smile a lot and are charming
There was more to the general charming, i just didn't know how to explain etc in more detail
Okay now we're getting somewhere... Not following through with their flirting doesn't make them a player it makes them socially awkward/recovering incel.
A player would follow through. Otherwise... he's not playing.
Theyve made me like them though
I dont have much experience so im asking qs to learn about men so i dont get hurt
Well they didn't MAKE you like them. They are who they are, you found that appealing. Are they supposed to deliberately be bad guys so you do NOT like them?
so why stroke some random girls hand then? what do they think thats going to achieve?
i never really just like someone for the way they are, i like them cos i feel we have some sort of connection, i can't like someone based on their looks alone, i would be a hypocrite if i did that
I wasn't there when they were stroking, so this is hard. Maybe they're just touchy people. If they were gazing into your eyes longingly, probably not. In that case, maybe they did and didn't think you were interested because you weren't giving signs back. It'd be worth asking them.
they were doing that too aswell as staring. id known them a while and they just suddenly started doing it. im trying to brush of the *players*in the future so i dont get too attached. its my issue that i get attached and they dont stick around
they haven't been back since an d i sent a message and they didn't reply, but I've no idea if they even use the app. but as i say there have been more guys in the past that have acted keen to be around me etc then just shrug and dont wanna know, so like why act that way one minute and drop te next, makes me think theyre all playing
Well people change their mind. If they liked you, then something happened to turn them off you, that's normal. A relationship isn't a blood contract with the devil. I thought Becky in accounting (or whoever) was hot, then she said she hated kittens. F her in the ear.
true but how can they change their mind so quickly. there may be reasons why they think that way, without getting to know me further how do they know. i know what hapened with one guy, but if hed just spoken to me id have been able to explain things. i was too shy to go up to him and didn't know what i had to do, due to lack of experience etc i can't understand why they wouldn't know I've probably had v little or none at all, i dont mention any exs or anything or seem to have a clue, iwas in shock with the guy who was staring etc I don't know how he couldnt tell why i was behaving that way
and plus its not like the guy staring didn't come up to talk to me to get to know me properly, so thats partly why i was acting like that. if hed made the effort i would put the effort in, i need more than just fluttering the eyes at me lol
Yes. I would immediately change my mind if something crossed my hardline.
I (not me, the guy you're talking about) may figure you have little experience. Honestly I don't care. I'm not going to bend over backwards to spell things out for you. I don't have the time for that. If it's something I think is a common misunderstanding, sure that happens all the time. If it's something I think is overly simple like i hold your car door and you just stand there and go off on me for letting the warm air out or something, I'm not going to take the time to explain i was holding the door for you so you could get in and easily pull up your dress so the hemline doesn't drag on the runner board, I'm just going to go on my merry way.
Ok, well, he came up to talkl to you and get to know you, when he did he decided he'd pass
No i mean he didn't talk.. Barely, said hello, pretty much it. I didn't expect anything after he even said hello, so it was weird y he carried on that behaviour and not even attempt to get to know me
Sorry i dont think i worded it right, nearly falling asleep (lost my unsaved word files im that tired)
What did you guys talk about when he came up to you? how was the conversation?
We play cards, so there isn't much chance to talk anyway but there r things he couldve done i was hoping for and so he didn't come uo to me i dont think, i can't know for sure if he came up to me the last time he stared or not,
But its even weirder he hasn't come back. there's more about that on my profile
But yes, in general i like to think i have some good connections with males, im more of a male orientated person than female, i am able to relax more with guys i dont find attractive than i am with girls, and when there is guys i like and we get on, it feels comfortable at the start. But as i say they completely switch and act like i dont exist. Its like none of it mattered
I play cards. Someone is talking constantly. Have you considered maybe he wasn't into you because you weren't very welcoming?
What are these things he could have done you were hoping for?
I did, try, i made him laugh. And i initially did go over to him at the end of the night but it was more difficult to do that the 2nd time round. he's v popular. I thought the message wouldve shown more of that side but maybe was too late. Im giving him till the next one in two weeks. Going to be super busy with studying either way
Sit at my table, i was hoping hed have mentioned me going to glasgow as i won it in the raffle, and or responding to things id said (he didn't in some cases) I don't know maybe he's not great like i am talking to girls he likes lol
We spoke a lot before this happened, i was probably one of the few who started talking to him when he first came. We were joking around about the game hed beaten me on when he stroked my hand. So its not like we didn't speak before, it just gotten awkward
Honestly he doesn't sound all that interested
Which is y i was so confused y he kept ataring and making weird hand gestures, when he didn't make the effort for the rest of the stuff and hence y im wondering if he was A player
His brothers friend was looking on my stories just after Christmas and they both stopped on the exact same photo (then the brother went and viewed the rest later) which i found odd as i dont think id interacted with the friend before i just think if he wasn't that interested replying to the messages to say thanks and hey it was just a friendly message wouldn't seem so weird?
Esp as i thought we got on at least, even if he wasn't romantically interested
A guy being just a tad over friendly without meaning to i would think would reply, but. A player wouldn't
And his pics gone from whatsapp itself which is weirder
Plus since he's not been back is even weirder... If he came back and didn't behave that way at least id definitely know.
Doesn't seem like he got anything out of it.
If you never hooked up how is he a player? That's the point of the game. To get laid. If he didn't, and walked away, he's just not into you, or he's as socially awkward as you are. That doesn't make him a player, that makes him shy/nervous/incel/something, but not a player.
I think guys can be players even if they dont end up sleeping with the girl. They just got bored trying
To be a player he has to be manipulating you to his benefit. Usually that's sex. You don't seem to be bringing anything to the table for him to be benefitting by. I'm still confused as to how he's a player any more than Tom Cruise is if you had a crush on him when you saw him at his premier.
It felt like he was doing that, esp with his mouth open. Like he was trying to get me into bed, maybe assumed his actions would be enough, might not be very good at it.
Not at the time no, but i had gone to a lot of effort only for him Not to be there after..
Again, i didn't qctively call him a player. I was asking if he sounded like one
He dresses up v smartly in every pic I've seen him in. he's got a high reputation, which again was one of the reasons i was surprised he even remembered what happened. I look like im easy to get but im really not.
no they're just happy, for some weird reason I don't know how people are happy right now lol
Not all of them are players but yes usually a player is charming and smiley.
nope, the most smiley guys ik r actually sweet caring guys
No, unless he uses those traits to constantly flirt with women.
Yup. Don't trust those smiles. They're clearly up to no good.
Yes and I'm one of them. Not all players, are bad ☺️🤣😋
No. But it's probably a disproportionate number.
Just like if a woman is friendly and flirtatious she's probably a player as well.
That's like asking, are girls wearing beautiful dresses a hoe?
Players typically are charming as that's how they hide their true identity and seduce women.
Not all guys are charming players. This might surprise you but some women are like that
Possibly, sadly you will have to spend more time to figure this out.
No, that's absurd
Thats y its a q lol
m why would you think so?
Been told they also flirt with a lot of girls. They also find it easy to get girls
lol... with just a smile?
No touching etc
I don't smile and touch people, no...
I dont mean like anything ott, like a brush or hugging
charming people can be "players" or also "decent" people...
it's not a one-rule-applies-to-all
@NathanDavis if YOU don't smile, who does?
@IslaTheWitch I mean... not while touching people? lol
@NathanDavis you mean not known people?
@IslaTheWitch I don't touch my friends either... not in stranger "player" ways, lmfao
@NathanDavis not even a hug or handshake with friends?
@IslaTheWitch but that's very normal stuff... lol
@NathanDavis I understood that @Monalisa77 wrote about "like a brush or hugging" but maybe it's too late for me to read with understanding...
Yeh nothing sexual or anything
well, with my close best friends... sometimes there's an "brush" or whatever, but it is not a big deal at all
it can be the most normal thing ever
Probably Norman Bates
Not necessarily. They are just cute.
No. They aren’t. A player can be anybody
Some might be.
The smooth talking men, usually are
Nope we are just happy people…
We just got that charm
No..
Not necessarily.
More likely.
Um no
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