I feel like this guy dislikes me because he gets irritated quite easily around me even though he is a rather relaxed sociable guy. With everyone else he is chatty and makes small talk, with me he is standoffish and cold as if I have done something to offend him (I don’t think I have) which is why I think he dislikes me. Even when he has time to show me something he tries to delegate it to someone else to minimise time he has to spend with me.
I got the message and made a wide berth around him but for some reason whenever he hears my voice he looks up or turns around to look at me (when his back is facing me) and sometimes invades my personal space. Why is he so weird with me? I doubt it’s just due to my looks because he is usually nice to all kinds of people and he has no problem chatting with very attractive women either. I’m also not in any kind of competition with him so what could be his problem? Did anyone else have experienced something similar?
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It’s likely you did or said something that made him be this way.
For instance, one time I guess one of my coworkers said good morning to me when she came into our office but I genuinely didn’t hear her. Well, I found out through the grapevine sometime later that she thought I was rude because I never spoke back that day when I genuinely had no idea she said that to me. It made so much sense bc the girl would avoid eye contact with me and seem generally friendly with everyone else but me.
So may be try asking him “hey, I noticed that you seem to treat me a little differently than others. Is there something I did or said to offend you?”. It might feel weird having to initiate this. But I think it can clear the air on something that could have accidentally been done.
Tbh I heard a coworker who was actually nice to me asking another coworker (that doesn’t work with me) why I ignore them or how to handle me ignoring them but I don’t know what they are talking about? I say hello and bye when I see them unless they are in a meeting or busy otherwise. This other coworker has been quite rude to me from the very beginning even though I greeted her and did nothing to her
Now all of a sudden everyone seems to ignore me. I bet that even if I change they would still keep acting offended
Do you think he might act this way because he thinks I’m not competent enough to do my job?
Probably to figure out what made the noise he heard.
Nah he knows
I don't understand why you even care. Just ignore the situation.
Im afraid I’m doing something unknowingly to offend people which could result in a bad job reference
And asking them is also not an option because those people are not confrontational and only tell you what’s wrong when it’s already too late