Do older men fall in love with a woman young enough to be their daughter?

[KezHarris]

Yes

Depends

No

Other

[WhiteSteve]

It’s possible, I suppose.

One of the interesting things about getting older for me is how it affects attraction. When we’re talking about practical DATING, that’s different and separate from who we find physically attractive. You could suggest to me a 20 year old woman, and I’d never in a million years DATE her, but depending on how young or mature she may look, I can still think she’s wicked hot. (Conversely, someone like Ariana Grande just has this perpetually young look, and even though she’s 30 and literally in my socially acceptable “half your age plus seven” standard, but I couldn’t date her because she looks barely legal, lmao. Then other girls look fully grown and you find out they’re like 19 and I’m looking for the nearest shower to get my conscience clean😂

I’ve also noticed my attraction to older women is growing as I age, not even out of necessity, but legitimate appreciation of the way they look. It’s actually crazy to me what I thought your 30s and 40s were when I was in my teens and 20s, I’ve never been more wrong about anything. I thought 25 was the end of the line, lmfao. It depends on how you look after yourself, but a hot woman in her 30s or 40s might be even hotter than a woman in her 20s. Depends what you’re looking for, I guess, but I’m just saying if you suggested that to me in my 20s I’d have thought it was preposterous. But I’ve realized that even though our bodies grow, we still have a child’s brain til like 25, as much as we’d never admit to ourselves at the time.

Anyway, my point I wanted to make was just that I see women, particularly at my gym, most likely in their 20s, and they look great. In a vacuum, I would absolutely hook up with them. It’s more the real-life age dynamic that would deter me in reality, being the older one and not wanting to be/feel manipulative, even by accident, etc. But I’m just saying if we’re talking about passing the physical attraction test, most of them are passing unless they have a particularly young looking face. But they’re absolutely hot, and I’ll probably still think so when I’m 90, I don’t think that part of it changes. But I endeavor to be a pretty good guy in this life, so I think I’ve already had my time with that age group, there are plenty of beautiful women closer to my age if I was out there looking, who I’d actually have things in common with and be in similar life phases. I don’t want to go party out in the woods with 19 year olds, lmao.

It does blow my mind, more for how much of my own time has passed without seeming like it (don’t blink, kids, it’s gone QUICK), about how ADULTS could now be my children. Like that seriously just does not register with me mentally, lmao, I am 25 FOREVER😂 But I’m not even kidding, I can’t believe someone your age could be my child, and I wouldn’t have even been a teen dad. DOES. NOT. COMPUTE.😂😂😂 2001 feels like 8-10 years ago to me.

I don’t know how much of this is my own personal arrested development, haha. But someone my age can EASILY still be attracted to women in that age gap, all though I don’t have kids of my own so I can’t speak on how that might change my perspective on age, or linking that relativity with another woman, the “she could be my daughter!” and having an actual daughter that age as a measuring stick. I just have no concept of that, really.

So the attraction can be there. I personally can’t see myself actually falling in legitimate love with someone that age, like even if I wanted to. I think I’d be perpetually paranoid in that situation that I’d eventually get too old for her liking and she’d leave me for someone younger, so it doesn’t feel like a smart long term play, even if I could make peace with the ethics of it. Some guys are different though, and even target younger women, either as easy cons or trying to recapture old glory or just plain old not having their attractions age along with them. The attraction and love don’t have to be sinister, it could be totally legitimate and well-meaning, yet still misguided.

[Honeybadger2898]

Don’t date younger women if you’re going to complain about being used for money.

[WhiteSteve]

@Honeybadger2898 Yeah, I mean, I don’t think I said anything about money, but I guess it’s fair to say that the average middle aged guy is giving up some ground in the looks department to guys the younger woman’s age, so unless you’re an exception to the rule, I wouldn’t exactly expect to be pulling college girls if I’m delivering pizzas, lmao. I don’t know…. I just wouldn’t go that young in the first place, so it’s a non-issue for me and all I can do is speculate.

[Honeybadger2898]

There are college girls dating men their age who deliver pizzas. It’s not about the money, it’s about older men being in denial of the “relationship” being transactional.

[WhiteSteve]

@Honeybadger2898 You seem oddly intent on making sure older men feel badly about themselves, and I’m not sure why that is or why you think it’s admirable of yourself to do so. No one has a gun to your head to date anyone. If you strictly want to date guys your own age, that’s great, knock yourself out, I wish you all the best. I’d tend to agree the long-term prospects are better with someone closer in age.

But also, Rule #1 of life on Earth is “Don’t ever concern yourself with what other people are doing.” If someone else your age wants to date older guys, it’s none of your business to judge or even pay attention to. Age does not dictate behavior, so many people will have different levels of maturity (not even a bad thing to “not be mature”…. what the hell does that even mean and who is anyone else to decide if someone is or isn’t?). The important thing is finding something that works for YOU.

Also, not for nothing, make sure you keep this exact same energy when an older woman wants to date a younger guy. I was your age once too, and it wasn’t so long ago that I forget what it’s like. I know what I thought your 30s and 40s were when I was 21. Turns out I’ve never been more wrong about anything in my life. You won’t believe me today, but you’ll see when you get here…. and you WILL get here, faster than you can even begin to imagine right now. I was just your age like two weeks ago, lmao, so take it real easy on us olds, you’re gonna be one of us SO SOON it’s going to make your head spin, and I tell you that from first-hand experience and watching all my peers go through it too. It’s very real, as far off and unimaginable as it is to you today. IT’S COMING, AND SOON.

[WhiteSteve]

@Honeybadger2898 Bottom line: life is life, and there aren’t a lot of hard and fast rules. We SAY there are, but there really aren’t. All you can do is get up everyday and live your life. People are going to interact, we’ll have connections from time to time, and once you get out of the forced-school-environments and start living in the real adult world, no one is really checking IDs like that. You’re just a 25-55 year old adult, and I don’t differentiate much after that. We’re all one group: viable adults. I’m not saying age dynamics can’t come into play, I’m just saying that if two people want to date within that range, I might have varying degrees of confidence in a relationship working out, and of course there can be unhealthy situations (this can still happen with no age gap though) but that’s always case-to-case. 55 and 25 would be tough to make work, I wouldn’t expect it to work, but I’m also not going to insert myself into someone else’s business and offer my opinions on it. It’s totally legal and ethical, and I’m confident by 25 that you can make a sound decision for yourself.

Whether or not it’s transactional…case to case, again. But there are just no rules to this. Relationships are allowed to be transactional, whether you or I think they should be or not. I of course agree it’s funny to see a fat, balding middle aged guy throw game at a college girl, lmao, but not all of us are fat and balding. Some of us still look pretty alright. If it’s not for you, no problem, but if it works for someone else, I can’t imagine why that affects you to a point of making agitated comments. Don’t date older men yourself, and then don’t worry if other women do, whether it’s transactional or otherwise. Why is that an issue for you? I wouldn’t do it either, but it’s simply not my business to judge if someone else does.

[Honeybadger2898]

You older men in general seem to need a reality check on why a younger woman would even want to settle with you. I also find it extremely cringe how guys like you think it’s a flex/hard to date a younger woman in the first place. There are plenty of ugly young women to go around. You older man date/marry them than try to brag about it like straight weirdos. Just wish y'all would stop complaining about being used for money when obviously no young woman is going to date an older man otherwise. Goodbye “WhiteSteve”.

[Honeybadger2898]

I can see I struck a nerve with the truth, good. Older men who go after younger women are creeps who deserve to be used for money then thrown away after. Point blank period.

[WhiteSteve]

@Honeybadger2898 Nah, you didn’t really strike a nerve, because I expressed several times that I have no interest in women your age. I don’t even know what you look like but I wouldn’t date you if YOU paid ME. You’re mad at other guys. And even then, I’m just unsure why “mad” is your chosen emotional response. It seems easier and less emotionally draining to just say “I’m not into older guys, so I won’t pursue any, and if one pursues me, I’ll just politely decline.” I have no issue with you not wanting to date older men. I don’t even know why we’re getting up in arms because I see very little of it in life. Like outside of the celebrity world, most people seem to be within 5-10 years of each other, which isn’t weird at all, and it becomes increasingly less weird as you get older. At 21 you still have the mind of a child. I’m not trying to be insulting, I mean biologically, your pre-frontal cortex hasn’t fully developed yet. You’re also still in those school years where a couple years seems like a huge difference. 18 and 13 is a felony, lmao. I’m almost 45 and my lady is almost 40…is that weird? No. Was that weird to you when she was 22 and I was 27, when we first met? I don’t know what your answer is, but if it’s not weird in our 40s, it’s not weird in our 20s.

I don’t know what your experiences are. Maybe creepy old guys are hitting on you disrespectfully and that’s why you feel this way, I don’t know. If that’s what’s happening a lot, then I’m sorry that’s the case. But if some older guy just tries to chat you up respectfully, you’re being rude to be disrespectful to him. Totally fine to turn him down, but he’s not doing anything wrong in trying to talk to another adult. Maybe in your specific case it’s a little borderline, 18-22 is a little iffier to me, and under 21 really feels like a for sure no-go zone.

[WhiteSteve]

@Honeybadger2898 But also remember people usually have no idea how old you are when they approach you, they might think you’re 30 for all you know, they just think you’re attractive and you don’t appear to be a child, so it’s cool to shoot a shot. I don’t know why it’s cringe, it’s just an adult talking to an adult. I don’t really dice adults up into sub-groups too much, you’re either grown up or you aren’t. Guys who date younger women as a flex are no better than women dating older guys for their money. I’m just saying not everyone with an age gap is dating younger or older because they have some kind of issue or want to show off or juice someone for their paycheck. Legitimate feelings could exist between two souls who just happen to have not been born supper close to one another, which can present challenges, but that’s someone else’s journey, not mine or yours to be critical of from the sideline.

[DJB72]

Why not? If she's mature enough.

Dick van Dyke's wife is in her 40s and he's over 90.

Don't confuse "age" with "maturity". I know some incredibly mature teenagers - guys and girls - that at 51 I can discuss literally anything with. Most of them have some serious shit in early childhood that they've had to grow up fast because of. I also know some seriously immature people - again, guys and girls - my age and older. Most haven't had to deal with any real trauma or face consequences. It's impossible to have a conversation with them.

So yes, older guys can fall hard for a girl half their age or more. Just like younger girls can actually be in love with the old guy they're with.

[Honeybadger2898]

Only creepy men would say something like this

[DJB72]

@Honeybadger2898 Thanks for making my point that "age" and "mature" aren't synonyms. What a delightfully "mature" response to a serious answer.

That called "sarcasm". Grown-ups use it to make a point sometimes.

I know enough couples who've got an age gap over ten years - not only where the wife is younger, but also where the husband is, who've celebrated 30+ years together. Last year I went to the funeral of a lady who was 90 and had celebrated her Golden anniversary earlier in the year. Her husband is 70.

I'm not saying it's every time, I'm saying it can happen. You'll learn that as you grow up and find out if you have to use the term "body count" to describe the number of people you slept with that if it's over 5 the odds are very small you'll have a tenth anniversary.

Enjoy your cats.

[Honeybadger2898]

“Enjoy your cats” says the 51 year old single man who can’t get a woman and creeps on younger women. Lol you older men are so delusional and unattractive.

[Honeybadger2898]

Women choosing to be with cats over unattractive older men like you isn’t the flex you think it is. Keep coping though, enjoy being alone and SEXLESS. Old man.

[DJB72]

This 51 year old guy who just celebrated 20 years marriage happily invites you to "Fuck Around and Find Out" as my generation lives out daily.

My sex life is just fine thanks.

"Little girl". Enjoy your rude awakening when it hits you.

[DJB72]

And what a surprise, the little girl blocked me 🤣🤣🤣

[TenderFantasy]

Probably to feel "young again". Some men never want to grow up and being with a child that's like their child's age is a reminder of that.

Plus some men only think with their downstairs. ... Or they want ten kids and so that woman will give him PLENTY of that stuff. It's really a losing proposition for her though because he could die sooner than her and she will be widowed earlier than normal and left with those kids. If the dude's not rich, she's screwed really, up until the children grow up and get their own jobs and get out of the house.

It was never real love. You can never truly connect with someone THAT much younger than you I think. Unless you yeah, have mommy and daddy issues (on the side of the younger person).

[hahahmm]

While I am not personally interested in young ones I have to object to this concept of love being something women have a monopoly on defining. From a male POV if we're willing to take a bullet for you that is worth more than the 20 other definitions of love women will come up with when asked what love is. 99.9% of women aren't taking a bullet for their man yet want to lecture us about what love is. That said... how many old (er) dudes would take a bullet for a 20 something? Dunno. But some I imagine.

[zeitgeist057]

"It was never real love", sounds like something someone who has no idea what "real love" is, would say.

[zeitgeist057]

(quoting myself): "Different stages, different interests, nothing in common, life experiences, yada yada: Funny enough, my younger girlfriends and I have had lots in common, here is a list of things I've mutually enjoyed with younger women: Cooking, swimming, photography, sex, massage, travel, scuba diving, snorkeling, hiking, volleyball, bdsm, shibari, theater, music, cartoons, movies, shows, dancing, alcohol and other recreational drugs, hanging with friends, talking, kissing, playing board games, playing video games, wrestling, exploring, backpacking, camping, road trips, petting other people's dogs, going out for coffee, volunteering at the animal shelter, filming, creating art, visiting family, building something together, riding motorcycles, oral sex, cuddling, cutting each other's hair or shaving each other or other personal grooming hygiene stuff, manicures, pedicures, facial scrubs or masks, going to amusement parks, going to the fair, museums, ballet, opera, wine tasting, whiskey tasting, playing billiards, sailing, surfing, showering together, and heaps more. Get the idea? You don't have to be a certain age to enjoy life, I'm pretty sure most people reading that list could relate whether they were 18 or 80. "

[Asad1ONE1]

Ironically, Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD) is most commonly found in women.

So if anyone is to "only think with their downstairs", or be a sex addict, it's more likely that it will be a woman.

[ZamerZ]

From personal experience, men in their mid to late 50ies seem to be very attracted to me for some reason. And they are usually the ones who chat me up and are also quite eloquent, funny and friendly compared to guys my age during our first encounters.

[Honeybadger2898]

That’s not a good thing

[ZamerZ]

@Honeybadger2898 and now, where is the difference between them chatting me up and a bratty guy 8 years younger than me, or someone my age who just wants to get laid? Please elaborate your ageist take, I'm thrilled to hear it.

[Honeybadger2898]

Oh sorry, didn’t know you were just trying to cope with not being able to attract men your own age. Stick with the unattractive 50 year olds no other women want ☺️✌️.

[ZamerZ]

@Honeybadger2898 interesting how you had time to type a good take out and think bout it, and still decided to post this instead without making any argument at all.

[Honeybadger2898]

Argument? You’re a weirdo who’s trying to feel better about only being able to attract creepy older ugly men. You literally referred to men younger than you as bratty and men same age as “only wanting to get laid”. It doesn’t get more embarrassing than that. Get a life maybe and stop trying to make dating men who can be your dad seem cool? It’s not.

[ZamerZ]

@Honeybadger2898 and now how did you deduct all of those assumptions from a statement that merely said it is possible for older men to feel attracted to younger women, thus answering the question of OP? It says a lot how you conveniently overlooked the fact that I am an adult woman and, while I could still be young enough to be their daughter, it isn't the same like "creepy old men - as you called random guys you don't know - chatting up someone who's not even out of puberty yet like you compared to me. But that comparison would have been to hard to write out, I suppose.

[Sour-rose]

When you say "young enough to be their daughter"... i think as kids. Which is... eewww. But in their 20s... o yeah... for certain.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have dated a few women who were significantly younger than me. I have dated women who were older, but I have also dated women who were 9, 13, and 17 years younger than me. In general, the better relationships were the ones in which we were close in age, but in April, I am marrying the woman who is 9 years younger than me.

[HighValue]

Sure. Many men that want relationships (not the hook up type of men) want a partner with stuff in common. When it comes to men in my generation that enjoy table top RPGs, more complex board games, video games, and fantasy and scifi genre stuff, most other women from my generation never liked those things, but women 15 + years younger from other generations do, and that makes them more desirable as a partner.

[Anonymous]

Yes, Unlike women, Men have the ability to reproduce until they die. So its not uncommon for for men in their 50's to be after women in their 20's.. On that same token, its not 100% mens fault that you see this, there are literally millions of young women who go after men old enough to be their fathers...

[CozyCoffin]

Yes. It happens. It's called a spring-fall or a spring-winter romance depending on the age difference. I see no fault with that. No matter what, they both are free to pursue once they're of age.

[Honeybadger2898]

You see no fault because you a creep who goes after younger women

[NathanDavis]

it happens

but a man can also date a woman old enough to be his mother...

or around the same age that could be their sister

but these aren't... lol

[RebelinSteel]

It happens both ways. The mix of relationship types and age ranges are often fairly complex.

[andreasderjuengere]

They may think so.

But our daughters know it better :D

[4ngelic]

some do and some dont. but i think most dont though or at least if they do they dont act on it

[AviatorTom]

That's not love, it's lust. Older men fantasize about younger women, but most don't act on it.

[Honeybadger2898]

A lot of older men are creepy and annoying.

[Anonymous]

This is not love, but lust most of the times.. I don't see what an older man can possibly have in common, with someone young enough to be his daughter, other than physical attraction

[bowenw]

There are no rules. The heart wants what the heart wants.

[supercutebutt]

Heart = Penis

[bowenw]

@supercutebutt 😀😅

[Nice222]

@supercutebutt 👍💯

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@supercutebutt ahaha, spot on

[Anonymous]

If they're old enough to have a daughter in her 20s, then yes. Guys never stop focusing on hot girls in their 20s.

[Honeybadger2898]

Most older men don’t “focus on hot girls in their 20s”. You are one of the few creepy older men that do. Stop generalizing every man with you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Honeybadger2898 I suspect if you had a look at the internet search history of a random sample of men of all ages, you'd see how completely wrong you are.

[Honeybadger2898]

Reality shows you how wrong you are, why keep denying it? It’s cringe. You are 36-45 and focused on 20 year olds because you’re a fucking weirdo. Again stop trying to group all men with you. If you said this type of trash in person you would get checked by other older men real quick. Most men care about more than just a woman being “hot” ESPECIALLY older men. Stop the coping, you’re a creep and single for a reason.

[Honeybadger2898]

Most men are not looking up “hot 20 year olds” in their search history lol, that’s only your creepy ass.

[Opinion Owner]

@Honeybadger2898 LMFAO! Wow--you're really clueless! Why do you think you see the women you see advertising in car commercials and beer commercials? Why do you suppose the women in those ads don't look like the fat chicks in Dove commercials? Could it POSSIBLY be because that's what men of all ages (especially ages that have the money to purchase a new car or truck) might find appealing? Ever watch an action movie? Or look at a men's magazine? Do you learn anything from observing reality or do you just need to make up a bunch of bullshit that fits your ideological framework?

[Honeybadger2898]

I’m not reading any of that. You’re a creep who doesn’t represent most older men nor do you know most older men to even say what they want/like. Keep coping about being a disgusting creep though.

[MarkDown]

I'm going to say NO for me at this point. Since I'm only 21 that idea would be disturbing.

[Avicenna]

Absolutely, especially if she's as charming as you!

[exitseven]

I would never do this. It would be gross. But guys do it.

[Nice222]

I always have gone for women older than me. But I like to talk with younger women sometimes. It just reminds me of my younger days.

[Fireguy17]

It happens, but no I wouldn't.
You really would not have much in common.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, for sure... Hahaha!!!

[RedInnocent68]

I think they think they do. It’s more likely infatuation.