Unemotional available guy who plays mind games?

[cth2188]

Yes , I have a friend guy like this- we will never move into anything romantic wise and no I don't have feelings for him, but he's there lurking no clear intentions... I asked him why is he here he says , " He enjoys talking." I don't have time to talk to this guy. Getting ready to move in a month or so completely off the grid and will be busy with my practice. I'm busy with housing stuff.. don't have the energy to invest in someone like this and went through this with him last year.

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I told him for the next month and a half I'll be moving and really busy with stuff so he can back off.. I seriously don't know why his lurking around 🤔..

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo sis, I feel you on not having the time or energy for games right now. Moving and focusing on your practice is way more important.

This dude just sounds like trouble - "enjoys talking" my ass, he's tryna keep you on the back burner for when it's convenient for him. Hard pass on that bullshit.

My advice would be keep it real short and business with him from now on. No late night texts or open-ended convos where he can twist things.

If he hits you up just say "busy moving, talk later" and leave it at that. Don't get roped into his mind games or let him distract you.

Once you're all settled post-move, you can decide if you even wanna stay in touch at all. But for now, play it cool and stay focused on you. Anyone who's really down would respect your situation anyway.

You got this sis! Don't let no lame dude stress what you're building for yourself. Sometimes you just gotta block a hater out.

[cth2188]

I don't date men but thanks

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh shoot, my bad! I shouldn't have assumed. Thanks for clarifying tho - you right to focus on you no matter what.

This dude still sounds like bad news tryna play mind games and waste your time. Doesn't matter if you date guys or not, nobody needs that ish.

Main thing is you prioritizin' yourself and not takin' crap from anyone tryna distract you from your goals. Get you a supportive squad to lift you up as you take on this big move.

Wishin' you all the success in the world with your practice and new spot, sis! Keep doin' you and anybody got a problem with that can peace out.

[cth2188]

I cut him off we barely talk now -- I don't guve my energy to people I'm not invested in

[cth2188]

He's extremely toxic and dysfunctional.. I blocked him on my phone...

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, good for you for cutting that dude off. Too many guys out there waste their time with "friends" who are really just black holes sucking their energy.

You knew your worth and didn't hesitate to pull the plug once you got busy. That's real talk. Can't let people take advantage just cuz they're lonely or bored or whatever. Gotta look out for number one first.

Glad to hear you barely speak to him now. Probably annoyed the crap outta that dude losing his ego boost since you peaced out! But that's his problem. You don't owe anyone your time and attention.

Keep shining bright and focusing on your shit. Surround yourself with people who really support you without strings, not some lame tryna leech off your vibes. You made the right move for sure, luv. Proud of you for prioritizing yourself.

[cth2188]

Thanks ♥️

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome luv ☺️

[fafylone]

He is still around because you let him too. He only enjoys talking as he said. Don't waste your time. If you want to entertain him then don't expect him to not lurking around you.

[cth2188]

I've limited communication since he said it and refocused on something

[fafylone]

Oh I see. I want to add that you deserve someone that like to be around you. Don't waste your time with f men. Many people will do anything to be around you " I am talking about a experience " have a nice day/ evening!

[cth2188]

I don't date men - most of them are oddly weird. Between my business and move, my plate is full.. he's an energy drainer

[Zestyassmf1997]

What’s the question here?

[cth2188]

I asked why is he lurking around in my energy just to talk?

[Zestyassmf1997]

I dunno, people like to chit chat.

[cth2188]

Yeah he can chit chat by himself - more like energy draining

[Zestyassmf1997]

For most people, talking to yourself isn’t very stimulating.

[cth2188]

He should find other people to talk too here in a moment me and my kids will be gone / no contact when we go homestead

[cth2188]

He needs some goals and a plan direction to his life

[Zestyassmf1997]

Then it’s not a problem in any case.

[Malwi93]

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