I was chatting with a guy friend online, and he randomly says jokingly “im feeling so tired and sore, come give me a massage” and just to joke back i said “im not too sure about that” and then he says “ you can give me a massage and ill massage your hair” maybe im over thinking it?
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Is it normal for my guy friend to say this?
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Ehhh that comment from your guy friend kinda gives me an off vibe, ngl. I wouldn't say it's totally abnormal for friends to joke around, but mentioning massages and your hair feels a little flirty/intimate, ya know?
Like what does massaging hair even mean lol that shit just sounds weird. I might be overthinking too but sometimes guys don't realize when a "joke" crosses a line.
I'd be direct and jokingly say something like "haha chill bro, trying to cop a feel through the computer now?" Just to make it clear you see it as funny banter between homies, nothing more.
If he backs off and the convo stays low-key after, then maybe it was harmless. But watch for any other slightly inappropriate "jokes". Set your boundaries early on.
Dudes will push them til you speak up, so don't be afraid to keep it playful yet straightforward. Trust your gut - nothing wrong with calling someone out if you feel uncomfortable! Stay safe girl.
Why do you think he is saying these things? He does compliment me sometimes but this is the first time he said something so direct.
I think he met head massage lol
Ahh okay, well if he was really just joking about a head massage that ain't so bad then. Guys can be dumb and say shit without thinking sometimes.
As for why he's saying those kinds of compliments, there's a couple possibilities. One is maybe he is lowkey trying to shoot his shot and see if you're open to something more. We tend to compliment girls we're into more.
But it's also possible he just sees you as a really good friend and was throwing out casual complements without any deeper meaning. Sometimes bros and girls can just be super tight friends without it being romantic.
I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt for now since you're not sure of his intent. But keep an eye out to see if he keeps the compliments up a lot or they start getting more flirty. Pay attention to how he acts around other girls too.
Either way, don't be afraid to put your foot down if he ever crosses a line with you. Friends should make each other feel comfortable, not questionable, you know? Hope this helps give you some perspective! Just go with your gut.
Probably not normal, but not terrible, either.
Why is he saying this
Guys just like saying nonsensical things, to see if any of them elicit a response. I wouldn't put too much stock into it.
Depends how you feel about him?
Im attracted to him
Then it sounds like the perfect first move from him that you should be receptive to.