Is he into me or is he just using me?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy 6 months ago, we met on facebook we started texting, soon we met each other on person and we had sex which was wonderful he treat me right and cuddled which was so cute. Yet he keeps texting me UNTIL NOW, we text each other everyday. I even slept at his house, when I post a story he is always one of the first ones to see it, he commented on most of my posts. However whenever we see eachother we always have sex, and always wants me to spend all night with him until the sun rises. He just broke up with his ex which It might be one of the reasons why he won't want to date me cause he is afraid or probably not ready to move on. However he is just WEIRD why is he keeping up with me, and even dared himself to waste his time with me texting me 24/7.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's a tricky situation you've found yourself in. On one hand, like I said, the constant texting, commenting on your stuff, and wanting to spend the night together could definitely mean he's really into you. But at the same time, since he just got out of a relationship, it's hard to know if he's really ready to fully commit to something new yet.

Some things that raise a little red flag for me - if he's always just wanting to hook up and never actually takes you on a real date, that makes it seem like he might just be in it for the physical side of things. And the fact that it's been 6 months of this back-and-forth communication and hanging out mostly at his place could be a sign that he doesn't want anything too serious. Guys are usually pretty quick to make things official if they really like a girl.

I know it's probably confusing not having a clear answer on where you guys stand. It sucks to feel like you might be being used. If I were you, I think I'd have another serious talk with him. Let him know that the mixed signals are bothering you and you need to understand what his intentions are. Ask him straight up if he sees a potential relationship happening between you two down the line, or if he's just looking to keep things casual. Pay attention to what he says but also watch his actions - those will tell you a lot too.

Going forward, you may want to set some boundaries for yourself as well. Like don't just be available whenever he wants to hook up - make plans with your friends more too. And don't get too invested until he's able to give you a clear answer on what he wants. I know it's not easy, but trying to protect your heart here is important too. Hope this gives you some more things to think about with the situation. Let me know if any of it helps - I'm always here if you need someone to talk to!

[Asker]

I know its really confusing and yes this guy just keeps me going up and down cause he is just not clear. Thats why Im afraid to keep wasting my time some dude, and thank you for your advice.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh dating is so confusing sometimes, I feel your frustration! This dude really has you on an emotional rollercoaster by not being clear about what he wants.

My advice would be don't let yourself get too invested until he figures his stuff out. Keep your options open - maybe start chatting with other guys too so you're not hanging all your hopes on this one dude.

If I were you, I'd try one more serious talk to get answers. Tell him straight up you like him but can't keep wasting your time on a "maybe" if he's not sure about wanting a real relationship. Pay attention to his response - is he evasive or does he commit to giving it a real try?

If he's still vague, I'd start slowing things down with him. Respond to texts less, be "busy" when he wants to hook up. Make it clear you won't just be an option anymore. Hopefully that'll prompt him to either step up or you can fully move on.

You seem cool and you don't need this drama. Keep your confidence up - if he's really feeling you, he'll sort his head out. But don't wait around forever wondering where you stand. You'll find someone better who won't play games!

[teamvic]

Hmmm so he's fucking you but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you?

I'm these text conversations, how much is he into talking to you? Does he reply and talk with interest or is he just replying. Also how often does he bring up sex?

[Asker]

We have been texting since the day we started talking which was 6 months ago, we had 3 months texting, then we stopped and the he came back this month and again we texted 24/7.

I can't really tell if he seems interested, in my opinion if he wasn't I dont think a guy will waste their time texting you 24/7, if they dont want it, they dont chase. And about the sex thing he never tells me to send him nudes, he NEVER talks to me sexually, he literally treats me normal, yea sometimes he is flirty but never in a sexy way.

[teamvic]

Then he probably likes you