Guy has all selfies🤳 on Dating app, is thata red flag?

[Anonymous]

I find it slightly odd that all hos 6 pictures are of himself taking a selfie. I wonder because most men have candid photos, and photos with friends 🤔

Also he asked me out right away, which is not an issue. I actually prefer to meet sooner than later.

Thoughts on all selfies?

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+1 y

Guys listen, when a girl sees selfies on your profile, here are her thoughts:

He is taking selfies. He must have no friends.

He is taking selfies. He must not do interesting things with his life.

He is taking selfies. Isn´t he aware that it is "not cool" for guys to do that? He must not aware of society, therefore a loser.

[WhiteSteve]

So…. I have so many questions about this😂

What man has candid photos of himself? I don’t even mean that like “ooga-booga, I’m too tough to take pictures”, but like….. you ladies know we aren’t like you, right? Ever picture of myself is me holding a large bass that I caught, which apparently is also inexplicably a faux-pas on dating apps….. I just don’t get what ladies expect here😂 Have you met guys before? We don’t do the whole “taking pictures” thing, I wouldn’t be caught dead posing in public, lmfao. I just can’t even imagine a scenario where a candid photo would ever be taken of me….. am I supposed to ask the homies to do that for me? Yikes, lmao. Might be better off single😂😂😂

Like isn’t the point just to see what the person looks like? Mission accomplished, so why are we grading for style points and holding it against someone if they don’t have a professional photo of themselves flying off a ski jump or something, lmao

[Asker]

Okay, yes I agree men are usually not like women and want to document all outings with a grouo photo. Heck I just did one this Sat at spin class. Many many guys has the fish photo, thing is your with someone... that's my point of a slight concern. He's 37, I'm assuming he has friends. Guys don't have to take a action photo shot. It is nice to see you have an active life outside of home, understand now? I wonder why he doesn't have photo that a friend, family or even an ex took. He is attractive, I've seen some profiles where the guy is not as handsome and all photos are a selfie..

[WhiteSteve]

Gotcha…. well…I mean, I’m 44, and I’d say the same when I was 37…. I’m not really “going out with the boys” anymore at our age. These guys are dads, lmao, we aren’t going to the club. I could show you a picture of me in that setting, but it’s going to be from 20+ years ago, another faux-pas. I’m envisioning myself in the scenario, and after 30, fun times just kind of stopped due to life, so I’m not even in a position to have these pics taken. And if I do get out to the bar or to a ballgame or whatever, the last thing on any of our minds is “omg, let’s get a picture!” I just played in a special outdoor hockey game last night, we had a group photo before the game, but we were t given a copy. It’s probably on the hockey league’s Instagram, but I have a pretty firm “no social media” policy for myself in life, so I can’t even see it😂 This is the closest thing I do to that.

Anyway, not trying to give you a hard time, haha, just saying to be understanding that I think a lot of guys just don’t really have pictures of themselves because taking them isn’t a part of ur lifestyle. Like there are probably fewer than 100 photos of me in existence after 44 years😂 And the older I get, the less I take them.

[Asker]

Yes 😅 never use old photos. I've had a couple men do that and they actually looked fine as an older man, it was a turn off to think I was meeting thr younger version..

Really late 30s men's active lives change? I guess if you have the $ to invest in hobbies and meet casual friends. Hockey is cool I bet a women would love to see a picture of you dressed up in your gear 😅 women love uniforms, don't ya know..

[WhiteSteve]

Haha, yeah, and I don’t know about their entire profiles, if they were ALL younger pics, that would be deceitful…. but I wouldn’t necessarily assume the worst there either, like the guys might not have many suitable pics that are more recent in some cases. If one of my friends was like “hey, can you come out with me and take some candid photos of me doing stuff in different outfits?”….. I’ll help my boy out, but he’ll also get DESTROYED the entire time, and I’m a nice guy😂 “Lookin’ FIERCE over there, Gisele!”💀💀💀

Yeah, I could use a hockey pic in my case. But my action shots would have me in a helmet/cage, so you couldn’t even see my face, haha

[Asker]

😅🤣 Men are pretty brutal to eachother in some ways. That was funny!

In other news I accepted his date offer and his photos are attractive, so I guess I'll just wait in see. 😁

[WhiteSteve]

Women can be mean behind friends’ backs. Us fellas do it right to our buddies’ faces, because we’re true friends😂

That’s good, give him a shot👍 Good luck!

[Asker]

O yes, women hurt other women more psychological. We have thr choice of competitive girlfriend or a guy friend.

[WhiteSteve]

Lmao, that sounds so exhausting. By now I’m just accustomed to walking into a room of buddies and being greeted like “whattup, f—gg—t!”🤷‍♂️😂 One of my hockey teammates wanted to compliment my sneakers about a month ago and he was all iffy about just being like “nice kicks”, because he already had liked my t-shirt and didn’t want to compliment me twice. Men are not OK😂

[Asker]

Who took your bathroom photo? Profile pic. What does washed up Ai Bundy vibes mean?

[WhiteSteve]

I think I propped my phone up on something on my sink and set the timer on it, haha. That was my old apartment, I hate the cheap plastic shower curtain rod in the background🤦‍♂️😂

The jersey I’m wearing was the one I wore when I made my old semi-pro (American) football league’s all-star team. I was probably in my late 20s when I earned that honor, and I’m probably like 41 at the time of the picture. I hadn’t played football in 7 or 8 years at that time, and it had been even longer since I made the all-star team, lmfao.

Al Bundy was the main character from a popular 80s/90s American TV sitcom called “Married With Children.” Al is an ex-high school football hero, but on the show, he suffered a career ending injury before going to college, got a girl from his high school pregnant, and now he’s stuck with her, miserable, and he’s a huge loser, he works in a shoe store and gets almost no respect from anyone. Most of the show is related to his pathetic life and all of the hardships he deals with, and he wishes things had gone differently for himself. But he’ll be quick to remind you that he “scored four touchdowns for Polk High in the City Championship” back in his heyday.

So my PFP is a joke, that I’m showing off memorabilia from when I was a young athlete, and now I’m a middle aged guy whose best years are probably behind him, yet I still cling to them for dear life😂 Don’t know where you’re from or if English is your first language, but in America, “washed up” just means your time is over, you’ve lost your skills.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re asking others on their personal opinion on a guy’s dating profile that YOU are looking at… that right there is a red flag.




You should date someone because YOU want to, not because many others want too as well. That’s called compatibility

[laly520]

not red flag
why would he post his friends on dating app

[serious]

I don't see that as a red flag, yes it is odd though

[Asker]

Yea, odd could easily become a red flag

[serious]

Yes odd can also become a red flag. True.

[Anonymous]

Could be a guy a little bit on the feminist side or Maybe he proud of his self. So you're saying you never took any selfie of yourself.

[Asker]

Yes, I've taken a selfie. That's not the point. I wonder if has friends, and a social life. Most guys ln the sites have pictures him hiking, a wedding, holding a nephew and such. Some even delete out an ex and use that photo.

[Opinion Owner]

Why would it be fair for a woman to do it? But not for a guy. maybe he doesn't want to put his friends on blast and what's the focus is on him. Women take selfies a couple of times a week.

[Opinion Owner]

You add other people into your selfies

[Asker]

I have 2 selfies on my dating app the other 4 are others taking the photo. It's okay for a man to take a selfie, just not all 6 photos!!! That's odd

[Asker]

I have no pics of selfies with others. I have a variety of hobbies and interests where others took it

[Opinion Owner]

you would feel better if he had different backgrounds or his hobbies or things he likes?

[Opinion Owner]

Well don't you have to write a description

[Asker]

Yes 💯. A women likes to his what kind of friends he has. That shows a lot of who he is. Hobbies and is he close to family, etc.. women are thinking long term strategy usually. Some men are more short term gain, in is she hot 😅

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I see. Are you hot?

[Asker]

I'd say I'm cute which is 🔥

[Opinion Owner]

Can we see

[Asker]

Can't post a pic. I'm incognito

[Opinion Owner]

Please. Can I follow u

[BarryLiverstone]

You said he’s attractive and he asked you out. Go ahead and see if you vibe on the date.

[Asker]

Yep. Thanks buddy

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome friend