Depends, is he cheating or jacking off? If you have a problem with him getting off to other women.
Try to remember "Every man you've ever met thought about having sex with you."
Basically, I'd just ask what his intention is, but I don't have any real experience with men, only women.
One thing is true independent of gender: Once a cheater; always a cheater. if you catch them, then don't try to patch things up, it's over, and that person no longer cares enough to go to you when they want some, not because anything has changed, but some people just aren't mentally wired for one on one relationship commitment..
You shouldn't even talk about it if you get proof, but don't talk about it unless you have proof... That's quite the pickle. :3
Raise up the drawbridge, and lower the portcullis, and do a 180 south, if he says he ain't fapping to other girls.
i've kinda been in the same situation with my current boyfriend but few things to consider:
- you've only been on a few dates, don't consider you guys committed and that all his options are closed just because he's met you and it's the same for you^^
- are they models/verified people or actually people he may have encountered?
- but i wouldn't worry much and i wouldn't suggest asking him as it shows that you've been through his followers,, maybe mention about the topic have him open up and tell you
I don’t think so. He most likely followed these people before you two met and while he was single. Honestly, a lot of single guys do that. Some guys in relationships even do that. But if you two get more serious or already kind of are and it bothers you a lot just tell him you wouldn’t appreciate him following those people. I’d also do this right before getting in a relationship or right when you do just in case his response is “I’m not unfollowing them” you can leave and didn’t waste so much time.
I asked a question similar to this before!! Is it like Instagram model girls? If so I wouldn’t worry, it’s not like he’s gonna meet them ya know? Every guy likes hot girls it’s normal ya know? I as well follow many hot ig boy models. I don’t think it’s that serious ya know? It depends on the guy.
I wouldn't be bothered so much if they were models - but these are all mostly girls that live in our city that happen to be really pretty.
Yeah I don’t take men like that seriously. To me they have a wondering eye even if they are just “Instagram models” lol
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Most likely he is maintaining a group of potential next-girlfriends. The odds that you will settle & marry each other are Very low, and he realizes that. So, rather than start from scratch when you most-likely eventually break up, he has some girls lined-up to say hello to. I can tell you from experience that when a man meets a woman and legitimately falls in love with her on the level of marriage... He will most likely (not always) take steps to distance himself from those other women. Why? Because he's in love and doesn't want to jeopardize the relationship. I do understand that you would prefer that he feel this way for you now, but you certainly can't dictate or control someone else's feelings.
I’ll say it plainly. Ask him. Be honest. He may be playing you, he may not. It might be a case that he has a lot of female friends. This happened to me in high school because the guysawere afraid of me due to my stature, so I had a lot more girl friends than guys. Don’t assume anything, and don’t worry too much because you’ll get paranoid and make a final judgement before you ask him. Also, to all of the guys who are just saying’he is playing you’ you are never going to sleep woth this woman, and I know that’s what you want to become of your answer. So shut up.
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It may just mean that he finds them attractive, but all men like attractive women, so I don't find that a big deal. How the dates went is of much greater significance.
Would you feel better if he followed ugly girls? or guys?
Nah. I imagine he, like most people, likes to look at things on Instagram that bring him pleasure and make him happy. And if you, too, bring him pleasure and make him happy, you can be sure you compare with the girls on Instagram. Moreover, he is DATING you and only looking at these girls online, so you clearly won, here.
Unless you see any red flags for cheating, I'd just take it as a bit of knowledge of his tastes and interests.
If you suspect he might be planning on cheating, do what you gotta do to keep yourself happy, you come first.
Every man's dream is to have a hot chick. The fact he follows them on Instagram didn't mean new can afford any (not talking about money here) he is likely fantasizing, and he grown with porn since his 14s. Most man gets average and ugly girls anyways, some because no choice some because they believe they are better than hotties that have so much attention they don't give a f about any man until they are 30 and become "ugly". I think you have nothing to worry about unless he is really handsome and smart chick magnet. Let him live in the fantasy, just suck his cock regularly and he is yours forever
Most of the accounts I follow on Instagram are hot girls. They're just pleasing to look at. That doesn't mean I would be less loyal, that doesn't make me a cheater, I don't masturbate to them.
If you haven't even been dating long enough for him to give you his Instagram account than you shouldn't worry about it. After you have been dating for a while and if it still bothers you than talk to him about it. But don't just assume that because he follows hot girls that makes him less loyal and less worthy of your time.
If you're looking for a reason to not trust him than maybe he's not the one for you. You should think about all the positive things that you have to offer and worry less about girls on the internet. He is going out with you for a reason. It's probably a good reason
I guess following is fine.
Unnecessary and maybe shallow but not a red flag.
I mean he probably has been following them before he met you.
So I'd say don't jump to conclusions.
Also it depends on how long you two have been together...
If it's only 2-3 months then I think you should give him more time and see if he is actually serious about you.
And maybe one day you can ask him about it and see his response.
If he doesn't think it's a big deal and has no problem unfollowing them or stays calm... I think it's fine.
If he overreacts, end it.
I would definitely take a step back and look at the bigger picture. You know a player by now. Of he is good, of course you guys really hot it off.
Your really into him after a handful of dates. Maybe don't let him get in so fast. Untill you can figure out if he is like "that" as in knows how to get girls to feel real close with him with all his "friends" on Instagram. Or maybe he just sends friend requests to all the hot females he finds that live in the city. Just my 2C's... You might want to be a little more cautious with handing your heart over to someone so fast and easy.
I hate to see anyone get there heart ripped out.
Funny thing, my Instagram follows are mostly hot girls. I barely use Instagram, so my follow list is mostly built from people who have said "hey, check out my IG." Turns out that's mostly aspiring models. Since they bring this up in person (at bars, etc.) they are indeed mostly local to me.
Another very likely source is Tinder. Half the profiles there just say "I don't really use Tinder, check me out on Instagram." If, before you got together, he was following those directions... yep, bunch of local hot girls.
Bottom line tho, just ask him.
Gotta say great bloody profile picture, and good insite on the opinion but great picture first and foremost.
since you've only been on a handful of dates he probs doesn't feel like he's committed to you but it's best to avoid guys who do stuff like that before u catch feelings because they usually end up talking to/seeing multiple girls at the same time anyway
There’s a difference between having a couple of highly attractive people on your following list but if their list contains nothing but highly attractive people aside from friends and family then yeah... I’m not sure how long I’d last.. and they live in the same city?
At the end of the day I guess it depends on your self esteem and trust in this guy but that’s a red flag for me
If it bothers you, then maybe he's not the guy for you?
Being cheated on sucks. But just because he likes some instagram models page doesn't mean he's cheating. But at the same time, you have to make the decisions that are best for you.
If it really bugs you, then absolutely it must be a dealbreaker for you then.
Following hot girls who show off their bodies means he has an appreciation for the opposite sex. Most guys will look if you let us. What can I say we are visual creatures! But if he knows the women and it's not work related, I would just ask him point blank about it before you get too deep into the relationship. There is nothing wrong with having a conversation and if there is, that is a Red Flag which is okay to walk away from.
Maybe it's from the past. My best mate follows a ton of hot chicks but that's from when he started his Instagram and his reply to why he still follows them is that it would be too much work to unfollow all of them.
I don't know if you should ask him about it, it would be kinda stalkerish..
Eh as a guy I've done the same. It usually doesn't mean much or anything but sometimes it can. It can mean he might be unloyal due to looking at or thinking about others. It may also mean he doesn't value relationships very much most times and just likes to mess around
if he knows some of those girls and he talks to them. I see on tinder most girls have their Instagram linked to their tinder maybe he finds those girls Instagram profiles on there. you don't feel comfortable with him following those girls, you should really talk to him about it. that is a red flag. he sounds to me like a fuckboy or a asshole player. that is what I think about him. I could be wrong.
if he was following just rando cute girls i'd say could be he just likes looking at hot girls but since they're in your city thats a bit shady.
If he followed them before you were together i mean i wouldn't worry too much. But thats what a lot of guys use Instagram for unfortunately. (Personally I'd rather them just look at porn)
Huge red flag
Men like this think they’re Hugh Hefner and tend to have delusions.
What’s more embarrassing is that he’s public about all of it meaning all of your friends and family and his friends and family can see all of it
If you are sick of getting played by guys, you should really avoid this guy then. He is going to dump you or cheat on you pretty fast.
It shows he might be shallow if he’s following them for their looks and not because he knows them and cares about their life.
How is caring about attraction and someone's looks a problem, exactly?
well clearly if he only cares about seeing a pretty face or body it would show to me a reflection of how he views women. I personally wouldn’t like to get entangled with someone like that. Same thing goes for women who follow “hot guys”. People who do this just care about looks and not the actual person generally speaking. In extreme cases they objectify others, not treating them with respect, and see them as some sort of conquest.
Well miss, I hate to tell you this, but you've basically just described your distaste for the entire male sex, in that case. Which is unfortunate.
Well, sir, I hate to tell you this, but you’ve basically just told me you’re shallow and believe everyone else is too.
not everyone is shallow (or are open about it and advertise their tastes on social media). I simply replied to the askers question of what I thought and I think the guy she described is shallow. Have a good day.
Sure. You too.
I just looked at my ex's Instagram follows, holy shit like every other person is a "hot girl."
Honestly though, I think guys like to fill up their feed with attractive women, doesn't mean they're messaging all of them.
But if the girls live local, yeah I'd be suspicious and if it were me, I'd call him out on it.
Oh come on!!! Do you also get annoyed of a guy likes looking at hot girls in porn?
He's a man. Let him be. And don't make him stop. It's just visual stimulation for heaven's sake. Get over your own insecurities. You think he's going to leave you for a bloody poster or picture? Don't you think what you have is worth a little more than eye candy?
He can do whatever he wants. That's not my concern. My concern is trying to find a nice guy that wants a relationship with me, and after looking at this dude's profile, he may not be the one for me.
His profile has nothing to do with whether he wants a relationship with you. It's his alone time with his sexuality.
Your insecurities are triggering here, and you might be losing a perfectly good man over them.
I myself had a wife for eight years. Loved her. Never cheated. Looking at pics on Instagram was just my private little moment with me. I needed that to be there faithful and with her the test of the time. (It ended because -she- cheated by the way.)
You are letting your insecurities get the best of you here, I feel.
Incidentally, the women I looked at were to me not more desirable than her. She was the most attractive woman in the world for me. But hey, a man deserves a little escape and private space for himself. It's just like fantasies. I can't fantasise because I have no visual memory, I can't visualise in my head. So I have to see something to get turned on.
I’m super late here and you may not even see it. But would it have helped if your wife sent you sexy photos for you to look at? Like would that have been able to replace the Instagram models?
Yeah huge red flag in my opinion. Social networking sites give lots of opportunity for cheating.
Seems like he might be a bit superficial which I don't feel makes for good relationship material
Why do you say that?
Because there are other things to follow on Instagram besides hot girls
Well, try not to be jealous about it, but at the same time put your cards on the table in a nice way that you aren't gonna be played. I like when people are straight uio with me. Could be friends, could be that he's a player. Find out before you are committed
Yeah, it is a red flag. Even if he hasn't cheated on you with them (at least in the physical sense), following hot girls while dating someone certain means he has a wandering eye. I'd be very careful with this guy.
Lol id becareful with this guy. Chris lol. Hilarious. I love how seriously you take these comments.
I agree with this dude.
Me too. But i also appreciate the tone he talks in. I just his voice to be very funny when he gives this advice. Lol. But yeah he is right. I agree too.
@dandiecandie There's a time for being serious, and there's a time to have fun. Then there's the time to make them guess which it is!!!
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Lol i got you bro.
Well this guy who follows hot women on Instagram does he have sexual fantasy's about them or is he like me and just likes looking at the pictures and captions. Look at some of these women comments and see if you can find any he wrote. That might tell you what kind of guy he really is.
There is nothing wrong with people looking and finding other people attractive. If your partner tells you he's not attracted to anyone else its a lie. Attraction is just something we can't control however our actions are what matters.
Has he been adding them after you met or was this one of his methods of meeting someone in the first place? Also, if you have not discussed being in a committed relationship, it is often folly to assume that you are exclusive.
No, every guy likes to look at hot girls, if he openly follows them on instagram it just means he doesn't hide it. Or he doesn't expect to be investigated online like that.
Also following someone is not like hooking up.
Goto a mechanic shop. Or a bar or anything where guys gather. I can assure you there will be a hot girl poster/calendar somewhere.
Stop trying to find reasons to bitch.
I would be concerned unless he's a fashion photographer and they are models.
It's a red flag in my opinion.
Well, I don't know of any girls that aren't following a few guys they're attracted to. So no, following women on Facebook regardless of where they live is not a red flag. Plus, if the girls are in the area, that could mean he just saw them around.
Who doesn't like to look at pretty people? I would follow hot girls too if I were active on IG. It's a red flag if he starts to vocally comparing you to them.
It doesn't necessarily mean you're being "played". Imjsut take it a lot of guys in our society do this kind of thing, and others simply disqualify it as normal behaviour.
As to your context, you only said dating. A guy isn't going to fully commit unless it goes beyond that (not that I think this is acceptable behaviour...).
Unlike girls, guys are very visual so sometimes its just fun to look at hot pics of hot women it means nothing at all, not even the slightest bit of emotions exist when we do this... women on the other hand attach themselves emotionally to the celeb they like, so if he's a guy no worries but if you're into girls.. i suggest not going on any dates with her if thats how she acts.
you should be while i dont think people should judge people they do and stereotypes exist for a reason chances are good that he's just another dude looking to get laid till he finds something else interesting but he could be genuine as well but chances are slim your best bet would be to stick with it and pay attention the the things he does and says what he says and the way he moves will tell you everything you need to know even if it does not come out of his mouth his body will betray him
If it's only hot girls... I would definitely question... But if it's hot girls, along with others such as food blogs, or athletes, ... then I don't think it's that much of an issue
Should he be concerned that the girl he's dating is online stalking him lol... and making assumptions based on the girls he follows lol
brah... insta is all about hotties.. why not lol
Ok, let's be real. Almost everyone internet stalks. And someone's Instagram/Facebook can reveal A LOT about a person.
He may follow hot girls on Instagram but he might not actually know them in person. I wouldn't get highly strung about it yet but it could be a red flag because you now know he's looking at others.
Weird, if the girls he follows are the type that posts almost nude pics and "oooh I'm so hot" shit them maybe question it?
Though make sure to know if he is even active at all. If I log into my Instagram who knows who I follow. I haven't logged into it for YEARS. And I've changed life direction and goals twice at least since then.
If he was satisfied in You, what would the need for him to follow hot girls on Instagram. Well speak to him and see where you 2 are going. Let him know that you have seen his Instagram. If he can't answer it or doesn't answer, get rid.
Not necessarily. But in general guys who use Insta and follow hot girls are... well... players. I *was* a player and my friends are all still players - all of them have 100s of followers and follow the hottest women.
No. It just means he’s like every other guy on instagram. If he starts screenshooting, that’s when you need to get worried.
Ask him about it, tell him your honest feelings about the whole situation. If he gives a damn he'd stop... Im guilty of it. As a guy, I love looking at beautiful women, but if I really cared for someone I'm with... I'd respect her and those wishes
I think you should be worried if he follows them in real life.
And what else would guy follow in instagram, except friends and hot girls.
If he stares them much while being with you, that's a problem.
If I talk about myself. No I won't look to any other girl as long as I have my girlfriend. Fiancé or wife. If I love her why I need other women why I need to compare her to others. Why I want her be hot like them. I love my fiancé as she's. Not as I want her to be.
Accordance to me if I was the one my fiancé feel bad about my Instagram I'd delete my all social
Media for her.
Only if there's other things to go with it. Like hiding his phone when he is texting and never naming his friends.
If he doesn't nah it's nothing really
A person's following list says a lot about them.
If he's following cheap, injected looking girls thennnn his of low value
Guys y'all know damn well its a red flag stop lying to her it's a red flag I'm calling it
It's not a red flag that he likes pictures of hot women. As long as he isn't messaging them. Tell him that you are uncomfortable and have a conversation about it.
id say he’s just lame, there are guys who couldn’t even be bothered with social media. id find another if it bugs you, rather than expect him to change. Find a guy that doesn’t gave time for that nonsense
I honestly think you should be careful regardless... Instagram means nothing really... don;t worry too much but don't let your guard down just yet, until you know him more
Yes dear, you deserve better, no good is gonna come out of it.
Keep this in mind, and start to convince yourself of leaving him.
Then ask him point blank and see what does he has to say
Well, considering that Instagram is the kingdom of attwhores, where desperate guys do their best to give attention to that kind of girls, it's pretty sure that you are being played.
i think you should ask him about his reasons. i mean its normal for a guy to enjoy looking at sexy girls but most will use porn rather than following girls on social media that live nearby
I follow hot guys on Instagram (actors, soccer player, singer, youtuber) I don't think it is a big deal
Id cut him off, I dont like the idea of my guy fantasizing about some hoe. I want him to think about me and love me
Insecure much? It’s not all about you in a relationship
When you have a partner it kinda is about them. And if you truly loved and cared for them then you would try to be the best man you could be.
by the way, a lot of girls are insecure
IF you truly love them. I don’t love any women. So that explains that
But you are right tho
Not really if you just started hitting it off but if your relationship developed further and become more serious then yes.
You're being played honey.
He's keeping his options open - how 'bout you?
Girls follow hot girls through cosmopolitan, instagram, and other media to look at girls too. Everyone likes looking at hot girls, even girls.
I think every girl is a little gay, i mean they notice boobs the same way we do.
That doesn't mean anything, they may notice it that doesn't mean they like it. Most people at one point in their lives find someone of the same sex attractive or admire a feature of theirs, that doesn't mean they are gay. Sexuality is fluid so whatever you identify as is what you are. You can't choose who you are attracted to but you can choose how you label yourself. By saying you are straight you are stating that you date the opposite sex only, even if you may under rare circumstance find someone of the same sex attractive. The thing with men is if they admit their attraction or check out another man their friends will instantly accuse them of being gay, it it much more socially acceptable for women to play around with their sexuality and check women out because other women are less likely to judge or jump to conclusions regarding their friends curiosity, but exploring your sexuality and experimenting with the same sex doesn't make you gay.
There's a lot of shame for men doing the same, so they avoid it and convince themselves they don't feel it because it would be gay, if you noticed female friends will hug and cuddle with eachother because neither are inherently sexual acts but simply a sign of closeness, men typically do not do the same because they have been taught doing that would seem gay.
Again you're still proving my point that all women have attraction to a woman if she's hot enough, therefore slightly gay. I have never found a man attractive, i think we’re hideous and don’t understand why women even want us.
That's ridiculous. It's probably because of the stigma surrounding it that makes you feel gross about it. Admitting someone of the same sex is attractive does not make you gay or bisexual. Trust me, If all women were bisexual or gay then i would be getting a lot more sex then i am now lol.
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