My ex called me bro?

[Anonymous]

I sent him a message saying the cat he had in the video he posted was cute, he responded with, “Thanks Bro ! He helps me get through the day” Why would he call me bro like that? Most recently he’s been nothing but a dick to me

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i’m not trying to rekindle things with him. i want to be civil with him so there isn’t any drama. if he doesn’t want anything to do with me, he wouldn’t watch my stories on social media and wouldn’t keep me on there. i’ve even gave him the opportunity to remove me.

[HollyK21]

I feel like you’re trying to rekindle things and he’s just not interested in committing again. He’s actively showing you that this is not only wasting your time, but a reminder of why it was better to be broken up. You caved and fell for his promises of change, now look at this..

[Asker]

how is he actively showing? i’m confused? i told him i was willing to be civil and friendly and if he didn’t want that, he was willing to remove me or let me know, and I will remove him and he never removed me or said anything

[Asker]

he was more to welcome^** wrong choice of words

[HollyK21]

I only say actively because you mentioned he’s been nothing but a dick recently, so I feel like that says a lot about where he stands. It’s nice that you’re offering to be civil, but it sounds like he’s having a hard time even doing that. Not because he called you bro, to me that’s just friendzoning, but the rudeness or being a jerk. Couldn’t you just distance yourself from him? I don’t think he has an issue, he just doesn’t seem interested in being a decent friend.

[HollyK21]

Like I don’t think he has an issue with you, he just isn’t being a very good friend that’s all.

[Asker]

he broke up with me due to long distances and a few other things. he tried to accuse me of sleeping with a bunch of guys before him which wasn’t even true. he was really rude to me until i told him straightforward that i’m willing to be civil and i do not want a relationship with him. and if he isn’t willing to be civil or friendly, he can either remove me or i can remove him. he didn’t say anything, didn’t respond, read it only.” continue to watch my stories and hasn’t unfriended me or anything, so not really sure what any of that means.

he was being a dick by saying he didn’t want to talk to me and he didn’t want me talking to him, but kept watching my stories and adding me back on social media. it’s confusing to me, because normally, when you tell someone someone do not talk to me and I don’t wanna talk to you leave me alone you don’t normally add them back on social media and watch their stories.

[HollyK21]

Oh wow, that’s pretty shitty and I’m sorry you went through that. Especially if he’s watching your stuff but telling you to leave him alone, kinda bipolar in my opinion. Anyway, if there’s no bad blood since all that happened then I guess I don't know why you’d have to remove each other.

You don’t have to actively maintain a sense of friendship, even if you are viewing each others stories. I’d say if it bugs you that he watches your stories without engaging or speaking then that’s more of a “you” problem. I don’t use my Snapchat anymore but back when I did, I had 2 exes that actively watched all my stories, usually the first ones to view but never interacted. I never felt any way about it, because I’d see there stories too. I didn’t think that’s a big deal.

[Asker]

last week when i question why he unfriended me and then after I re-added him back to ask and he added me back (the second time mind you)

he was rude as hell saying why do you keep trying to talk to me? I thought I was never gonna get your time of day ever again? I told him I was just being nice and I’m willing to be civil and if he doesn’t want that, then he’s more than welcome to remove me or let me know and I can remove him. BUT HE added me back the SECOND time. he didn’t have to if he didn’t want me speaking to him. Like, if me, adding him, bothered him that much, he wouldn’t have added me back twice and kept me there

[Asker]

i’ve been absolutely nothing but nice to him and today was actually the first day he had something nice back to say, and I don’t think it hurts him because I feel like he would have more emotion than he does and he doesn’t seem like he has anything.
and mostly what I share on my stories are selfies or me just talking about things on my story, nothing regarding him or the relationship. but it’s just weird cause I post a lot in a row because he doesn’t really use the app every second of the day so when he does see my stories, he looks at every single one of them in a row. you don’t do that if you don’t want to talk to the person or see them.

[HollyK21]

None of that really answers the question though… why do you “have” to speak in order to have each other on social media? Why can’t he call you bro if you’re friends? I mean you say you don’t want a relationship yet very focused on having this guys attention. I don't know if you’re aware of how much of a contradiction these statements are, no offense.

[Asker]

i guess i’m not fully over him completely.

[HollyK21]

Then you need to be honest with yourself about that babe. I think you’re trying to convince yourself that this is friendship so you can feel better about his behavior, when really he’s getting away with being a jackass and that’s not okay. If it’s over, let it be over. You may not be ready to be a friend when you haven’t even recovered from the breakup.

[Asker]

he lied to me during our relationship about a few things and I wouldn’t be able to trust him anymore and that’s why I think being friends with him would probably be best case scenario.
he told somebody that he didn’t love me anymore, he didn’t give a fuck about me, wasn’t ever going to date me again, etc. but super super rude and mean about it

he even told my mom that I didn’t wanna lose him, but I did everything I could to drive him away

[HollyK21]

I agree it’s for the best, more than anything because in long distance you have to be able to trust him and have good communication. Without it, you would be miserable. No peace of mind, always wondering what he’s doing or worried, that sucks a lot and you’re better off not putting yourself through that shit.

When he’s said such hurtful things, and is still so rude now, what is the motivation to even maintain contact? The relationship became more emotionally abusive than positive, at least that’s how it sounds. He treats you like you’re desperate.

[Daniela1982]

Because it was better than calling you bitch or worse is my guess. Then again, you usually call your friend bro. So it could also be that you are now forever friend-zoned. And being an ex, I think you are ok with that now.

[Anonymous]

lol at least he responded to you. I don’t get a lot of women. You break up a someone then wonder why they don’t want to talk to you. Or why he moved on so quick. Or why he calls you bro. I don’t even talk to my exes. Who broke up e who?

[Asker]

he broke up with me due to long distances and a few other things. he tried to accuse me of sleeping with a bunch of guys before him which wasn’t even true. he was really rude to me until i told him straightforward that i’m willing to be civil and i do not want a relationship with him. and if he isn’t willing to be civil or friendly, he can either remove me or i can remove him. he didn’t say anything, didn’t respond, read it only.” continue to watch my stories and hasn’t unfriended me or anything, so not really sure what any of that means.

he was being a dick by saying he didn’t want to talk to me and he didn’t want me talking to him, but kept watching my stories and adding me back on social media. it’s confusing to me, because normally, when you tell someone someone do not talk to me and I don’t wanna talk to you leave me alone you don’t normally add them back on social media and watch their stories.

[Asker]

when you tell someone you don’t wanna talk to them, you don’t add them on things because you’re giving them the opportunity to say something to you and if you don’t want that you don’t do that.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so cut the cord. If he’s being an ass then cut him out of your life. That simple. I don’t get why people do LDR, they almost never work. Reminds me of this South Park episode about LDRs. Maybe he’s the one sleeping w other women.

[Asker]

last week when i question why he unfriended me and then after I re-added him back to ask and he added me back (the second time mind you)

he was rude as hell saying why do you keep trying to talk to me? I thought I was never gonna get your time of day ever again? I told him I was just being nice and I’m willing to be civil and if he doesn’t want that, then he’s more than welcome to remove me or let me know and I can remove him. BUT HE added me back the SECOND time. he didn’t have to if he didn’t want me speaking to him. Like, if me, adding him, bothered him that much, he wouldn’t have added me back twice and kept me there

[Asker]

i’ve been absolutely nothing but nice to him and today was actually the first day he had something nice back to say, and I don’t think it hurts him because I feel like he would have more emotion than he does and he doesn’t seem like he has anything.
and mostly what I share on my stories are selfies or me just talking about things on my story, nothing regarding him or the relationship. but it’s just weird cause I post a lot in a row because he doesn’t really use the app every second of the day so when he does see my stories, he looks at every single one of them in a row. you don’t do that if you don’t want to talk to the person or see them.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he just wants something sexual. Not a real relationship. Maybe he wants you to send nude pics. Could be he’s unstable as well. There’s a lot of possibilities. Hard to say. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s seeing other women. As much as I love being a man, men need sex, you’re not available so he’s going to get it somewhere. Could be he’s accusing you of doing that when he’s tone who’s doing it

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of men will still look at their exes pics. Maybe because even though he didn’t like your personality or whatever he still looks at you sexually. So could be pleasuring himself to the pics

[Asker]

100% do not think that’s the case. i think there’s more to it. if he didn’t care, wouldn’t he just unfriend me or not add back?

[Opinion Owner]

He might care some. Maybe he likes having this control over you.

[Asker]

he lied to me during our relationship about a few things and I wouldn’t be able to trust him anymore and that’s why I think being friends with him would probably be best case scenario.
he told somebody that he didn’t love me anymore, he didn’t give a fuck about me, wasn’t ever going to date me again, etc. but super super rude and mean about it

he even told my mom that I didn’t wanna lose him, but I did everything I could to drive him away

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so if he’s like that than why would you still want to be friends? You hoping something will happen w him later down the road? I mean because if he’s lying to you in a relationship what makes you think he’s going to be honest w you as a “friend.” Most men are “friends” w women because we want to fuck then.

[Summeroflove]

Why even bother reaching out for silly not important stuff if he’s been a dick? It’s not like you have to be contacting him. I don’t know why he said it. Reach out and ask him. Maybe he just sees you as a friend now…. My best guess

[PeachyPie93]

He is an ex, you a just a friend now. If you want special treatment go find a new boyfriend.

[Asker]

he broke up with me due to long distances and a few other things. he tried to accuse me of sleeping with a bunch of guys before him which wasn’t even true. he was really rude to me until i told him straightforward that i’m willing to be civil and i do not want a relationship with him. and if he isn’t willing to be civil or friendly, he can either remove me or i can remove him. he didn’t say anything, didn’t respond, read it only.” continue to watch my stories and hasn’t unfriended me or anything, so not really sure what any of that means.

he was being a dick by saying he didn’t want to talk to me and he didn’t want me talking to him, but kept watching my stories and adding me back on social media. it’s confusing to me, because normally, when you tell someone someone do not talk to me and I don’t wanna talk to you leave me alone you don’t normally add them back on social media and watch their stories.

[PeachyPie93]

I'm not sure? He does seem to be throwing mixed signals to you. But it also seems like he is mad with you for some reason by what you describe. It seems like he still has feelings towards you and might have gotten hurt by you some way. But if he seriously doesn't want to get back with you I think you should block him and stop trying to be friends.

[Asker]

last week when i question why he unfriended me and then after I re-added him back to ask and he added me back (the second time mind you)

he was rude as hell saying why do you keep trying to talk to me? I thought I was never gonna get your time of day ever again? I told him I was just being nice and I’m willing to be civil and if he doesn’t want that, then he’s more than welcome to remove me or let me know and I can remove him.

[Asker]

when you tell someone you don’t wanna talk to them, you don’t add them on things because you’re giving them the opportunity to say something to you and if you don’t want that you don’t do that.

[PeachyPie93]

I think he has unresolved feelings for you. Do you want to go back out with him? If not, I don't think it is good for you two to still be talking.

[Asker]

he lied to me during our relationship about a few things and I wouldn’t be able to trust him anymore and that’s why I think being friends with him would probably be best case scenario.
he told somebody that he didn’t love me anymore, he didn’t give a fuck about me, etc. but super super rude and mean about it.

[PeachyPie93]

The fact that he was so mean about it shows there is still emotions there. He most likely still likes you deep down and I don't think you should keep trying to be his friend. It probably hurts him every time you talk to him and he sees your post hence why he is a dick towards you.

[Asker]

i’ve been absolutely nothing but nice to him and today was actually the first day he had something nice back to say, and I don’t think it hurts him because I feel like he would have more emotion than he does and he doesn’t seem like he has anything.
and mostly what I share on my stories are selfies or me just talking about things on my story, nothing regarding him or the relationship. but it’s just weird cause I post a lot in a row because he doesn’t really use the app every second of the day so when he does see my stories, he looks at every single one of them in a row. you don’t do that if you don’t want to talk to the person or see them.

[PeachyPie93]

Maybe because you don't act hurt or like you care you broke up so he is treating you like that. Like if you look happy in your posts and pictures, if he likes you still, I think it would piss him off.

[Asker]

he knew he hurt me lol

[Asker]

like just now, i posted 2 pics of me crying and ranting on my story and he watched both of them back to back in a row and didn’t say anything

[PeachyPie93]

Then I don't know.. I guess he is just a dick and maybe you should just block him everywhere lol.

[David94358]

Why did you send a message to your ex in the first place?

[laly520]

thats why I always keep wondering
they break up yet they keep texting, dont get it

[David94358]

@laly520 it's a bit strange

[Asker]

i told him i was willing to be civil with him since he did add me back and if he didn’t wanna be civil he was more than welcome to remove me or i can remove him he didn’t say anything and he never removed me.

[David94358]

So what's the problem with him call you bro? Seems a perfect reply for 2 people that are no longer dating, keeps you at arms length

[Asker]

he broke up with me due to long distances and a few other things. he tried to accuse me of sleeping with a bunch of guys before him which wasn’t even true. he was really rude to me until i told him straightforward that i’m willing to be civil and i do not want a relationship with him. and if he isn’t willing to be civil or friendly, he can either remove me or i can remove him. he didn’t say anything, didn’t respond, read it only.” continue to watch my stories and hasn’t unfriended me or anything, so not really sure what any of that means.

he was being a dick by saying he didn’t want to talk to me and he didn’t want me talking to him, but kept watching my stories and adding me back on social media. it’s confusing to me, because normally, when you tell someone someone do not talk to me and I don’t wanna talk to you leave me alone you don’t normally add them back on social media and watch their stories.

[laly520]

the real question is why u still in touch with an ex u feel he is being a jerk to u? block him n move on fully

[JacobJordan]

Why are you trying to stay friends with him? What else is he supposed to call you

[Still-alive]

stop talking to your ex.

[Kaneki05]

Cause why not bro?