Why a guy would cheat on his new girlfriend with me (we were Friends with benefit)?

[Anonymous]

So we stopped our friends with benefits because he never had time for me so I decided to move on. It’s been only a month but I am currently seeing someone but he didn’t know about it. anyway the other day he texted me that he also has a girlfriend but since I am important to him, he wants me to be part of his life besides the sex. He said that I am the most important person in his life, that he feels some kind of affection and he can’t let me go and then added that only because it was me he would cheat on his girlfriend with me. so why can’t he breakup with this girl and be with me instead? Honestly I moved on because he always says that everything that we had it was more than just sex but yet it’s the only thing he wants apparently. What do you think of this behavior?

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1 mo

Keep in mind he never ever cheated before

[lightbulb27]

sounds like he is hooked on you and not her... e. g. love, bonding... but has difficulty committing, is confused.

Maybe you should both go to an insane asylum for therapy?

ok joking aside... since you think you are sane.

There's damage in the childhood of each, so start into therapy and work on selves.

When baby shows up, the game changes for real.

As the Bible says..."the wages of sin is death". It's correct, you want to "right side" this situation, cleanup the mess, and move forward. Lest... someone, or many, get hurt... and it is all avoidable, with effort.

You can choose whatever guy you want...

[_Maya_]

He wants his cake and to eat it too. He wants the best of both worlds if he can have it. I don't see how anything good can come of this situation if you let it happen. Like you said if he wanted to be with you he would not be with the other girl. I think what is going to happen (should you let it) is he is going to string you along and at worst end up cheating with you on his girlfriend given your past friends with benefits arrangement. I also think that he is probably feeling a bit jealous you are with someone else. Yeah I know he is too. If it were me I would just cut contact and keep moving on as you did. This just sounds like it has messy written all over it.

[Pinay_ako]

If he wanted you so bad in his life, he’d have tied it down to a serious relationship with strings attached and all the works way before he met her. But he didn’t. Now he’s into a new relationship that seems lukewarm for him and he sees you’re seeing someone else. This guy wants everything for himself regardless the consequences as long as his ego is fed. He cares for no one. Even you. Words are empty. Don’t be the side chick. Find yourself a man who will be proud to call his own.

[tierrlamé]

His words are just BS. If he was a real man in the first place he wouldn't cheat. Also if he cared about you he wouldn't put you in that situation in the first place. And lastly anyone who does that clearly can't be trusted. Words mean nothing without actions

[DJB72]

He cheated before. He cheated on you.

Don't be fooled by trying to convince yourself that sex is only physical. It isn't. It's not designed to be. You literally give a part of yourself over to the other person every time you're sexually intimate with someone else.

So if you allowed your relationship to be anything but exclusive and he met someone else, he cheated on you.

[Paul09]

Not that hard to understand. When it's just sex, and it tricks you into thinking you love that person, just because the sex is great. If you wanted a real relationship, you'd not have sex and see if you connect first. He is definitely using you.

[boggboss]

Its basic player behaviour he would slowly push towards nudes or sexting then sex he just wants sex outside of his relationship because he is a cheating scumbag

[boggboss]

Why would him not cheating before matter

[SolitarySolace]

Oh I don't know maybe it has something to do with the two of you being friends with benefits? Are you still considered friends with benefits? Because if so, that should have ended when he started his committed relationship

[katiesmuff]

Because that is what kind of guy he is and likely always will be! An asshole and creep

[HelpfulWoman]

send a screenshot to his girlfriend, block the dude and leave it at that.

[boobliker]

Friends with benefit is just sex when you see each other mostly a quicky at best a coffee on the run then sex, if you want then thats more than a Friends with benefits.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because it was easy and he felt like it. Nothing more.

[Yannae]

If he can cheat on her, he can cheat on you. Don't trust this man for a second.

[HouseMoat]

Why does anyone cheat?

TO TRY AND GET AWAY WITH IT

That's the only LEGIT reason, to cheat

THE ONLY reason

[Anonymous]

He is a high value man. If he doesn’t cheat, he will die.

He has also cheated in the past. Don’t be surprised he lied to you - he’s already cheating

[Anonymous]

He’s a player. He’s lying to keep you on the hook.

[Twalli]

Tell him you will only be with him if he's your boyfriend.

[Sabretooth]

As DJB72 said, that's the price of such a life.

[thatshydork]

I think he’s playing you.

[laly520]

he is a cheater n will cheat on anyone

[bobby_bush_eater]

Because he's stupid and weak willed.

[serious_miss419]

He sounds like a headache.

[jahaims]

Because cheaters are broken trash