Guys, are you fine with girls you're not attracted to being touchy-feely?

[Bethany22]

Like if a female friend strokes your face, chest, arm, sits really close to you, etc, because she's attracted to you. Would you let her do that, or would you start trying to avoid her (as you're not attracted to her)?

[JacobJordan]

Most women I have met are that way and I always assume they are just very friendly. It takes my wife telling me they were flirting for me to realize that they may have in fact been flirting. I used to say that if a woman was really obvious I would notice but I realized that unless she directly says "I like you romantically" I am going to assume she is being friendly or nice. That being said I am not the best when it comes to certain physical contact. Most physical contact I am fine with and won't really pay attention too

[LuminousMind]

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[JacobJordan]

@LuminousMind certainly

[LuminousMind]

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[JacobJordan]

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[Hansomedevil69]

No good at physical contact, what is wrong with you? your wife isn’t even afraid of girls flirting with you. Lame.

[JacobJordan]

@Hansomedevil69 I won't recognize it if they do so what is there to be afraid of

[Hansomedevil69]

Don’t recognize a girl that is not your woman is literally touching you. She’s real friendly or you’re just ignorant.

[JacobJordan]

@Hansomedevil69 I assume they are friendly. Because I can't tell if someone is flirting. I am a very blunt person and I didn't waste time learning subtleties so unless expressly told "hey I like you romantically" I am going to assume they are just being nice. Not a bad thing to have either since I am married and would be quite annoyed if someone were to try and flirt with me. The fact I can't recognize it means I don't get annoyed and ruin my time

[Wajahat007]

I would be flattered - but not necessarily comfortable with a girl giving me undue attention, especially if we weren’t very close friends. Many years ago a female colleague - with whom I used to often work on a night shift - started commenting on my physical attributes. She was obviously attracted to me. I initially laughed off her remarks. But then she became persistent. I ended up having a chat with her to tell her that I wasn’t attracted to her. The comments stopped.

[JoePro_]

Yes. But not because she's unattractive, but because she's an unexpected person in my personal space. I'd feel uncomfortable even if someone I'm attracted to randomly started pawing at me. I'd probably avoid people around me who were too touchy. See them in passing, "Hi, How you been? Awesome! See you later."

[Yannae]

No. Not because of her looks. I have friends who are a bit touchy. They've given me a lot of dead arms before. Thing is, they're not trying to flirt with me. They're just comfortable around me. No, they don't stroke anything in a sexual way. But if their reason was because they're attracted and interested in me, I would have to push her away. It's leading her on.

[Drew-1990]

Depends on how much she pushes it and if I know her. Random stranger I be weirded out. If I know her I may be flattered that nevers happens but if she kept it up and never backed off I would eventually be weirded out and ask her to stop.

[Lionman95]

No not really sorry. Hugging is ok but I´m not generally not attracted that much to physical touch so I would try to be touched by someone I´m not attracted to.

[Hansomedevil69]

If I was single maybe it wouldn’t be an issue but it’s pretty unlikely because it’s very obvious that I’m with girl because I’m a very affectionate person. No one else exists in my world.

[FunkyMonkee]

Fine with me. Maybe it's just that I'm used to it in show biz. We tend to be that way, naturally so, it doesn't bug me at all in every day life.

[genericname85]

if i'm not attracted to her i wouldn't let her do that. that's creepy and weird and it reduces the chance of a woman that i may interested in to notice me.

[worldscolide]

No. Honestly i have boundaries with everyone. The only person i want touching me, is my wife. No one else. Even if i found them attractive, i dont want them touching me.

[Wetdreamz]

No, I don't want to be touched by them if I don't find them attractive

[Nifrayu]

Not really. I'm okay with sitting close, hugging and cuddling my friends, but the stroking of the face, chest and arms you described feels too intimate for me.

[Nikki1989]

All my friends do that, female OR male.

[MsBrie]

I am with all my friends im just a physical person i guess.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, a woman could do that with me.

[superchan2011]

I would let her do that as I would enjoy it. Even we're just friends.

[clampfan101]

If we’re officially in a relationship, absolutely! However as just friends at first she’d have to control herself.

[Justin4563]

I would probably latter just because I’m the type of guy that has a hard time saying no to stuff

[NahWhatIsThis]

I don't care as long as they ask for consent.,. but I would be sure to let them know I'm not attracted to them that way and not interested in anything more then a friendship^^

[LiamJHayden]

If she's attracted to me in a romantic or sexual way I straight up let her know I am not.

[loveslongnails]

I'm fine with pretty much any girl doing that! LOL

[red_knight]

I'd like that. That's actually my love language

[Tstrbrainer]

She won't be touching or feeling me if I wasn't attracted to her

[Anonymous]

It would start to bother me after a while, but not a big deal.

[NathanDavis]

do I even know her?

[spartan55]

No, I'd be gtf off me.

[DJB72]

Arm is ok. Stay off the rest though

[Alex-Snow]

It would not bother me

[AimeeKyle]

I would let them do it, no issues.

[jahaims]

Unless you are saying high or goodbye do not touch

[nawtee_me]

Yes, I am totally fine with it.

[elaphe]

I wouldn't mind it.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, not at all.

[OtterMan68]

no, no way!

[Amur8711]

I would avoid her