Why do some men self sabotage a good woman out their life?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Because they are selfish and only think about what is best for themselves , they don’t know how to give the same way they want to receive , it’s his way or no way Most people that have this selfish mindset , always try to play a victim instead of accepting the fact that they can be wrong. Girls do this shit as well , why so many relationships don’t make it the long haul, especially these days with social media screwing up people’s minds. Most people assume they are always right and never wrong and pretty much want their cake and want to eat it to. Removing selfishness is not easy for most people to do , sadly in most cases they don’t learn this , until they actually suffer the consequences of their actions Love only grows when both people choose each other over everyone else in this world , if you can’t choose your partner the same way you want them to choose you , than that relationship will more than likely fail. People that constantly self sabotage themselves are seeking someone else to come save them because they can’t accept in themselves that they are wrong , they are always right , making them a Selfish person. Thinking Grass is greener on the other side , instead of watering the grass they are already standing on.

[Shiningtempest]

@Finchie40 After reading your post, I realized dating isn't right for me because I'm faithful to the notion of "my way or no way".

[Finchie40]

And there is nothing wrong with that , if that’s what you choose to do , you will only be wrong if you string someone else’s heart along for
Your selfish wants and needs , Just be honest that’s the best advice I can give anyone

[flautistnaturist]

for me it is survivor's guilt for not trying harder to keep the ex to me from spiritually sabotaging herself, this coupled with uncertainty whether it will be for her to ever be restored to healthy spirituality it had been the hope for her with me. all in all, the resulting antithesis in spiritual purpose between us is relief to be free from, while mourning period is still piecing its way through disassociation from the ugly truth with me regarding the huge mess the whole endeavor between us became

[flautistnaturist]

all in all, hope still lingers, and seems to be greater comfort in its stillness than thought of any woman other

[flautistnaturist]

as for then, the chronic disregard from her made it easier to acquiesce to her straying

[Confused6333]

When you’re with someone for some time you tend to see their flaws more than anything else. People forget the little things, the important things, the meaningful things. They tend to see things like nagging, arguments, issues more than what brought them together in the first place and think they can do better or that the person they chose isn’t the person they thought they were. Sometimes in doing so they fumble the best person they’re going to get, but in these instances the person who was walked away from dodged a bullet. Sometimes sabotaging a relationship is an easy way out. They will do everything they can to not be the one who ended things, but want the other person to end the relationship so they continue to do things to get that person to end the relationship first.

[Anonymous]

- he has no self-esteem

-feels intimidated by the woman because he regards her better than him and he’s a narcissistic

- “I am God behaviour” of superiority

end of the story: better if the man stays alone and sabotages the good woman out of his life.

[Anonymous]

Similar to the reasons a woman self sabotages a man out of her life.

For me the 40+ years. I've lived has given me a pretty clear picture of women. I don't expect a woman to come into my life and revamp my view. So pretty much every woman I meet I start with a clean slate. And I start checking of the deal breakers as I go till she affirms what was probably inevitable. You can call it self sabotage if you like. It's not! It's simply her proving to me what was pretty clear from the beginning. She didn't want a relationship she wanted a fan. And I'm too old and satisfied with my life to be adopting a woman who just wants me to cater to her. The reality is most women today are not relationship material. That's ok. It's not written anywhere that people have to be in a relationship. I'd much rather women stay single and work on themselves.

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be a self esteem problem, or simply not feeling like he's worthy of having a good relationship.

[Asker]

yeah

[OfMiceandMen]

I think guys who do this don't often know how good the woman is to them. Guys like this seem to be caught up in their own little world and they never look outside the box.

[Asker]

yes omg

[OfMiceandMen]

They may very well outgrow that mentality someday, but I wouldn't bet on it. Typically, once selfish, always selfish.

[normalice]

They don't value what the woman wants them to value.

[DarkWinterNights]

They don’t think they will be able to meet her expectations.

[worldscolide]

I've decided ne this before, it's because at that point in my life I felt like I was not good enough for her.

[worldscolide]

Good God auto correct... I've had this happen before*********

[TommyMountainFigure]

I really can't say.. I've seen it happen with my friends over the years, and I think there is inherently something wrong with them!

[Yannae]

I did that because I just was too occupied with myself to be dating.

[Jay-_-]

Probably not mature enough to realize what he has in front of him😒

[Jay-_-]

Speaking from experience, sadly. You live and you learn.

[sawno]

That's so incredibly broad, I can't really give an answer to it. Depends on what he is doing.

[Sonorous]

Someone like me might do it because we feel that she deserves better.

[DreamLife7]

They're not self sabatoging you. You just won't leave. They don't like you and they've shown you but you refuse to accept the rejection. Be accountable

[Anonymous]

It might be boring? More than likely they found a distraction. There are countless reasons for a relationship to not work out.

[genericname85]

well maybe their interpretation of "a good woman" isn't the same as yours is.

[JHAYES317]

I have a tendency to trauma dump sometimes which women don’t want to deal with in my experience

[Rangers]

Trying to numb the pain they're feeling, it's happening to me now as I'm addicted to alcohol

[VV3ZZY123]

Cuz their Core Values are based on Assumptions from when we were kids.

[Anonymous]

Define "good woman" from a man's perspective.

[SphynxUK]

Scared of committing or don’t feel worthy.

[Anonymous]

Is it the man? Sometimes I think women make poor choices when it comes to dating.

[Asker]

no its him i didn't ask to be in his life he put me in it