Why do some men self sabotage a good woman out their life?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because they are selfish and only think about what is best for themselves , they don’t know how to give the same way they want to receive , it’s his way or no way Most people that have this selfish mindset , always try to play a victim instead of accepting the fact that they can be wrong. Girls do this shit as well , why so many relationships don’t make it the long haul, especially these days with social media screwing up people’s minds. Most people assume they are always right and never wrong and pretty much want their cake and want to eat it to. Removing selfishness is not easy for most people to do , sadly in most cases they don’t learn this , until they actually suffer the consequences of their actions Love only grows when both people choose each other over everyone else in this world , if you can’t choose your partner the same way you want them to choose you , than that relationship will more than likely fail. People that constantly self sabotage themselves are seeking someone else to come save them because they can’t accept in themselves that they are wrong , they are always right , making them a Selfish person. Thinking Grass is greener on the other side , instead of watering the grass they are already standing on.

flautistnaturist · Accepted Answer

for me it is survivor's guilt for not trying harder to keep the ex to me from spiritually sabotaging herself, this coupled with uncertainty whether it will be for her to ever be restored to healthy spirituality it had been the hope for her with me. all in all, the resulting antithesis in spiritual purpose between us is relief to be free from, while mourning period is still piecing its way through disassociation from the ugly truth with me regarding the huge mess the whole endeavor between us became

Confused6333 · Accepted Answer

When you’re with someone for some time you tend to see their flaws more than anything else. People forget the little things, the important things, the meaningful things. They tend to see things like nagging, arguments, issues more than what brought them together in the first place and think they can do better or that the person they chose isn’t the person they thought they were. Sometimes in doing so they fumble the best person they’re going to get, but in these instances the person who was walked away from dodged a bullet. Sometimes sabotaging a relationship is an easy way out. They will do everything they can to not be the one who ended things, but want the other person to end the relationship so they continue to do things to get that person to end the relationship first.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

- he has no self-esteem

-feels intimidated by the woman because he regards her better than him and he’s a narcissistic

- “I am God behaviour” of superiority

end of the story: better if the man stays alone and sabotages the good woman out of his life.

Anonymous · Answer

Similar to the reasons a woman self sabotages a man out of her life.

For me the 40+ years. I've lived has given me a pretty clear picture of women. I don't expect a woman to come into my life and revamp my view. So pretty much every woman I meet I start with a clean slate. And I start checking of the deal breakers as I go till she affirms what was probably inevitable. You can call it self sabotage if you like. It's not! It's simply her proving to me what was pretty clear from the beginning. She didn't want a relationship she wanted a fan. And I'm too old and satisfied with my life to be adopting a woman who just wants me to cater to her. The reality is most women today are not relationship material. That's ok. It's not written anywhere that people have to be in a relationship. I'd much rather women stay single and work on themselves.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Could be a self esteem problem, or simply not feeling like he's worthy of having a good relationship.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think guys who do this don't often know how good the woman is to them. Guys like this seem to be caught up in their own little world and they never look outside the box.

normalice · Answer

They don't value what the woman wants them to value.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

They don’t think they will be able to meet her expectations.

worldscolide · Answer

I've decided ne this before, it's because at that point in my life I felt like I was not good enough for her.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I really can't say.. I've seen it happen with my friends over the years, and I think there is inherently something wrong with them!

Yannae · Answer

I did that because I just was too occupied with myself to be dating.

Jay-_- · Answer

Probably not mature enough to realize what he has in front of him😒

sawno · Answer

That's so incredibly broad, I can't really give an answer to it. Depends on what he is doing.

Sonorous · Answer

Someone like me might do it because we feel that she deserves better.

DreamLife7 · Answer

They're not self sabatoging you. You just won't leave. They don't like you and they've shown you but you refuse to accept the rejection. Be accountable

Anonymous · Answer

It might be boring? More than likely they found a distraction. There are countless reasons for a relationship to not work out.

genericname85 · Answer

well maybe their interpretation of "a good woman" isn't the same as yours is.

Rangers · Answer

Trying to numb the pain they're feeling, it's happening to me now as I'm addicted to alcohol

JHAYES317 · Answer

I have a tendency to trauma dump sometimes which women don’t want to deal with in my experience

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Cuz their Core Values are based on Assumptions from when we were kids.

Anonymous · Answer

Define "good woman" from a man's perspective.

SphynxUK · Answer

Scared of committing or don’t feel worthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it the man? Sometimes I think women make poor choices when it comes to dating.

Djaay · Answer

And what's your perpective on a good woman?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Because there scared

Ani_Axiom · Answer

Cuz they gay

Anonymous · Answer

What they do to do this?

jahaims · Answer

Trauma

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