Guys, Why is this guy unnecessarily rude to me?

[Anonymous]

So there's this guy that’s a bit of a character. He’s those types that says out of pocket shit all the time. Most girls find him insufferable and weird. I’m one of those girls. The only difference is that he treats me like SHIT. I kid you not he said some pretty nasty shit behind my back due to a failed relationship with one of his “homeboys.” It’s weird bc he was rude to me even before that. He said some concerning things about my appearance and mental health behind my back (craziness and ugliness) and compared me to this girl saying she makes me look like a model. It’s so weird, i don’t understand his morbid dislike of me. There’s this other girl in the friend group and he’s friendly towards her for some reason and but he was never friendly towards me. For background, I’m a really sweet and nice girl for the most part. I’m giving to my friends and i’m mostly quiet mannered. This one situationship sort of killed me mentally and I may have done some unsavory things in response to the guy’s treatment of me. Since were all one friend group, it’s impossible to avoid him and i don’t want to sacrifice my friends because of a failed relationship. I just don’t get why this guy that has absolutely nothing to do with me constantly pick on me and be mean to me. I tried being cordial and confront him about his behavior but i got nowhere with it. Is it just that i’m so unattractive that i’m an easy target to bully? I don’t understand 😭, need some opinions.

[DannyUk2017]

This guy might be just a narcisisst cunt, so he might like you in a way, so "he tries to bully you" to see how you`ll react, how you`ll take it. So i suggest you avoiding him any possible way, just let him be, and if the "situation comes/arises" just smack some sense in to him, if he keeps bothering you...

[Asker]

yeah i guess. I don’t know i just find it weird. I’m nothing but nice and polite to him. Apparently he’s scared to be around me because he doesn’t wanna say something horrendous

[DannyUk2017]

" scared to be around me because he doesn’t wanna say something horrendous " Yet he is still giving you shit, that should say something to you... Stay Away!

[Asker]

yeah makes sense. What makes you say he likes me? i find him so absurd

[DannyUk2017]

... sometimes giving "shit" to a woman, can be a way of being in to her, as he might "assume" that you might like the "bad boy" type, but sometimes these "punks" need to be "shown" what type of a man You like.

[Asker]

LOL i dont think that. I honestly just think he's a little bit special

[DannyUk2017]

Ok, can't argue with that! 🤷‍♂️, you know better...

[TommyMountainFigure]

Maybe what you said makes sense. Those who are quiet generally do fall prey to bullies more.

You could choose to ignore him in future until he speaks to you first, then answer him with cold and short answers, or ignore him completely.
Then when you DO open up, Say it loud in front of everyone. "After the way you've been treating me, you expect me to be civil to you? Do us all a favour and get lost!"

[Asker]

yeah i don’t even try to interact with him!!

[spartan55]

Why is it that girls just cannot handle it if everyone doesn't like them. Especially people that are pretty meaningless to them. Is this guy a friend? Someone that matters to you? Sounds like he's just some fuck who happens to be in your friend group. Ignore him, or go on the offensive in a not so nice way. He knows it bothers you that's why he does it.

[Asker]

i don’t give a fuck if he doesn’t like me. What i don’t like is his rude and weird behavior towards me LOL. Like it’s so unprompted and just comes out of nowhere and has been worse since me and his homeboy broke it off. I don’t really react to it, it just bothers me that he has no social training. It’s weird and it gets annoying

[spartan55]

Yeah, clearly it doesn't bother you that's why you posted this 🙄.
So you are bothered by some guy's lack of 'social training' (as you frame it)
This may come as a surprise, but you will cross paths with people like this sometimes. These people may not like you. What are you going to do?

[Asker]

Probably ignore it. I was honestly curious about the morbid dislike since I've never done anything to this guy. You can dislike someone, but being openly rude is annoying and disrespectful. The disrespect is what bothers me. I dislike him, but i dont disrespect him. That's all

[spartan55]

I get it. If it were me, I'd keep him out of my life. "Oh Fuckhead is going to be there?" "Sorry, can't make it"
You make it seem like you can't get away from the guy. That's not true. Anyone can be avoided.

[Harshbro]

Maybe talk to ur ex and tell him about it. They’re homies after all, could workout in ur favour. Unless the ex was just using u for sex, ofc that guy views u worse now. Would see u as a whore, maybe he had feelings before that.

[Danny_dan92]

And yet you’re associating yourself with him

[Anonymous]

Find a new friend

[Asker]

him and i are NOT friends