Should a man open a door for a woman?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

With strangers, whether it's a man or a woman, it is courteous to hold a door open for them. I do. I won't let a door slam in someone's face.

With a woman who is with me - a date, a girlfriend, or my wife - I step ahead of her at the last minute, open the door, and hold it open for her to pass through. That's called being gentlemanly. It's not like she he helpless, it just makes her feel cared for.

But I don't open the car door for her like a chauffeur unless we are going out to a special event and she is all dressed up, say, in a pretty dress and heels. In that case, a little help may be in order. Beside, I want her to know that I appreciate the fact that she is a lady who went to the trouble of looking extra pretty for me. Let her feel like a celebrity.

There are exceptions. If we walk up to the passenger side of the car first, I might open the door for her, wait for her to get settled, and then close it.

If we get to the house and she gets to the door first, she goes inside. It's not like she waits for me to open doors for her.

If we walk into a building that has two sets of doors, I'll open the door and follow her through, but that puts her in front of me for the second set of doors. She opens that one for me because she is perfectly capable. Then I hold it open and let her enter first.
Depending on where we are, she might enter and pause to wait for me to catch up, then take my arm or hand as we proceed side by side.

I think some of that is for show, as well. Others see that she's with me and that I value her. And they see that she is proud to be with me. They see that we are a couple and that we like and respect each other.

It's all part of the lady-gentleman game that makes women feel feminine and men feel masculine. I like women who like being feminine and who appreciate masculinity.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

"Should"

You use verbiage as if there is a right thing and wrong thing to do. Take women out of the equation, a polite person upon reaching a door will usually hold it open or anyone if someone is also approaching the door closely behind them.

Now, this is probably referring to a man and woman on a date together. There is no right or wrong. Do whatever you choose and believe in. I'd say women aren't feminine and virtuous and traditional anymore. The main reason women have had special treatment all throughout history is their gift of being the vessel that brought new people into families and society. Women had children and cared for children. Men protected and valued that crucial role of society and recognized the value of that.

Now many western women just want to go to 9-5 jobs and work and view their main biological function as a curse or oppression and have no interest in doing that. They want casual sex, 9-5 jobs and will kill their babies if they end up pregnant.

Since the women aren't really traditional "ladies" anymore, don't have kids, are heavy drinkers, sex workers, partiers, not sweet and feminine (many women not all of course but I'm making a point of how the overall trend of current western women is going), feminism has clouded the picture, women are taught it is weak to ever rely on a man, women don't need men, women don't want chivalrous treatment. Lots of men have moved away from traditional male roles towards women. Many don't want that treatment and many aren't traditional ladies anyway who want kids and families. Many believe some hectic 9-5 job serving a boss is better and more important that being raising the next generation and having families and producing conscientious, well adjusted kids for the next generation, homes, grandkids, a family lineage.

Siri137 · Accepted Answer

I've opened doors for people, both men and women, and they've done the same for me. If someone has their hands full, it's just the right thing to do under the circumstances. The alternative is to be rude.

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

Whether male or female, holding a door open for someone is being polite.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

In these days if you do you're considered a... simp, looser, a momma's boy, a pussy, etc... Those days of showing Appreciation, and being a Gentleman are... Gone!

Finchie40 · Answer

I always do , It’s just something I was taught to do at a young age from my Dad and my Grandfathers’ it’s a respectful thing to do that just comes natural to me I hold doors for pretty much everyone , that is walking behind me. , guys‘ as well. Where I was born and raised in South New Jersey. Holding a door for people was a common respectful thing to do , , I would see it constantly , it didn’t really cross my mind , until I moved to where I live now , where most people do not hold doors for anyone , it was very strange to me , and I took it as it was rude and disrespectful. But it didn’t stop me , I still hold doors here and people are surprised by it , I actually got some girls’ phone numbers for doing so. Lol I was like damn is that all it took? I didn’t complain lol I also held the door for a celebrity, that I didn’t even know was behind me , He looked me straight in the face and said thank you so much man , like I made his day , when I realized who it was , I was like Holy shit Kurt Angle from WWE , I use to watch you tons when I was heavy into wrestling , He laughed and said thanks a lot man and shook my hand lol I live in Pittsburgh PA and sadly it’s a whole new world out here compared to New Jersey and Philadelphia , Most People out here aren’t as outgoing , it’s weird to me , as to why that is. I am not saying everyone out here is that way , but a majority of people sadly are. One of the reasons I am planning to move out of here on top of other things as well.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll open the door for anyone. To think I'd be a douche bag and only hold the door open for an attractive woman with large breasts but then look the other way and not hold the door open for a man carrying a ton of stuff to get would be rude on my end. The answer is yes a man or guy should, its simple manners. However, I question whether women/girls have simple manners for guys. I think women and girls are pre-programmed that if a guy does one nice gesture he wants SEX. Nah, it's also about her being kind and saying thank you. That's something modern day, self-entitled girls today, you do something nice and they don't care, they feel like its owed to them. The reason why there are a ton of jaded girls and women out there like this is because of the following.

(A) Her father has hurt her emotionally and that's her revenge is to be bitchy with other men/guys

(B) Her past experiences with guys who have taken her innocence, virginity, her time, effort and being completely broken inside where she doesn't trust men/guys at all anyone... ahh these are the girls I stay away from, I wouldn't even touch them with a 10-foot pole.

RebelinSteel · Answer

It’s just something you do when out and about, it is really not down to is it a girl, in the picture example, you would have to be an arse not to hold door open for anyone carrying a pile of books. It’s just common human courtesy to hold the door for others no matter if a guy or girl, equally the other person should acknowledge this and ideally say thank you.

Blacke · Answer

No matter really. From a guy for a gal, he could just open it for her to show he's being a gentleman. Up to the gal of what she thinks about it. She could gently say to the guy she could manage herself well if didn't prefer the 'special treatment'.

electromagnetic · Answer

I couldn’t care less if a man or woman opened or held the door for me. I’m appreciative but I can also do it myself.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Should a man open a door for a woman? No.
Should a man open a door for people regardless of whether it's a man or a woman? Yes. Doing it just because she has tits and a vagina will just give them entitlement complexes

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

That's common courtesy lol Both genders should do, not only men.

Krealot · Answer

No, he should do it no matter what the sexes are. And especially Yes if it is an elderly or someone with a disability, wheelchair as an example.

Arav210 · Answer

No, if we want equality. Yes, if she wants u to do it for her and if she can do the same if u want her to do it for you. I mean, doing that is a sign of respect maybe or caring or showing that they are superior. So, respecting each other would be ideal and both shouldn’t really mind opening door of the other.

The_Sexpert · Answer

Hold doors for anyone if possible, regardless of gender

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is basic good manners. If you can't even manage that, perhaps you should just stay home from now on.

molonski2 · Answer

Yes , it is respectful and polite to hold the door open for a lady , or for a male if he is struggling with a load , as per the photo.

Anonymous · Answer

Why the hell not? The real question is, should people get worked up about unimportant stuff because they are actually concerned about important stuff like being marginalised in society. Don't focus on the doors people, focus on the issue.

Taylor_C · Answer

No, just slam the door in the face of the next person, regardless of gender. More equal that way.

EmmaMary · Answer

Whether you're male or female it should be just simple basic good manners.

82lynx · Answer

I would have in the past, but since they’re so disrespectful I’ll just let doors slam in their face now.

JacobJordan · Answer

I do for everyone has bit me in the ass a few times but not about to let some retarded feminazi stop me being respectful enough to open a door

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

At the bare minimum, I think a man should open the door for women, children and the elderly

slatyb · Answer

People should generally hold the door for others regardless.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Anyone should hold the door or open the door for anyone that is approaching the door behind them. Common courtesy

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I am first there I'll hold it for anyone else who is seeking to enter / exit. Just common courtesy.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If she's right behind him or coming out then yes. It's common courtesy in the U. S. to hold and open the door for strangers. I do it towards both genders and they do it for me too.

genericname85 · Answer

i should just letting the door fall shut for the next person is generally an asshole move.

Anonymous · Answer

I keep reading on this thread about common courtesy, and politeness. Saying thank you is also a common courtesy and polite, but it’s not common.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

He should do more than just that. Offer to share a coffee, on the house, no strings 😄

loladevine · Answer

Yes but because she is human not because she is a woman

Anonymous · Answer

A man should open the door for another person. F*** whether they're a woman or not. It's just common courtesy.

Anonymous · Answer

I always open the door for women I care about, but not so much for women I don't know. I've had too many of them look at me as if I've offended them somehow.

Heolurt · Answer

No, people should just be courteous to each other and hold the door for others no matter the gender, besides women don't need men, right?

Anonymous · Answer

I open doors for everyone all the time having manners knows no gender

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It's a polite thing to do but it's also kind of universal so yes

msc545 · Answer

No. Let all those tough independent women open their own damn doors.

Nifrayu · Answer

No more than a woman should open a door for a man.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yes. And for anyone really, if you get to the door first or if they need help.

Waterproofcandy · Answer

But I do this for both men and women. I'll race to open doors for people because thats how I am lol

Anonymous · Answer

No, why? Feminism. They want equality, they get equality and no chivalry...

Curiositykilledcat7 · Answer

If he want to open girls legs

dsrice071966 · Answer

I generally open a door for a woman, I like to be kind.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a nice thing to do, but that’s it. Nothing is owed.

BadApple69 · Answer

Absolutely. That’s what real men do.

dustybiker2 · Answer

A human should open a door for a human.

Pennywise_6 · Answer

That's common courtesy.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, it shows good manners

Rangers · Answer

That would be the nice thing to do, yes

DarkLegacy · Answer

Unless the woman is disabled then no

Massageman · Answer

Help is help.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

A man should open a door for everyone

mbarsi01 · Answer

yes it is common etiquette

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes people should be kind

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Yes if she don't have hands 🙃

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

A woman yes. Not a girl.

Dkfbrksnfbdksb · Answer

Depends on the woman.

elaphe · Answer

I do.

OtterMan68 · Answer

yes he should

mmmBadBoy · Answer

Goood

rapfan107 · Answer

Always

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope!

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