Agree or Disagree: A man should open the car door for their woman?

[coachTanthony]

[Flatmanlewis]

For women in general, and really anybody if they are right behind me at a door I’m holding I do.


For MY woman, absolutely. Almost always. Sometimes she says we’re in a hurry so don’t worry about it. The informal agreement is anytime she’s in heels then I always get her door but I usually get it anyhow. Probably abo it 90% of the time.


The other part of this equation is my son will probably follow my example more than my advice so I want him to see (and remember) how his father always treated his mother with love & respect. Also, for my daughter, I want her to see how (I believe, by my value system) how a gentleman should treat his woman.

[DryGermanGuy]

Only if she is heavily pregnant or has a limb in plaster.

[coachTanthony]

A limb in plaster lmao

[SaoirseS]

I’m eight months pregnant. A lot of people offer to do things I can easily do, presumably just because I’m pregnant. I appreciate the gesture nonetheless.

[0verthinkExpert]

Yes, it's nice to see some chivalry, but don't run around crazy to achieve it. It's not a race. If you can naturally do it like I'm gathering my stuff and you have time to walk around the car then go for it, but if that's not the case then don't worry about it.

As for the man's perspective, I think it's a good filter these days to check if a lady is stable or a crazy feminist. If she flips out just because you showed her some kindness by opening up a door than I'm telling you running away from her now will be a lot easier than divorce papers or watching your son be transformed into a "she."

[coachTanthony]

Geeez who is running around crazy …. just getting the door lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If he wants to, he should… If he doesn’t he shouldn’t🤷‍♀️ it’s funny how people try to make things rules that shouldn’t be…but will not follow the rules they really should🤷‍♀️ God I swear people getting more and more ass backwards (or should I say backwards ass😁)

[coachTanthony]

He should always open that door lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

People should stop telling others what they should and shouldn’t do… If people thought more about their own actions, behavior, relationships than worrying about what others do or don’t do, maybe there’d be more people with successful relationships, just saying🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

That’s why I am here. Once I let everyone know what to do then people can live their lives 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Wait, aren’t YOU SINGLE though🤔😁😂

[coachTanthony]

No I’m in a living committed relationship where traditional values reign supreme

[BlackBeauty90]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Hold a door open isn't a requirement per se - it is merely a display of proper upbringing.

It plays on the old saying

You can tell how a man will treat you by how he treats his mother.

How does this relate to your question?
A man who doesn't open the door for his woman had a lousy father who had an improper upbringing and likely had little to no respect for the wife / mother. As such such men will almost statistically treat their woman as their father treated the mother.

Like how social status is repeated generation to generation - poor or proper upbringing is repeated generation to generation. Little things like holding open the door easily identify less desirable men before a woman finds out the hard way he has a poor upbringing and isn't good as a partner.

[coachTanthony]

@BlackBeauty90 So you are saying men who open doors are more desirable and have a better chance of a good upbringing? Just making sure I am clear.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't care about whether somebody else thinks I "should." A man does what he thinks is right regardless of what anyone else says about the matter. Yes, I open doors for ladies.

[AviatorTom]

I agree, it's common courtesy.

[DizzyDesii]

Sooo unnecessary, just like pushing up my seat or running ahead of me to hold the door. If im walking behind you then feel free to walk in first but hold the door back for me… but dont run all the way across the street to beat me to the door 🤣

[bros26]

Sign of real alpha women ❤️

[coachTanthony]

LOL. Nobody running ahead for you stop it

[DizzyDesii]

You didn't attend my college Coach. That shit was a thing and it was annoying

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 🙃❤️🙌

[bros26]

@DizzyDesii

Darling you didn't answer my yesterday question. 😘

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii Most men your age would never but okay lol

[DizzyDesii]

And i consider that good Coach because those that do, look silly

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 afraid to know what that was

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 you can book it but you gone be staying there alone lol

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 I’ll bring my guy and you can watch us 🥳

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii LOL now there are a lot more cucks out there these days

[DizzyDesii]

Lol but i know @bros26 ain't one 🤣

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 i would never do a threesome. Like i said you can watch us

[DizzyDesii]

@bros26 😂 Fair enough

[bros26]

You're such a darling it's always fun talking to you dizzy 😂

[coachTanthony]

@bros26 Damn did they remove your comment? You get a message from GAG? Wow

[DizzyDesii]

He said something inappropriate? Shit wish i saw before that happened 🤣

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii He just called himself a fuckboy and I said nice to meet you. GAG is getting cray cray

[DizzyDesii]

Shit at least he admitted it 😂 GAG hatin

[coachTanthony]

@DizzyDesii LOL I know right

[TonyMetal___86]

Disagree, she can open it by herself, why would i need to open it for her, that's silly, if i had a girl who waits for me to get out of the car, turn around to open her door so that she gets out than i'll lock her inside or tell her "how about she opens the door for me" i'm the king 🤣

[coachTanthony]

🤣🤣🤣

[WhiteSteve]

I’m an old school gentleman. I always open car doors for women. If that’s somehow offensive now, then I guess I’m a new school jerk, lmao.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/uYUjX0B8Hy4

[BlackBeauty90]

Hold a door open isn't a requirement per se - it is merely a display of proper upbringing.

It plays on the old saying

You can tell how a man will treat you by how he treats his mother.

How does this relate to your question?
A man who doesn't open the door for his woman had a lousy father who had an improper upbringing and likely had little to no respect for the wife / mother. As such such men will almost statistically treat their woman as their father treated the mother.

Like how social status is repeated generation to generation - poor or proper upbringing is repeated generation to generation.

[SaoirseS]

Someone reported this post for grammar. Weird.


To answer your question, I believe if a man wants a woman to ride in his car, he should push the unlock button on the fob so she can get in.

[coachTanthony]

They reported me let's be real lol

[SaoirseS]

Yes, for real. But that’s not unusual. The reported posts list often has posts that aren’t actionable.

[AmyHew1tt]

I just think it's a nice thing to do for anyone.

But for me, a guy opening the door for me isn't about 'princess treatment' as lots of women think it is. It's about being aware of you, and where you are, which makes me feel cared for. And vice versa.

[worldscolide]

If she is a feminist? No. If she is a traditional, good woman, yes.

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[msc545]

I don't think this is a big deal in one way or the other and I don't mind doing it if it seems appropriate, but I have met women that get angry if you do it because they feel like it belittles them. Sometimes you just can't win.

[coachTanthony]

Many women today feel that way and would like to squash chivalry altogether

[msc545]

Finally, I find something I can agree with women about.

[coachTanthony]

🤣🤣🤣

[Constatine]

That is why men should buy a car without doors.. 🤣😂

No discussion possible.

[Little_Bumblebee]

.. does people still do this?

I mean it's nice if there's a reason the other might need help. Like.. I don't know difficult shoes or a big dress or something.
Or if hands are occupied with holding stuff.

[D_Bone_Steak]

If she tries to open her own door, I speed up and lock the doors. Then with my trusty spray bottle filled with both ether and chloroform, I slip on my mask and start spraying her down...

Eventually, she complies and wants to go back to my place to live chained up in my basement.

[devilish-cutie]

Pleas dont, it cringey and makes no sense to me, to wait for him to walk to my door... why... man im so fast im already in my house.. i hate waiting
If i was walking n he opened a door ok, holding doors that can be heavy is nice and polite n id do it for anyone behind me, but in car it makes no sense
Idc if others do it, this is just MY preference so dont come at me

[Daniela1982]

I think so, but I can't speak for all the "women libbers" out there. They would be offended if a guy tried to do anything for them. But for old skool women, if they don't open the door for them, they may find the door hitting them in the ass on the way out.

[BeetleBro2000]

"Should"? No. He can do it or not, either is fine.

Personally I like to, just because I like that harmless type of old-fashioned gender performance. I'll hold the door, walk closer to the road, carry the luggage and all that for my wife, because we both enjoy it.

[sage2021]

When I was in my dating days if the guy even had a car with a door to open that was a big plus!
Seriously, he would open mine for me, and I would reach over and unlock his side for him.

[chrissykerdock]

if you consider what we have to do for men the least they can do is open a door for us is that really hard to do>?

[jahaims]

Complain and lay on your back? Must be a hard life.

[chrissykerdock]

@jahaims sounds like you don't care for women

[jahaims]

Women yes, whores no.

[chrissykerdock]

@jahaims your not a fan of women

[jahaims]

Says the whore

[chrissykerdock]

@jahaims how am i a whore

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe. If there are shady dudes around, I will and make sure she is inside just in case something goes down. But if we are at Pelican Hill probably not.

[overthinkergirl]

maybe at dating stage but later in a relationship i can also open my door however it’s very mice if a man does that!