Agree or Disagree: A man should open the car door for their woman?

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Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

For women in general, and really anybody if they are right behind me at a door I’m holding I do.

For MY woman, absolutely. Almost always. Sometimes she says we’re in a hurry so don’t worry about it. The informal agreement is anytime she’s in heels then I always get her door but I usually get it anyhow. Probably abo it 90% of the time.

The other part of this equation is my son will probably follow my example more than my advice so I want him to see (and remember) how his father always treated his mother with love & respect. Also, for my daughter, I want her to see how (I believe, by my value system) how a gentleman should treat his woman.

DryGermanGuy · Accepted Answer

Only if she is heavily pregnant or has a limb in plaster.

0verthinkExpert · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's nice to see some chivalry, but don't run around crazy to achieve it. It's not a race. If you can naturally do it like I'm gathering my stuff and you have time to walk around the car then go for it, but if that's not the case then don't worry about it.

As for the man's perspective, I think it's a good filter these days to check if a lady is stable or a crazy feminist. If she flips out just because you showed her some kindness by opening up a door than I'm telling you running away from her now will be a lot easier than divorce papers or watching your son be transformed into a "she."

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

If he wants to, he should… If he doesn’t he shouldn’t🤷‍♀️ it’s funny how people try to make things rules that shouldn’t be…but will not follow the rules they really should🤷‍♀️ God I swear people getting more and more ass backwards (or should I say backwards ass😁)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't care about whether somebody else thinks I "should." A man does what he thinks is right regardless of what anyone else says about the matter. Yes, I open doors for ladies.

AviatorTom · Answer

I agree, it's common courtesy.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Sooo unnecessary, just like pushing up my seat or running ahead of me to hold the door. If im walking behind you then feel free to walk in first but hold the door back for me… but dont run all the way across the street to beat me to the door 🤣

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Disagree, she can open it by herself, why would i need to open it for her, that's silly, if i had a girl who waits for me to get out of the car, turn around to open her door so that she gets out than i'll lock her inside or tell her "how about she opens the door for me" i'm the king 🤣

WhiteSteve · Answer

I’m an old school gentleman. I always open car doors for women. If that’s somehow offensive now, then I guess I’m a new school jerk, lmao.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

Hold a door open isn't a requirement per se - it is merely a display of proper upbringing.

It plays on the old saying

You can tell how a man will treat you by how he treats his mother.

How does this relate to your question?
A man who doesn't open the door for his woman had a lousy father who had an improper upbringing and likely had little to no respect for the wife / mother. As such such men will almost statistically treat their woman as their father treated the mother.

Like how social status is repeated generation to generation - poor or proper upbringing is repeated generation to generation.

SaoirseS · Answer

Someone reported this post for grammar. Weird.  To answer your question, I believe if a man wants a woman to ride in his car, he should push the unlock button on the fob so she can get in.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I just think it's a nice thing to do for anyone.

But for me, a guy opening the door for me isn't about 'princess treatment' as lots of women think it is. It's about being aware of you, and where you are, which makes me feel cared for. And vice versa.

worldscolide · Answer

If she is a feminist? No. If she is a traditional, good woman, yes.

msc545 · Answer

I don't think this is a big deal in one way or the other and I don't mind doing it if it seems appropriate, but I have met women that get angry if you do it because they feel like it belittles them. Sometimes you just can't win.

Constatine · Answer

That is why men should buy a car without doors.. 🤣😂  No discussion possible.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

.. does people still do this?

I mean it's nice if there's a reason the other might need help. Like.. I don't know difficult shoes or a big dress or something.
Or if hands are occupied with holding stuff.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If she tries to open her own door, I speed up and lock the doors. Then with my trusty spray bottle filled with both ether and chloroform, I slip on my mask and start spraying her down...

Eventually, she complies and wants to go back to my place to live chained up in my basement.

Agree or Disagree: A man should open the car door for their woman?

devilish-cutie · Answer

Pleas dont, it cringey and makes no sense to me, to wait for him to walk to my door... why... man im so fast im already in my house.. i hate waiting
If i was walking n he opened a door ok, holding doors that can be heavy is nice and polite n id do it for anyone behind me, but in car it makes no sense
Idc if others do it, this is just MY preference so dont come at me

Daniela1982 · Answer

I think so, but I can't speak for all the "women libbers" out there. They would be offended if a guy tried to do anything for them. But for old skool women, if they don't open the door for them, they may find the door hitting them in the ass on the way out.

BeetleBro2000 · Answer

"Should"? No. He can do it or not, either is fine.

Personally I like to, just because I like that harmless type of old-fashioned gender performance. I'll hold the door, walk closer to the road, carry the luggage and all that for my wife, because we both enjoy it.

sage2021 · Answer

When I was in my dating days if the guy even had a car with a door to open that was a big plus! Seriously, he would open mine for me, and I would reach over and unlock his side for him.

chrissykerdock · Answer

if you consider what we have to do for men the least they can do is open a door for us is that really hard to do>?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Maybe. If there are shady dudes around, I will and make sure she is inside just in case something goes down. But if we are at Pelican Hill probably not.

overthinkergirl · Answer

maybe at dating stage but later in a relationship i can also open my door however it’s very mice if a man does that!

caitycat21 · Answer

Yes, it’s very romantic and I personally enjoy being treated like a princess

Radiate143 · Answer

It's a nice gesture. But if we're five years in and their's a flight to catch, chivalry can wait.

Bricealan · Answer

Of course, Coach, from my POV, only a barbarian would NOT do that.

CaliAttorneyGuy · Answer

Agree unless she belongs to the streets lol.

genericname85 · Answer

no. we live in an equal society. men opening the door implies women aren't equal.

rigmarole · Answer

Who wants to date a woman that can't figure out how to open a car door? I've seen people with down syndrome that can handle that...

dogboy · Answer

Whatever both of them are mutually happy with is all that matters. I see nothing wrong with the idea at all, but maybe some women would rather open doors themselves. I think the man should initiate this action in the beginning by all means. After all, we are talking about respect here, but as I say, if a woman does not feel the same way for just whatever reason it may be, then the man needs to respect that and support her in her wishes and desires.

Adaeva · Answer

He should if she is wearing a miniskirt. He may appreciate what he sees when she steps out of the car.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I do it all the time, I started doing it the first day I got my drivers license to take my mom in to town.

Anonymous · Answer

I might do this if it were natural and convienent but I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to do so and would expect an extremely negative reaction if it did.

I also wouldn't want anything to do with a woman who expected me to do that.

Billlewis · Answer

True. A guy should always do everything he can for a, whether he's in a relationship with her or not.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's okay with being thought of as "his woman" like it's "his car" then sure. If she believes in equality she can open her own fucking door like the strong independent 'womyn' she is.

tzdc21 · Answer

People should have common courtesy to everyone else. It shouldn't be because of gender at all. Man open doors for women and women open doors for men. Simple. Common. Courtesy.

Lisia · Answer

He doesn't have to if he doesn't want to, but I do prefer it. I like it when my boyfriend is being a gentleman.

Mariabea · Answer

romantic men are unique and unforgettable

Simslover92 · Answer

He can but doesn't have to. My boyfriend does and is one of the few that still believes in chivalry.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

30 years ago, Hard Agree! 2023 and beyond, Hard Disagree!.

jshm2 · Answer

Door handles are fucking universal. They can be opened by either gender.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s polite but I wouldn’t flip out if the guy didn’t do that

beebella · Answer

If he wants to. I'm kinda used to opening my own doors, tho. 😄

Jdodkfndosn · Answer

Disagree. I'll help you get on a horse is cars didn't exist because you likely can't do it yourself but with a car, you can open the door yourself

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Isn’t that just adding unnecessary time to things? From a practical standpoint, I just don’t understand why that ever was a thing

DarkLegacy · Answer

No he should not, not in this day and age. i certainly would not

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, women should open their own doors. Today's women have lost the right to be treated that way.

legalboxers · Answer

this...

Anonymous · Answer

I find that annoying. I want to take my own time in getting into the car

Nerdvana · Answer

Yes I agree. Not just women, but children and older people as well.

hammeronfire · Answer

Should, no. Could, sure why not. But it doesn’t matter it’s just a door

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I ride a motorbike. Matter settled ;D

exitseven · Answer

Yes, it is just being polite.

dolemite58 · Answer

no she can open her own door this isn’t the 1950’s

BaronReagan · Answer

Uh absolutely not, appart if the woman has loaded hands then yes.

_piotr · Answer

Ah, that butler, servant - like thing...

Anonymous · Answer

If she's someone who deserves it then hell yeah

Alex8736 · Answer

I'm old school so I still believe in it

Greenalways · Answer

I agree. Every man should be a gentleman!

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

Coaches gonna coach!

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is good manners but hardly important.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

On dates yes. On a trip to the grocery store no

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck no

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