Should the man have to pull the lady's chair or open the car door or door in general for her on a date?

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CrabCakes11 · Accepted Answer

I hate this kind of stuff. I have arms. If a man pulls out my chair for me at a date, there’s a 95% chance that’s our last one.

avery58 · Accepted Answer

I don't pay attention to those things so I don't care much

Avicenna · Answer

It depends on what the expectations are. I don't think women expect this anymore.

SamIam96 · Answer

In the old days, the things you ask about were part of chivalry. They were nothing more than small and pleasing acts that men did for women. Feminists think they're oppressive and propagate that sentiment. They're wrong, that's part of the reason feminists are often disliked.

Your question reminds me of a friend at college. She grew up in a culture where men who didn't hold doors, etc, were cads. As we walked from building to building, the way she deferred to me at doorways was so natural and honestly, quite nice.

To answer your question, "should you have to?" No. You don't have to. If you're smart, you will. Women with any sophistication will appreciate your graciousness. You could do worse than being appreciated by women.

Madlc · Answer

I always thought it was weird, women aren’t kids.

I have never done it and never will but that doesn’t mean I don’t acknowledge the fact that a man should be gentle with women and make them feel good about themselves.

FuqUFggt · Answer

I played morals chicken with a feminist in a hipster bar in Philly 10 years ago. We were in line for the bathroom. It was unisex and there was one. I was in front of her when it was my turn I said "ladies first" amd waved her on. She said "I don't believe in that" I said "I do" but she refused to go first. So did I. We waved everyone behind us to go for the next 45 minutes until the bar closed. She was fuming. Even more mad as she watched me relieve myself in the alleyway before getting a taxi home. Chivalry exist no matter how much bitches hate it.

slatyb · Answer

That's up to the couple. I normally do open the car door but some women would rather do it themselves. That's fine with me.

I do get doors for my wife and help her with her coat, it's just a fun thing for us, not something she demanded or even expected.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nah unless it’s sort of required i have frameless doors so I open the car door and close it, mainly if she slams it, she’s walking

Iron_Man · Answer

You can do it for a while normally you don’t do it at restaurants pulling the chair for her to sit mostly you do it for going in the car and getting out of the car but it’s not something that needs to be done every day for the rest of your life obviously by now she gets that a man like that is very courteous

dustybiker2 · Answer

It shows respect which gains them points in my book. I like to quickly slip their chair out as they do mine, always gains a smile.

Some men don't want that kind of woman. I don't judge, that's their relationship.

Lliam · Answer

No. But it can be a nice gesture. He plays the gentleman and she plays the lady. It make him seem more masculine and her more feminine.

It shows that he's being thoughtful and courteous. But too much can seem condescending.

electromagnetic · Answer

I think we’ve kinda brown past this. I don’t expect my partner to open the cad door or pull out my seat. Not unless we both plan on sitting at the back of a taxi or sitting beside each other at a restaurant with friends.

Fireguy17 · Answer

a man does not have to, however it is a nice polite gesture. Treat her like you would like someone to treat your mom. (if you loved and respected her)

DarkLegacy · Answer

A man is not obligated to do anything for the woman he is on a date with other then meeting the effort she puts in. Any woman saying otherwise is just a sexist hypocrite. If women want equality then it means equality, not cherry picking.

DishLady · Answer

It's a nice thing to do... So yeah, I'd recommend it. I know I always appreciate gentlemanly behavior.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Whether or not I should have to is irrelevant. I do it because I want to.

Red_Arrow · Answer

No. But if you ever want to see her again you better!

strateguy632 · Answer

no neeed n she will complain "i don't need your help".

goaded · Answer

No, but only because you said "have to". I'd have no respect for a woman who demanded or expected it.

sheenagwapa · Answer

no but it is so attractive if a guy open doors for any girls in general.

AngryCarl · Answer

It's what an Old School Gentleman would do, so it's what I would do. I don't know what the kids would do nowadays.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

It’s only nice to do so but not every date

darkcloud1945 · Answer

I think it is civilized and from a kinder gentler time when people treated each other with respect.

exitseven · Answer

no but girls appreciate that stuff.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Have to? No. Want a second date? Yes.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes I like chivalrous men

driven159 · Answer

if you are a gentleman

PapaJedi · Answer

Yes!!

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Because, manners.

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