Why do women find bad boys attractive?

[Anonymous]

Why don't they find polite men attractive?

[Pillubi]

I think I can answer this cause I am comitted to someone who once was a the typical bad guy, a player you can say, would keep changing girlfriends like clothes. I was initially taken aback cause he looked really cute and charismatic. He is the kind of guy who can say something really blunt but in such a way that would make girls weak in their knees. But as I got to know him I really really fell for him. His personality. He is dominating, assertive, action oriented , ambitious, strong headed, and since I am the typical shy quiet girl who keeps to herself, it is the perfect contrast I need in my life. I am extremely attracted to him, he doesn't shy away from calling out my stupidity from time to time. He knows when to take my words seriously and when to just shrug it off, and honestly? That's sexy as hell. He doesn't nod to everything I say. One time we were travelling in his car, and I got really seriously hungry, he stopped at a cafe before I could even complete my sentence and purchased eatables. Than when we continued our journey I wanted to eat more (lol) so I told him can we stop at a nearby restaurant, he said "No, we'll get late". I was disappointed that he didn't stop, but deep down I felt hot for him for being so assertive. I mean he did stop when it was needed. He is also physically protective, which I absolutely cherish. We re getting married soon. Sorry for my rant, but my point is women find assertiveness sexy, and attractive which many nice guys may or may not have.

[BrotherBane]

I don't know about you, but whenever I tell girls "no", they will pout for the whole day and remain silent, refusing to speak to me until the next day.

[mayurr]

Let it be😌

[Billlewis]

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[Pillubi]

@BrotherBane yeah, I guess different strokes for different folks, but I feel the right balance between assertive and sensitive will make most mature women fall head over heels. Also if the woman is high maintenance it mostly won't work.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Did you find it attractive because he clearly said, "No, we'll be late," or would it have been just as attractive to you if he had asked if you could skip the restaurant because otherwise you two would be late?

[Pillubi]

@Tonytoutouni123 yes I guess, cause I am already attracted and emotionally connected with him, also we are already past that honeymoon phase of the relationship, where things have gotten real and practical so I guess I would be okay both ways. I mean this is just one instance, but overall he is that dominating kinda guy ( reasonably dominating, if you get what I mean) which I personally like.

[Tonytoutouni123]

Suppose you were just at the beginning of your relationship, would you find it more sexually attractive if he simply took charge? Does it not bother you at all that he asserts his will over yours without discussing it with you?

[BrotherBane]

Haha yea she was a bit high maintenance, no wonder it didn't work.

[Pillubi]

@Tonytoutouni123 I love the fact that he takes charge. See I said he is reasonably dominating, so he does take my opinions on different matters that concern us as a couple. For example, he is currently thinking of opening a takeaway outlet a small one, so he asked me about what the menu would look like and the number of items on it. Another one was , I am gonna shift to his place after marriage so he asked me what things he needs to rectify about the room so I gave my feedback.

[Simslover92]

Girls mostly find bad boys attractive. Women don't really find them all that attractive because they've gotten pass that stage. And some girls never liked bad boys to begin with. Bad boys prey on the naive and girls are usually naive and very impressionable. So it's easy to entice them.

[Tonytoutouni123]

I never quite understand what is meant by 'Bad Boy.' Do you find morally questionable behavior in men attractive (when it's not too extreme)? So, for example, if he cuts in line or what would be an example? If he plays with women's emotions to get them into bed?

[Simslover92]

Yeah that would be a perfect example where he plays with women's emotions to get them into bed. I don't personally find that all attractive anymore. I did when I was 21/22. But that's when I was naive and still a girl.

[blueonblack22]

I do not have a problem with women dating “bad boys”. Yes it’s stupid and ultimately self destructive but go ahead and date and sleep with whoever you want. You have free will.

But I have a serious problem when the inevitable happens i. e. the bad boy screws the woman over and now she’s a “victim” looking for shoulders to cry on.

She’s not a victim. She knew exactly what she was getting into and yet she thought she could “change” him and she failed. The writing was on the wall but she jumped head first into the dark pit anyway.

I truly believe at least 50% of male on female domestic violence, abuse (physical, emotional and sexual), etc. would never happen if so many women didn’t have this asinine mental quirk to begin with.

I am not going to preach for women to change because I believe this mental quirk is subconscious embedded. But quit complaining what the inevitable happens and you invited it. Seriously take accountability for your bad decisions on this one ladies. Again you are NOT a victim in this scenario when the “bad boy” does bad. It’s like petting a venomous snake and hoping it won’t bite you because you are “special” to it.

[Purpleronnie]

Is polite really the opposite of bad 😆 asker? I would think that the mass majority know that the titled “ bad boy “ is generally about attitude , confidence , dominance etc as these are the typical “masculine” attributes , that’s just as nature intended and so what attracts women on a basic level. Yeah sure some claim to prefer nice guys and that bad guys are for flings of passion and excitement but starting with confidence and a bit of charm and linguistic skills a smart man can easily switch it up and be the “bad guy” , If that’s how the game has to be played.

[Effably]

Several reasons. Although its usually not the bad itself.

Consider a villain vs a hero.

The villain is taking action.
The hero is reacting.

Similarly the bad boy type will always seem to be doing something. Even if that something is hurting you emotionally.

It is a whole lot easier to be attractive when you are the acting party. This is why for example, dominant personalities tend to be more generally attractive than submissive ones.

Plus, if they are already expected to be bad they get credit for anything good they do. Rather than having faults found whenever they do not.

Men also like bad women as far as attraction goes. But some things are fun to bring home, not to have at home.

[Pillubi]

Precise!!

[DarkLegacy]

I have oftened wondered, it is because they are immature, weak and toxic themselves. They have also been brainwashed by feminists and all the crap they see on TV. But of course that is no excuse, anyone with an ounce of sense does not get influenced by what they see in TV dramas or films.

I avoid women like this as if they were the plague, because no good is going to come of women going with guys like this and they will end up with baggage that i and other decent guys could do without.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Simple: because they believe they can change them and be their only girl for life. As well as the bad boy doing sexy things she likes in bed, especially if she likes it twisted & rough. I, for one, don't like actual bad boys. I know better than to play with that stuff. Being treated like crap isn't what I want in a partner.

[firenine909]

I can fix him

[PBandJ_Nerd]

@firenine909 And they don't learn that some people can't be fixed because they don't want to be or don't care to. That's an actual bad boy for you.

[firenine909]

What sexy things in bed? I’m not sure if you said you don’t like them or them or just don’t like the personality they’re attached to

[PBandJ_Nerd]

@firenine909 I don't like bad boys in general. Any bad boys I like are completely fictional.

[firenine909]

What do you like about the fictional ones?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

@firenine909 mainly personality. Character design is a bonus.

[firenine909]

That makes sense

[dustybiker2]

Because woman have sexual drive, too. Exciting is attractive to hormones. Sex is chemical. Can't choose who you love. I have seen plenty of polite boys with a wild side so don't let them fool you with curb appeal: the body knows.

[Anonymous]

Women that have a very weak understanding of what confidence is mistake false bravado for confidence. It doesn't help that women feed into thier feelings rather steer away from them like men do. This is why sometimes women that haven't been taught better have to make this mistake once or twice... or a hundred times😆, before she learns from it.

[Siri137]

Some women find bad boys attractive.

[KostasKouvalis]

Are you one of them?

[Siri137]

@KostasKouvalis Definitely not!

[KostasKouvalis]

I guess it depends what you mean by "bad"😉

[Siri137]

@KostasKouvalis Like if they're bad at acting, swimming or typing, sure. But not "bad" as in violent and with a criminal history.

[KostasKouvalis]

Or bad in bed😉

[Siri137]

@KostasKouvalis I'm not bad in bed, I'm absolutely fantastic! ;P

[236color]

If he's a bad boy, and you do all those bad, dirty, nasty things with him, it's his fault, he's bad. If you do them with a nice guy, you WANTED to.

[lmkimcurious]

It’s a misconception that bad boys are confident and nice guys are weak so they’re attracted to the confidence. It’s funny though because usually the bad boys are hiding their weakness by looking tough lol

[DrPepper12]

Same reason I love bad girls. Rebellious, bold, risque, confident, IDGAF women are amazing. Hold on tight and don't ask where we're going cuz she don't know either! It's a rare and novel woman like that

[exitseven]

I am thinking that this is an urban legend. Most girls I knew thought so called bad boys were losers. Maybe in high school some went for those kids but most did notn

[TommyMountainFigure]

I was always a bad boy (before I met my wife). I think women loved the challenge of trying to change me!

[WhitneySnow]

Bad boys are polite. They’re just rebellious. Bad boys aren’t assholes (not the kind most girls really like, at least).

[Drewtate]

They absolutely do.

[slatyb]

In my experience women are attracted to men who pay attention.

[Hellur991]

They like the toxic vibe they give off. But hey to each their own

[Shortcel]

Because the only type of men that can afford to be bad boys are the top 5% of physically attractive men, they won't let a short or ugly guy get away with it.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

Because being with a bad boy gives them the status and excitement that they lack in life

[RedInnocent69]

Thrill of danger. Imposter syndrome. Lack of self esteem.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

lots of testosterone, the thrill, the confidence and action I guess

[Anonymous]

Because the bad boy is usually attractive and very confident.