Why do I strongly desire a wife and kids already at the age of 19?

[Awesomesauce2005]

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One of my main fears is being single in my 30s

[_Maya_]

Because that is what you want. There is nothing wrong with it even though you are young. You have a goal in mind. Just make sure that you focus on getting that goal. That doesn't just mean finding a partner that wants the same thing. You want to be set up for a family financially. I don't know if you are going to school or out in the workforce but having the financial means (along with the partner you end up with) is probably the most important part of the family and kids thing. You don't want to spread yourself too thin. There is nothing wrong with having the desire for that and wanting that to be part of you life.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I have the financial stability, I just can't find a woman who likes me back.

[_Maya_]

That comes in time. You are young yet. The fact you have financial stability is a great start and key in achieving what you are looking for.

[DishLady]

@_Maya_ is right on here.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Thanks for the advice/support

[DishLady]

🙂🙂🙂

[DishLady]

It just means you're family-oriented. You're fine. Don't mess with this. When you're ready you'll find the right gal to start your life.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I mean... It's absolutely natural to want a wife and kids. That You are aware of this wish at the age of 19 only means You're mature for Your age. Just choose Your potential spouse carefully. The dating market is basically a live minefield in this day and age. Alternatively, earn some good money (that will take a lot of time if You wish to resign Yourself to legal means, though) and search for a wife outside of the Western sphere of cultural influence.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Thanks for this good piece of advice

[serious]

At your age you should only be concerned about your academics and building a good career for yourself. Love/romance and these things can always wait.

Believe it or not, it is much better to be alone/single rather than being with the wrong person and out of desperation just because you are afraid of being alone, that is a bad mentality.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I've already got a good career and I'm done with school. I've got plenty of life skills and I'm making about 48,000 a year.

[serious]

Then just continue with this life

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way.. I would like to get married and have kids and im not even 20 yet.. it would be nice to have a family

[Awesomesauce2005]

Where are ya?

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm in Tennessee

[NamerOfStars]

Natural selection.

[Awesomesauce2005]

If natural selection was real I would have women chasing me. Instead they are chasing financially unstable, immature dumbasses.

[NamerOfStars]

It IS real; women are just less stupid than you give them credit for.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Less stupid? Don't you mean more stupid?

[CriticalCatDad123]

What's wrong with being single in your 30s?

[Awesomesauce2005]

I don't like being alone, plus the older you get the less time you have to raise children properly. I don't want to be old and crippled when my kid is a teenager.

[CriticalCatDad123]

I plan on being single in my 30s. I've been single throughout almost the entirety of my 20s. I've been single sense roughly around 2015-2016. I get enough interaction with people at work and I have a few friends I could hang out with if I wanted to usually I don't want to do anything. And I have family I do things with now and then too. My family are the ones who tend to make my life exciting, for example they're the ones I go on trips with when I have the vacation time to do so from work. And I have a big family so lonliness isn't something I'm worried about. I have no reason for a woman in my life. I just can't understand why others feel the need

[Awesomesauce2005]

The natural instinct to extend your genetic lineage?

[CriticalCatDad123]

I'm asexual and aromantic. 🤷🏻‍♂️ my younger brother will extended the family lineage. Thankfully I don't have to.

[Awesomesauce2005]

OK 👍

[CriticalCatDad123]

Besides kids are just used by women against men in various cases. Especially divorce. I'd rather not become a slave

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm not asexual or aromantic so I don't know what you are going through.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Whatever I'm going through is far better than what those who aren't asexual/aromantic are going through. I know that for a fact

[Awesomesauce2005]

That's the hard truth lol

[CriticalCatDad123]

Its nice to know someone agrees

[Awesomesauce2005]

Probably best that you note that you are aromantic and asexual when posting opinions though

[CriticalCatDad123]

I try to mention it as soon as possible 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Awesomesauce2005]

OK lol have a good day