He won’t talk or make plans anymore, I do t want to lose my best friend?

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to do, my friend and i clicked so well from the beginning and i started to have feelings towards him when he was the only person there for me when i was in the hospital, and i started to treat him like we were dating but i would always tell him we friends but i wanted him to make a move but he never would.
but everything was going well and if felt like we were moving to be something and my ex called me when we were out and I think he noticed it but he didn’t say anything and said him being silent was bc he didn’t feel well and it got me really upset bc i felt he was ignoring me by being quiet and lying on why so later on into the week I finally started to talk to him that Friday after and we hung out and I made plans for that Sunday morning with him and he didn’t stay over that night like we had for the past month and it really upset me again so when Sunday came I ghosted him when he called and texted me to pick me up for the plans we made and later in the day I found he messaged my friend to see if I was ok which got me more upset.

so I texted him a couple hours later telling him we were just friends and he took everything we did together to seriously and how we were best friends and had to stay best friends with no changes and he had to know it was only our friendship, and he told me we were just friends and that he wouldn’t let anything happen again and it made me happy bc I can’t lose him if he’s my friend unlike dating when you break up.

but since he hasn’t talked or tried to make plans and asks for his stuff back and the little we talk he isn’t the same he’s short and isn’t like his normal self towards me.

i got to see him the other day bc i was at a spot he hangs out at often and when i left he didn’t pay much mind no hug or anything he just walked away after he said it was good to see me and to take care

I'm starting to worry that i lost him and i don’t want to lose him what do i do?

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Too late, you sent too many mixed signals. He thinks you were playing games with his emotions and his head and he took you at your word.

He sees you only as a casual friend now. No more, no less. You no longer rank high on his list of importance. Count yourself lucky he doesn't completely block and ghost you, I would have already dropped you like a rotten egg after your behavior.

[Asker]

But I’m not trying to play games I just don’t want something to happen and then we break up and he’s gone forever and when we are together we just fit together and get extremely close and the thought of him being gone hurts and he’s always been there for me since I met him and he always told me how I was important to him and how I made him happy

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

That's exactly the point. Your sending this poor guy screwed up signals. He doesn't know to try to kiss you or ghost you so his best choice is to ignore the situation entirely.

That to him is a mind game regardless how you intended it.

You keep telling this guy " we are just friends " then make plans, ghost him, then get mad at him, then insisted your "just friends ", He treats you as a friend and your having a meltdown. ?

YOU with your actions have taken yourself off the top of his importance list to middle or bottom of that list.

You no longer qualify for his attention, congratulations, you got exactly what you wanted, a casual friend that doesn't give you a second thought now.

[Anonymous]

U are using them for validation. lol just friends with ex? U are really not worth it

[Asker]

I don’t think I’m using them for validation I genuinely want to be their friends, I’m friends with all my ex’s besides two…and this specific ex my friend knew about it bc i broke up with him when i was in the hospital bc he never even thought to check in to see if i was ok and i found out he was cheating on me, me and him were just friends though we talked daily but never met with each other tho

[Opinion Owner]

U are messed up. Your life is too. They deserve better tbh.

[Opinion Owner]

Friends with all your exes? U are weird as fuck. people have a life

[Asker]

I don’t think it’s weird, like almost all of them we are decent friends and I enjoy them being part of my life and I care to see them to be happy

[Opinion Owner]

How u both look

[Opinion Owner]

Describe your looks

[Asker]

Me and who? I just feel like I’m a average 5’9 blonde not skinny but not thick just average tall white girl

[Anonymous]

Here we have another one.

[Asker]

I wasn’t texting all the time it would be if we were at the house watching a movie or driving if we were at a event or dinner I wouldn’t be on my phone

[spartan55]

Sounds like he grew tired of your bullshit.

[Asker]

What should I do? Is there a chance he comes around and we can be close again

[spartan55]

Very doubtful.

[spartan55]

So you completely blew him off on the plans YOU made for Sunday, he asks how you are doing and YOU get mad about that? No wonder he's done with you. What a pain in the ass.

[spartan55]

If there is any 'coming around' it should be from you, starting with an apology for your conduct on Sunday.