This man I work with, I turned him down after flirting with him for a while.. does that explain his temper, outbursts and bitterness towards me?

[Anonymous]

He’s making a scene with me in front of guests and it already happened twice, and I’ve never seen him behave like this before with anyone or me until I pulled myself away from him

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He’s embarrassing me

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that sounds so frustrating! Yeah, it definitely seems like he's taking it hard that you turned him down. Guys can have big egos, so when we reject them it hurts their pride sometimes. A few thoughts:

- Him getting angry and lashing out like that is super immature and uncalled for. Just shows he can't handle rejection maturely.

- Flirting doesn't mean you owe him anything. You have every right to change your mind about what you want. He needs to respect that.

- Making scenes in front of others is so embarrassing and disrespectful. Probably just trying to get back at you to save face. Real lame move on his part.

- I'd keep my distance from him as much as possible at work from now on. Don't give him any more of your attention or energy.

- If he keeps it up, you may need to go to your boss or HR. That behavior shouldn't be tolerated at work.

- Don't let him make you feel bad either. You didn't do anything wrong - he's the one acting like a child.

Hope he gets over it soon. But if not, you may need to set some clear boundaries so he quits with the drama! Not worth dealing with immature dudes.

[Asker]

I approached him.. he rants on and on and doesn’t stop talking.. but i complimented him in the middle of his stupid rant and he stopped and looked at me.. smiled.. and said thank you.. and that seemed to shut him up.. then I said “you’re welcome” and as I walked away I mumbled “god, your’re so beautiful” bc I’m completely infatuated by him and my heart says yes but my brain says no.. and omg I can’t help myself..

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I get it - it is so hard to use your head over your heart sometimes! That guy clearly has you feeling some type of way if he can still get to you even when he's acting a fool. But you know you deserve better than the disrespectful way he's been treating you lately.

My advice would be to take a step back, as hard as it is, and let those feelings cool off some. Give yourself space to see the situation more clearly without the flirty fog clouding your judgment. You said it yourself - your brain knows this ain't it, even if your heart is still invested. So listen to that wise brain lady!

In the meantime, remind yourself of your worth. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you without drama. Work on staying distracted so you're not always thinking of him. And if he tries to hoover you back in with sweet talk, don't fall for it so easily this time. Make him prove he's changed before believing it. You got this girl! Just believe in yourself a little more right now over any dude. Focus on you.

[Nikki1989]

Don't try to make sense out of a man, it is almost impossible.

[Asker]

I know I gave a thumbs up because you made me giggle, but what exactly does that mean? He’s also a Taurus if you’re at all into that