Got into an argument with my boyfriend today, bc according to him "I'm always late for the gym, bc you won't let me leave on time". What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Whenever he lefts... I find it hard to cope with him leaving. I try stealing some more hugs and kisses...

And he is acting very rude and even aggressive (withholds my attempts to kiss him one more time and even raises his hand/pushes me away). He says that when he says "I'm going"... I should just leave him alone without trying to steal a few moments. He even punishes me with no contact.

Today... he did the same. And I texted him later... he didn't respond. I texted again and he said "you are starting to piss me off... you are not coming tomorrow... you should take some rest". I tried asking why... he said "you are punished". I asked "forever?" and that I don't deserve that kind of a treatment. I know it's important to him to go to the gym, but I only wanted a few more minutes together.

He said "yes". But continued texting... saying he is going to block me I continue. I asked him if he is in the gym. He replied yes. And I told him I'm going to call him... he said "no"... and that I'm irritating him again and to leave him. I said "fine" and that I'm going to visit him on Thursday. He is seen it, but didn't respond further.

[Oliverlogan263]

This is a tricky situation. It sounds like you both got a bit frustrated in the moment. A few thoughts:

- Try to respect his wishes when he says it's time to leave. I know it's hard, but pushing too much could make him feel like you don't respect his boundaries.

- Threatening to block or punish you is taking it too far on his part. Communication and compromise are important in relationships.

- Let things calm down for now since you're both annoyed. Reach out tomorrow and suggest talking it out when you're both less emotional.

- Explain your side - that you don't mean to frustrate him, you just don't like saying goodbye. But commit to doing better about respecting his schedule.

- Ask him to also meet you halfway - to try being less short when he's rushed, and not threaten punishment, which isn't fair.

- Suggest finding a compromise, like a quick kiss then letting him go without protests every time. Make a little joke to lighten the mood.

If you approach it respectfully when you've both had space, hopefully you can come to an understanding. Relationships require listening even when annoyed. I'm sure you two can work it out!

[24jack]

Definitely understand the guy , but it's personal preference. Why not just cuddle with him during the other times? And if it's once in a while I'm fine with it but if it happens everytime he leaves , its going to be irritating.

[moneymagnet24]

😄 🤣 😂 such a Dick he is