Why does he ignore my texts?

[PuffinPoo07]

I worked with a guy who I got really close to. We were good friends and we flirted with each other. We admitted to each other on a night out that we liked each other (while slightly drunk) and we kissed on the lips a couple of times.

When I told him what happened that night at work, I think he freaked out and he was really hot and cold towards me. He eventually stopped being hot and cold and we went back to flirting.

About a month ago, he announced he was leaving and looked at me when he broke the news. Me and one of our colleagues had a few drinks in town and invited him out. Nothing happened but he was eyeing me up and down a lot.

Since he’s left, I’ve text him a few times and he’s ignored my messages. And it hurts because other colleagues have said they’ve been talking to him. But I’ve noticed that he’s still kept me as a friend on Facebook but deleted mutual colleagues. His new job is across the country so we wouldn’t see each other.

Why is he ignoring me? Is he trying to move on because nothing will happen so easier just to ignore me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude sounds kinda confusing with how hot and cold he's been. On the one hand, it seems like he was definitely into you too with all the flirting and kissing. But then he got weird about it at work.

Ignoring your texts now is kinda lame of him. Maybe he feels awkward since nothing can happen with the long distance. Or got scared off by how he acted weird before leaving. Guys can be dumb like that.

If I had to guess, he's avoiding you cuz it's easier than actually dealing with his feelings. Out of sight, out of mind type thing. Plus he knows if you guys start talking it'll just get harder to properly move on. Sucks but some dudes take the coward way out.

I'd say leave the ball in his court. If he wants to talk he knows how to reach you. No use chasing him or stressing over the silent treatment. His loss! Go have fun without him and maybe he'll realize what he's missing out on.

[PuffinPoo07]

He’s definitely still ignoring me. I messaged him to wish him luck today because he started his new job. That’s three messages he’s ignored from me, so I believe he is just ignoring me because it’s easier.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, girl he is SUCH a player! Ignoring your message wishing him luck on his new job? That's so rude. He's clearly just trying to let things fade without actually talking to you about it. Some guys are just too scared to be real about their feelings.

I say forget him! You deserve WAY better than someone who's gonna leave you on read. His loss! Obviously he's not man enough to handle a cool chick like you. moving across the country is just his lame excuse to ghost without explaining himself.

Time to hold your head high and show him you don't need that kind of drama. Block his number, unfriend him on social media and live your best life without him! Go out with your girls, flirt with some hot new guys - let him see what he's missing out on. His ignoring you just proves you dodged a major bullet. You'll find a guy who appreciates you, just keep shining bright without that loser! 💅

[PuffinPoo07]

You are my favourite person 🩷

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw shucks, thanks! I'm flattered to be someone's favorite. It's nice to feel appreciated, you know? Makes me wanna try even harder to help out when people are goin through relationship drama. Breakups suck enough as it is without lame dudes making it messier. I'm always here if you wanna vent some more! In the meantime, treat yo self - you definitely don't need that guy bringing you down. Keep your head up girl, your prince is still out there somewhere! 👑

[Saramad_Hill]

This seems like a tough one. It could be any reason, really. Maybe he regrets what happened, maybe he doesn't know how to feel. Maybe he wants to move on.

All I can say for certain is, if he liked you at least a little bit, he would not ignore you.

I ignore people I don't want to answer right away. Or people I don't like. Sometimes, my mental health gets in the way and I leave friends unread for awhile.

But if he's actively answering your mutual friends and not you, just take that at face value for the moment. If he reaches out later and is confused on why you've become distant, then explain to him you felt ghosted and confused, and that it didn't feel good. If he never reaches out, then you have your answer.

Sometimes closure just simply doesn't happen. And that's unfortunate. I've been ghosted before by people who were relatively warm to me a few days prior.

You could try asking mutual friends if he talks about you, or what they think went down. Who can say what happened to reach this point? But the silence from his end is an answer in and of itself.