Should I stop sending him so many reels and texting him first?

[Anonymous]

I really like him, and we are definitely friends. But ever since he got Instagram recently, I have been sending him reels that I think he will relate to. He doesn’t normally respond often to texts, it’s like he only chooses to converse with me when he feels like it, not when I text him. He leaves a lot of reels/texts on read, and they are not even that much. He doesn’t have that much time in his hands with work, school, and practice, but shouldn’t he make a little more acknowledgement to my messages? How do I get him to be engaged in a conversation?
Normally, when I ask him a direct question when he is online, he responds fast. He also sends some reels as well when I send him a few when he is online. The problem is the reels and messages I send him when he is not online, he just checks them later and leaves them on read. Am I making him uncomfortable? I still want connections with him, what should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm it does seem like he's not putting in much effort to actually talk when you text. Leaving you on read is kinda rude, even if he's busy! Maybe slow things down a little and see how he responds.

I'd say cut back on sending him as many reels for now. Like only send one every few days or if you really think he'll love it. And wait a bit before texting him first all the time. Give him a chance to initiate some conversations too if he's interested.

If he doesn't start messaging you more when you're not the one reaching out as much, then he's probably not that into keeping the convo going. And you don't want to be annoying him with too many texts either!

Play it cool for a bit and see what he does. If he doesn't step up his communication, maybe take the hint he just wants to be casual friends for now. But give it a little time and space before deciding that. Hope this helps, keep me posted on what happens!

[cajunish]

Mirror his energy. Don’t be so available or too chatty if he doesn’t do the same. Have time for yourself and don’t appear needy

[Anonymous]

Reels?

What silliness is that?

[Asker]

Instagram reels, kinda like tiktoks

[Asker]

Essentially random little tidbits of information or funny meme/joke in video form