Is he really the person he paints himself to be?

[Anonymous]

so i have a crush on this guy in university, he's very cultivated and knows a lot about politics and philosophy (he even sounds like albert camus), plays guitar, posts pictures in museums, he's also very softspoken and loves cats, BUUUT yesterday i decided to check his followings because i got curious and i found a looooooot of girls (first red flag) and what was more unexpected is that he followed a lot of dark humored adult meme pages and liked post of their posts, also some normal meme pages who post lame memes made by middle schoolers (by the way he's 21), tbh that was a huge turn off and also confusing, like how the hell does the same guy who reads Kant and Aristolt and discusses political issues like a journalist be the same guy who likes vulgar sexual memes made by 14 years old, also based on the things he likes and few girls he follow i think he might also be into gothic girls, but the only ex of him i know is everything but a gothic (she's more of a sweet photography lover girl who watches kdrama, we're acually so much alike).

[Anonymous]

Yuck , such a girly think to drool on people online. He’s a red flag. Yuck

[Asker]

that's not even my biggest concern, because he knows most of these girls in real life, still a red flag but i'm more concerned about his questionable sense of humor

[Opinion Owner]

How old are u both. And it’s not a red flag if he knows these girls in college or school.

[Asker]

i'm 19 and he's 21, i'm not sure if he knows all the girls, well none of them are those half naked insta models, they are all normal girls, at first i thought that he knew all these girls, because i tried to follow him with a fake account before and he didn't accept my request and after few months i changed the profile pic and username and he accepted the request, so this made me think maybe he doesn't know all these girls

[Opinion Owner]

Hmmm. Definitely a red flag. How many followers and followings u both have

[Asker]

and also tbh even if he knew them it's still a red flag because 80% are girls and 20% are boys, a guy with a lot of female friends is still a red flag

[Opinion Owner]

I know right. He’s probably a transman. A biological female transitioned into male 🤣. So un masculine and insecure

[Asker]

i wanted to check now but his account disappeared, i think he temporarly disactivated it because we have finals soon

[Asker]

hhhhh so true, i thought he was better than that

[Opinion Owner]

How many followers and following he has

[Asker]

i wanted to check now but his account disappeared, i think he temporarly disactivated it because we have finals soon

[Opinion Owner]

Oh. Why do u even like him. Do the girls follow him back?

[Asker]

mostly yeah

[Opinion Owner]

Then they are friends. Random girls don’t follow u back