Boyfriend admitted that he treats me like shit, bc he knows "you are not going to leave". He does the same to his parents. Is there anything I can do?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday we had a conversation in which he admitted that he is treating me and his parents like shit, because he knows we will be by his side no matter what.

The conversation was about him being stressed out and releasing his anger and stress in the form of abusing us.

I told him that it ain't cool. He said that we know he doesn't do it on purpose.

Anyway... I catch myself always wondering where I stand in this relationship and even asking him constantly "will you punish me with silent treatment again?"

I want to save this relationship, but I don't know how... I guess him admitting that is one step in the right direction, but I don't know what to do.

[RavVid]

You can dump him. He is releasing his anger and stress on you and his parents by abusing you.

The problem here is you need a substantial personalty change in him and it is highly unlikely that he will change his nature. Most likely he will continue to treat you as his personal punching bag.

It is possible that psychiatry might address it or there might be some mood stabilizing medication possible. I think you will find that he is just an innately angry guy.

Maybe there might be more constructive he can release stress & anger e. g. a gym work out. If you walk away and stay away for a while when he does this that might motivate him to revise and correct himself. His parents might be allies for you.

However I think you have an innately angry guy that won't be changing his spots. I hope there is no physical abuse.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's a real pity you never looked at how he treated his parents before you got so deep into this relationship!

As for what can you do? There is plenty, but you have to show him the same kid of disrespect he shows you, AND you have to be prepared also for the relationship to end.

Can you do that?

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake do we really have to spell it out to you?LEAVE.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[DishLady]

Yeah... Leave. What tf are you still doing with this dbag?

[hahahmm]

I only read the title... and the answer is: leave.

A relative of mine wasted her whole life chasing/being with a dude like your boyfriend. He even charged her rent for living in his house. A house he owned, not a rental. Also told her she would have to leave her kids to be with him & she did. She later came back to the kids but still went back & forth to the boyfriend.

I would say you can do better, but until you actually have self-esteem nothing will change.

[Finchie40]

So you are saying you like being treated like shit? And you are basically telling him that it’s ok for him to treat you like shit as well, by you staying with him? So you honestly think he loves you and cares about you by treating you like shit? Ummmm Walk to other way and Leave

[HighValue]

Even though many women claim they want to be treated well, in reality, many women stay with people that treat them badly and easily get bored and leave people that treat them well. They SAY the opposite of what they actually do. You are still staying with him correct? See, that is just another example proving the point.

[Somoneelse]

Well the title and first paragraph already give me the "leave him" vibes. As he knows he's treating you like shit and purposelly does this. Leave him. He is very bad for you and there is no thing in saving this relationship when you are trying to fix it while he is purposelly the problemmaker.

[SotiCoto]

Clearly you need to incentivise him to change. If he believes that he can simply write his problems off as beyond help then perhaps what he needs is to suffer some consequences for those problems that make him want to try harder.

What I'm saying is that if he treats you like shit, treat him like shit twice as hard back.

[RebelinSteel]

Leave, but plan it as it sounds he would track you down and bring you back. Not sure about the country you are in but in the UK there are Women’s Refuges, these take in girls in positions like you describe.

[BCRanger10]

Surprise him then. Actually leave. Don't waste your time, energy, or heart trying to save this thing with this guy who openly admits to using you.

And yes, he does do this on purpose.

[JacobJordan]

You leave... are you daft? You want to save it then show him that him treating you poorly has consequences. Next time he does get up grab stuff and walk out.

[Billlewis]

You may eventually have to leave, if he's that bad. You're actually playing the role that guys usually play.

[Yannae]

You wanting to save this relationship is why he's right. Stop trying to save the relationship and look at saving yourself. My advice is to just leave.

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course there are things you can do. You can leave him and find someone better.

[Alex-Snow]

You can do better dump his ass especially if your sex life with him is lacking?

[Staximus]

That fact that he is conscious of his shitty behavior but continues to be a piece of shit means he just doesn't give a fuck. Leave him.

[onedarkcloud]

If you wish to keep your sanity say GOODBYE you are not going to fix it. Unless you like being abused.

[Dongie]

Kick him as hard as you can right in the nuts. That should fix his problem.

[BarryLiverstone]

Would be a good idea for him to look into healthier ways to cope

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Yes. Leave. We all teach, everyone we deal with, how to treat us with what we accept.

[Anonymous]

Leave or remove him from the gene pool those are the only cures

[HelpfulWoman]

should be fucking obvious.
LEAVE

[DrPepper12]

Bye dickhead! It's only gonna get worse.

[noohair]

Pack your shit and leave.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, leave.

[AngryCarl]

Yes, leave.

[shortster]

Leave

[Anonymous]

Leave.