Why did my boyfriend said sorry to a girl for having a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

A new female friend asked my boyfriend if he is single.. he denied it and told her that he is committed but also said sorry... and she was flirting with her.. which he rejected and said sorry if he hurt her feelings.

Why would he say sorry for it?

[_Maya_]

Because... he is polite. Rejecting someone isn't easy and the worst thing you can do is be an ass about it. He was sorry and I believe he genuinely was by the little details you give. He seems like the type of guy that has empathy and doesn't like rejecting people but know he has to do the right thing and let them know of his relationship status. That is being called a decent person. I see absolutely nothing wrong with him feeling sorry he had to do that. He knew that the other girl probably liked him. It isn't easy to let someone down. At the end of the day he did the right thing and was honest about having a girlfriend and felt bad he had to reject this girl.

[NamerOfStars]

Well said! It sounds like he was trying to let her down without hurting her feelings; something that no one with basic empathy wants to do.

[_Maya_]

@NamerOfStars Thank you

[AlinaJanowska18]

I think he is just trying to behave intelligently and not to hurt any feelings. The main thing is that he immediately said that he is faithful to you and rejected her attempts to flirt

[JakeShepard95]

Guys are used to being expected to be the ones to make the first move to instigate a relationship, any relationship, with a woman, and regardless of the number of those they have/had, ALL men have the experience of rejection, enough to know that it does not feel good, even when it's delivered gently, so us doing so ourselves is the least we can do.

[Aubrey97]

Presumably to soften the blow of the rejection. Also so she doesn't feel bad about herself at all. Everyone should be so polite.