A guy treated me really poorly (jeprodized my health) and it’s given me terrible anxiety, how do I get past it?

[Anonymous]

A guy manipulated me and used me for months, lead me on to believe he wanted more when he didn’t. I acknowledge my own fault for letting it continue. In the end he continued to behave like an F boy and even put my health at risk. He has never apologized, and for the last couple months I have had anxiety due to it. It really affected me, made me feel like I deserved that when I know I didn’t. I’ve gotten into working out, bettered my eating habits, yet my anxiety is still high. What can I do?

[Lowly_Grump]

That fella is about as pleasant as a bee sting in the eyeball, and his charm is as appealing as a dead slug on a salad, and now you're left feeling like you've been walloped with a wet sock, feeling like there's a flock of butterflies flapping their wings inside your stomach, and they're all wearing lead boots. It's no wonder you're feeling a bit wobbly. But here's the thing: you're stronger than you think. You're not a bowl of jelly; you're a mighty oak tree! Okay, maybe a sapling, but you get my point, you'll bounce back like a rubber ball off a castle wall!. I hope he steps on a thousand Lego pieces and that his underpants are forever wedged up his bum. That'll teach him! Because he is a total drip, a wet blanket at a bonfire, and a moldy slice of month-old bread, about as appealing as a pair of bicycle shorts on a bald eagle, and his manners are as pleasant as a porcupine's hug.

You, my friend, are worth more than his stinky, old, manipulated tricks! You shine brighter than the sparkly glitter on a unicorn's horn, and your resilience is as mighty as a kindergarten teacher on the first day of school.

So, here's what you do:
1: Imagine him in his tighty-whities, singing "I'm a Little Teapot" while doing a ballet dance—super duper uncool and embarrassing!

2: Now, picture yourself as a mighty warrior princess, riding a glitter-farting unicorn, waving a sparkly wand that shoots rainbow-colored sparks! That's your power, my friend—unique and extraordinary!

3: Finally, send him on a one-way trip to Dullsville, population: HIM! He doesn't deserve your time or thoughts anymore. Think of your mind as a beautiful garden, and pluck out those weeds of worry with your mighty, glitter-covered claws!

You got this, and I believe in you! That guy is a fart in the wind, and soon, you'll be soaring like an eagle again, leaving him in the dust where he belongs!

Hugs and sparkly glitter bombs! And you're a firework, so go explode with awesomeness!
Lowly_Grump

[hahahmm]

or he wanted more until he found out something about you that made him want serious with you less. I was always like that in life. On day 1 I had high hopes... and then she starts talking or shares a story about something she did and the rose colored glasses come off. Except I didn't bother sleeping with women just because I could. I just didn't think it was that important like some do.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s true… he knew I wanted something serious though, why not just respect that and leave me alone ya know?

[hahahmm]

Well, no relationship starts out at 100%. There's always a period of uncertainty. Some women get around that by pretending to be something they're not but that's not a good idea either.

[_Maya_]

It sounds like maybe you want to talk to your primary care doctor. He or she can either do one of two things. They can prescribe a short term medication to help with anxiety or suggest a therapist that can treat you. I think those are your best options to be honest. Anxiety doesn't just magically go away. You have to deal with it or let someone else deal with it. I am not for the drug option unless it is absolutely needed but it is an option and something that will work. I think starting by talking to your doctor is the best advice. If not the second best would be leaning on family or friends for support and hoping they will help ease that anxiety by talking it out with you. Hope you feel better soon.

[fantasticass]

I suggest you speak to your family doctor. They can give you medication to control your anxiety.

[nawtee_me]

Forgive him…. it is a choice you have to make. Forgiving him is not about him getting away with anything. It is about you are your mental health. Forgiving does not mean forgetting. It means you have settled it in your heart so that he has no control over your feelings. Right now he still does…. Forgive him and yourself and you will be able to move on past it….

[privateperson]

by being kind to yourself, loving yourself and not blaming yourself for what someone else did. It takes courage to trust someone - that's all you did.

[LordMadara]

congrats on your troll questioniare

you have been nominated alongside greats like Happywomen32 for the troll of the week awards 🥳🥳🥳

[Friendlybro79]

Get therapy. This is your best bet and I truly recommend it. A professional can help with these serious experiences you've encountered. Good luck

[DextroShade]

Choose better men. Stop chasing Chad and expecting him to be nice to you because you fucked him.

[onedarkcloud]

RUN, RUN FAST RUN FAR FAR AWAY because it never will change, and you're not going to change him he feeds off your actions

[turnpost]

You said nothing in details about the possible motives for his actions or what lead to what?

[OddBeMe]

Closure perhaps. You have things you need to tell him and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Talk to @madinahasabensheer she brags about how she does this to men. Maybe she can help you to "get past it".

[Hotboy_booblover]

Have sex with some other guy like me.. I am sure he will make you forget about shit..

[meepmeeperton]

My god will you just get over it already?

[LordMadara]

lgbtqi 🙆🏽‍♂️

[FunkyMonkee]

Do what most girls do, marry him!

[MrDaveAPSI]

Do you think maybe you just misread him?

[Asker]

I’ve thought about that before, but no I don’t think so? He would ghost and come back, flake on me, stand me up for dates, ignore me….

[MrDaveAPSI]

I think you just misread him hun. He's showing you he's not into you

[DishLady]

Get therapy.

[Anonymous]

Okay