How do I get over how terrible a guy treated me?

[Anonymous]

I was in a situationship for 2.5 years. Before you say anything, I know. I didn’t know my worth at the time and was suicidal. It was a cycle of him being nice, hurting me, and then waiting for a month to come back wanting to “try” again. The guy even called from different numbers after getting blocked. He emotionally abused me to the point I tried kms and was in a mental hospital for a week. Almost a month after, he messaged me wanting to explain himself. His explanation was that his “ex” had messaged while we were hanging out and it messed him up. Well, I figured out who the girl was (I know her) and it sent me spiraling. He was seeing her during the time I was seeing him. He would take her places while I was begging him to treat me like a human being. While I do think I’m pretty and so is the girl, she looked so opposite of me. He went on talking about how he saw a future with her, but he was done with it and wanted to try with me again. I told him about my health, and that I couldn’t handle being treated poorly again. He pretended to care and used me again.

I don’t know how to get over it because I’m so angry for letting it happen and my naivety. I’m not hateful, but I fantasize about horrific things happening to him. I also can’t stop comparing myself to the girl for the life of me. I would tell him that it’s fine to not see each other anymore, but he’d always come back. The girl was choosing between another guy and him. So, he was using me as a back up. Thankfully, she chose the other guy.

I think I’ve lost a lot of my ability to feel empathy, including toward myself. This isn’t the first relationship where I’ve been abused. I’m not talking about just romantic either. I’m actively working on healing. I no longer let people walk all over me, but the anger comes back. When people are rude, it quite literally feels like my head is on fire. I want to hurt them. I don’t in any way, but it takes a lot of control. I hate feeling that. How do I let things go?

[ohsheeT]

Okay first of all you need to take a very big deep breath.

And understand this and I mean understand it to the deepest part of your soul this guy is nothing but pure evil

There are evil people in the world that want to bring you over to that side to make you exactly like them it's like a holy war going on right now and it's evil versus holy

When they're that evil they don't care about anything except for them and that dark side here you are wanting to kill yourself and he's trying to help you do it by the things he's saying to you that's how f****** ugly and dirty evil he is

You need to understand this I don't care how smart you think you are I don't care how strong you think you are that is his goal to f****** harm you and take you to that side or let you die kill yourself that's what he wants that's how evil that person is you need to understand that in your heart

Once you understand that you will never talk to him again because you know he trigger something inside of you every time and makes you start thinking something that's not happening because he's evil that's what they do

There are people that are going to come in your life each and every day if they start drama with you get up and walk away anybody that creates drama with you they want to take you to that side anybody that loves you and wants to help you they will help you get up and walk away because they know your strengths they know who you want to be and who you choose to be

In the moment it's happening you need to realize it and not even listen just get up and go I don't care what's going on you need to get up and go

With evil people they keep coming back and coming back and coming back cuz they know eventually they're going to get you and that's where you're at right now I was going to take is one or two or three more times whatever are you not listening to your heart and they've got you it's over do not allow it to happen

You were not put on this Earth for that to happen to you you were put on this Earth to help people to give to people to love people to complete opposite of that guy that guy will never love you no matter what he tells you he will never ever love you ever he doesn't even like himself

Knowing this this is how you get over it the guy is trying to kill you he is dirty he is evil he is discussing he's f****** a piece of s*** that right there alone should make you think what am I doing with him why is it so hard to get over here it shouldn't be hard at all you should look at that guy with nothing but disgusting hate and walk away when he comes around her not when he comes around let me take that back if he ever comes around look at him and smile and say get the f*** away and walk away if he keeps talking to you just ignore it and keep walking remember that's his job in life is to suck you up suck everything out of you and make you f****** go to his side f*** him I wish I knew you right now I'm so pissed off I wish I knew you because I would hunt that f***** down

There's nothing in this world that pisses me off because he's not a bully he's worse than a bully I hate f****** bullies but I would go and f****** pick him up by his throat and drop him like so hard we're just doing this to you bullies are just punks this guy's f****** evil

How do you get over him you ask yourself what you want in life you write it all down what you want in life what is going to make you happy in life and then you write down on the other side what you don't want in life and there should only be one thing keep that mother f***** away from me

Okay now that I've said all this I want you to understand something about love and who you are
You put love into your heart real true pure love you can't love anybody like that ever there's no such thing you either become like that or you stay away from that
There is a thing in this world people know as karma karma does not have until almost the end of your life when you think things are good like these bad people are evil people they think they have a good or whatever that's when karma will kick in

But first what kicks in is called cause and effect this is what's happening to you the cause is him that affect is your life

Vice versa what he's doing to you is not holy it's evil so there is a thing called Love yourself love others love this universe become one with self become one with others and become one with the universe when you can do that the universe has your back and I mean it totally has your back because the universe is all is the creator of all you become one with a fabric of life because everything on this planet is the universe it's all built into one we all need to become one evil is not allowed there the fabric of life the universe our holy power our God everybody that is tied to it will come together because they have your back in this guy will disappear in a hard blink something that will happen to him something crazy something disgusting outrageous like he will get smashed by two garbage trucks headed to each other he'll be right in between them

Anyway you need to find you you need to let all the drama all the garbage all the anger all the b******* out of your system drain it completely drain it and restart over you can't have any of that in you anymore that's the way you walk away that's how you get over it you know down deep in your heart if you have one little hair of this still in your body it will still start growing like cancer and just keep growing and growing until it takes you over f*** that don't allow that to happen let it all go and walk away and the only way you can do that is love yourself and understand how f****** evil this guy is I understand how evil is I hear what he has done it is so wrong I would not allow my friends if you were my sister or even my friend I would have already went to this guy and he would never come back and see you again I guarantee that and you have to do that for yourself this is not a hard thing this is the most positive thing in the world that you could do for yourself you need to do it and you need to do it now don't even think about him anymore don't even think about that girl don't think about any of those people you need to stay away from all of them because they're all the same evilness and they're all together to take you out change your life change who you hang with become who you want to become you need to make a choice right now and whatever choice you make is going to happen it's that simple it is that simple you either take happiness or you take sadness in life there's two sides to everything two sides to everything you do you have to be able to look at both sides you have right wrong yes no hello goodbye positive negative love hate beautiful ugly and you will see what side you want to live on you will see what side you want to go with you have two choices is that simple there's nothing else what choice do you want

When you were born you were given a choice you were given a gift of choice you choose who you want to be in life by the things that you say and do make that choice which side do you want and live by it never allow the other side to ever interfere in anything ever again ever you need to be that strong because I tell you what if you cannot do that for yourself right now I just say good luck because you're going to need it you start drama for yourself it's going to be ugly if you feel sorry for yourself it's going to get ugly there's no such thing as any more drama only love and real emotions there's no more thinking of other negative things you have to keep it all out of your life

Because you went to the deep end of the pool you're lucky that you're even still here and there's a reason for that and you know what that reason is it's the complete opposite of that guy believe me it's time for you to wake up it's time for you to make a choice and follow through this is not even hard this is not even a decision you should have to make you should just do it how do you get over it you let it go you accept it and you let it go that's it it happened it's over and let it go never bring it back acknowledge it say okay it happens I'm still here I'm going to become happy now and let it go do not ever let it enter back into your heart mind soul Spirit brain relevant let it go so what it happens you just paid the price for it to happen you paid the whole price you're paid up you're clear there's nothing left go out and start living life and smile I'm serious you have to let it all go good luck I know you can do it anyway

[Makeushiver]

It takes time to regain your confidence and there is nothing like a con man or woman to make you distrust everything and everyone you encounter for the next decade or more. You sound like you are healing which is all you can hope for. Just remember time heals all wounds and wounds all heels

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to help you navigate the tricky waters of relationships! Dealing with a toxic situationship can be as exhausting as running a marathon in heels, right? 😅 First, remember it’s okay to feel angry. You gave your all and deserved better. How about channeling that fire into self-love? Start surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care and validate your emotions. Tiny steps like that help restore your empathy and zest for life. Looking ahead, dream about the fabulous person you are growing into, one who won't need to fantasize about revenge because they’ve thrived beyond the drama. Keep that pep in your step, love! 🌟

[glennos89]

Choose someone that is your friend zone. Those are the guys you really want. I think you are attracted to toxic man

[Danny_dan92]

Moving on