So why are some men so rude when you don’t flirt with them? Why can’t they just accept it and be respectful?

[Summerlazing]

I’ve had this a few times now. One time I started a new job. At that point I was married and this one guy was flirting with me, but he had a girlfriend and tried to hide that fact from me. I newer flirted back, but I was always polite and friendly. However, after about a month he became rude and would be short tempered and patronising with me.

Another time, in another new job a senior Consultant in the department of the hospital I worked in was overly friendly and would try flirting. I was then single, but he was married, so again, I was polite and friendly, but I didn’t flirt back. Again he was like this for a few months, and then he suddenly became rude and patronising towards me. And whenever I ran into him after that, and we made eye contact he would practically sneer at me, occasionally looking me up and down. It actually made me incredibly uncomfortable and it was totally inappropriate. I was always friendly and never rude, I try to be kind, but this behaviour really gets on my nerves. What is with these kind of men?

[Anonymous]

Literally for the same reason women can't.

[Summerlazing]

I guess I’m not like that otherwise I’d get it!
I’m only really a flirty person with very specific people.

[Opinion Owner]

It's OK, you're getting kind of old so it should start owing down now.
I had a woman harass me for two years because I rejected her advanc es. I was respectful as well, it didn't matter.

[Opinion Owner]

Slowing down* not owning.

[Summerlazing]

I’m not sure where you’re getting the idea I’m up to so much I need to “slow down”?
I commented on experiences I’ve had, with a couple of different men, with whom I worked. They tried to flirt with me but I DIDN’T flirt with them? How does that imply that I need to “slow down”?