Is it true some guys flirt by being very rude?

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Matt_M · Accepted Answer

Not exactly. I suspect you're thinking of a phenomenon called "negging," which is a concept developed by the online Pick-Up Artist "community" as a way of emotionally manipulating women into sleeping with them.

The psychology behind this concept is to use back-handed compliments as a way of placing women on the defensive so that the PUA can control the interaction. For example, instead of coming right out and saying "you're ugly," you might say something like, "I normally go for women hotter than you but, in your case, I'd make an exception."

Not only does this throw a woman off her guard, it also presents the Pick-Up Artist as a sought-after commodity who other women are chomping at the bit to hook up with. This implies that the woman he's currently talking to is lucky he's giving her the "opportunity." And now that you know how this tactic works, you will hopefully be able to recognize it for what it is and not give these douchebags the time of day.

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

i would say some guys, specially younger guys are insecure about displaying affection, cause they wanna avoid being hurt by rejection and haven't yet accepted that this just can't be avoided. so they are kind fo playfully rude. but you'll definitely notice that it's not mean spirited. the catch is tho: people who are legit just assholes may do that too.

SuckOnThisOpinion · Accepted Answer

Some of them do, as there are some sexist beliefs in as least Western societies about how boys will be mean and throw stones at you when they like you instead. This came with the idea that being vulnerable and communicative about one's feelings isn't suited for a boy or men, and whilst they eventually learn to flirt differently, the basic believe and approach will stay inherent unless it is thoroughly and consciously reflected and worked on. This is apparent through beliefs such as men having to be "dominant" when it comes to sexual encounters, leading to many instances were women's boundaries are crossed as consent is assumed rather than inquired about. It's getting better in the newer generations due to feminist movements but like ya know. Some do, some don't, get yourself some that are kind so the others get the fucking message is my advice.

MoonFace2 · Accepted Answer

Yes. It’s mostly teenage boy behaviour or tactics from immature or emotionally abusive men. Unless they’re just being snide to take the piss (in fun).

HawkPerception · Answer

If you're talking about immature guys that have 0 emotional intelligence and still aren't past their elementary school phase, then yes.

ShellyB · Answer

Yes, but not the guys who have girlfriends lol.

WonderingManII · Answer

I asked Google AI.

some guys flirt by being very rude?

Yes, some individuals, particularly men, may express flirtatious interest through rude or abrasive behavior, a tactic often referred to as "negging". This involves making deliberately negative comments or compliments, attempting to undermine someone's confidence and create a need for their approval.
Here's a more detailed explanation:
Negging:
. Opens in new tabThis is a specific type of flirting where a person makes backhanded compliments or negative remarks to appear charming or appealing. The goal is to manipulate the other person into seeking their approval.
Indirect Flirting:
. Opens in new tabSome individuals may find direct flirting too risky, so they may use indirect strategies like teasing, joking, or friendly banter to gauge interest.
Rudeness as a Flirt:
. Opens in new tabIn some cases, rude or abrasive behavior might be used as a form of attention-seeking, even if it comes across negatively.
Immaturity and Communication Issues:
. Opens in new tabA person who uses rude flirting might be immature or have difficulty communicating their true feelings. They may struggle with expressing their interest directly or fear rejection.
Unwanted Flirting:
. Opens in new tabIf someone is being rude or overly pushy in their flirting, it could be considered unwanted sexual advances or even sexual harassment. It's important to set boundaries and let the other person know that their behavior is not acceptable.
Responding to Unwanted Flirting:
. Opens in new tabIf you are experiencing unwanted flirting, Calm suggests trying to remain calm and address the situation firmly but respectfully. It can also be helpful to practice assertive communication to make it easier to set boundaries.

MisterWack · Answer

If you are a rude, you are not flirting . If there are guys / girls like this, it is ineffective & will be off-putting to every person you try to get to know better. Treat people with kindness, dignity, respect, compassion not disgust & a feeling of unwelcome.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a tactic to make the other person feel self-conscious. It makes you feel “below them” so that you constantly feel like you need to win their approval. It’s completely wrong in my opinion. Toxic and very low of people to do, even if it ends up working.

Maybe that’s why I’ve literally always been single, into my 30’s. I don’t believe in manipulation tactics. Sue me, right?

snowboarder720 · Answer

Yeah, definitely. I’ve seen girls do the same thing. It’s immature and a thing of adolescence. When someone doesn’t know how to flirt or talk to the opposite sex it basically turns into fight or flight; meaning they avoid it at all costs or simply bully it.

zagor · Answer

There is a circle of thinking that the way to get women is to treat them like shit.

I remember discussing with a guy I worked with how he, a very polite nice guy, had trouble getting girls while his redneck shitkicker brother treated girls badly and they flocked to him.

Alvin1997 · Answer

I know a girl who is very serious all the time so I just go and mess with her just so she can get flustered or a little annoyed but trust me her reactions are absolutely adorable😌 she is so cute when is is pouty but i wouldn’t call it rude just a tease.😜

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think so. Some guys might say things they think are flirting and it comes off as rude, but actually flirting by purposely being very rude? I don't think that's too common.

Where did you hear this?

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

That is how a little boy flirts, a guy or man will be more direct with the flirting, a boy will be rude because he has no respect, best to ignore these guys unless you just want a one night stand.

Communicationisking · Answer

Yeah they push your buttons to get a reaction and some girls fall for it and regret it because the guys who do it are usually messed up in one way or another

blueonblack22 · Answer

Yeah young guys especially think the asshole approach makes them more attractive.  This is at times very sadly true but it only works of the guy knows how to push and pull with it.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I wouldn't say flirt, although it's possible for a guy to tease when he's interested, I wouldn't call it flirting tho, it might be their unique way of bonding with you depending on the person.

Nonamez · Answer

You confused my mind with this question, if the guy is being rude , then this is not a flirting or is this something new again and I just don't now latest trends how todays guys talk to girls when they are interested in them? 👀😬😳😅🙈

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I imagine that's probably true. It's an extremely ineffective way to flirt, but I've realized that there are a whole lot of guys out there who are quite socially retarded.

Levin · Answer

Teasing and being rude are different things. A bit of teasing is part of the armoury, in the right context...

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Yes some guys do that. It's something guys learn in grade school. Like you pull a girl's pigtails to make her notice you. Some guys never grow out of that, or they revert to it for some reason.

jshm2 · Answer

Its called "negging" and guys and girls who display it, aren't people to trust.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Seems like some are still ten, I think to much gaming and not enough talking, right?

NathanOlipop · Answer

When I was a child, yes. If I'm rude today, it's because I feel like you've attacked me. In both cases, you should probably not be in a relationship with me so don't feel bad.

Shamalien · Answer

Yup lol I’ve done it. It’s called being playful, and it’s a great way to see if a person is fun. I usually tell em I’m kidding and smile so they know I’m not too serious

Makeushiver · Answer

I can't imagine that being a successful approach.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Sometimes we're accidentally rude just because we're attracted to you but we don't know what to say.

Mountains4You · Answer

I used to do it a little bit. It garnered me some more attention sometimes.

David_beckham · Answer

I don't think that guys flirt by being "very rude," but I do agree that some guys do flirt by teasing or irritating.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what you consider rude. Yeah, I just ridicule the hell out of her. For some reason women like that.🤷‍♂️

noohair · Answer

It is more like reverse flirting. But they like you anyway.

Tomisworthless · Answer

I used to think thats how women flirted with me, turns out they just really really hated me

incompletehore · Answer

yes it's called deflection and a form of sugar coating so they can ultimately say it wasn't flirting in case it doesn't land or is rejected

Anonymous · Answer

Dunno about being rude. But umm I only pick on girls I like.

GodDixon · Answer

I did that in like elementary school. Then again, not everyone grows up.

Koynnky · Answer

Effeminate boy men probably. They want attention and will do any thing to get it good or bad

Hostejrje · Answer

males generally will do or say literally anything to get laid.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes but they don’t flirt very well lol

Elliegirl · Answer

It’s true for immature guys

Kori1236 · Answer

Little boys with 0 emotional intelligence do.

paledreams · Answer

Or obnoxious lol 😆😆 not that I would know 😜

Radiate143 · Answer

That's not flirting. It's abuse.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes. There's even a name for them: 5th graders

Wise4myage · Answer

That makes no sense to me.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Negging is a PUA method.

elaphe · Answer

Immature guys might do that.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Confident Guys might do it.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, guys are assholes.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes the don't know how to talk to girls

Lois35 · Answer

A MAN wouldn't.

Ariesman81 · Answer

You're dumb

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Maybe, 12 year olds?

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Nope.

kaucky1 · Answer

That is true

MasterKS · Answer

is it even works?

Curiosity868 · Answer

Absolutely

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Smh 🤦‍♂️

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