Guy in management keeps staring at me sexually?

Question

I just started a job and one of the higher up managers keeps staring at me when I’m not looking, even when I first met him he kept staring at my crotch area. I don’t wear revealing clothes, I just have a curvy shape that’s hard to hide so not sure what to do considering I am not really offended just curious what he’s thinking

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

The thing about a guy is that he has x-ray vision. There's a part of a man's brain that is like an advanced CAT scan at the hospital and can instantly strip any woman. Some of us train our minds to switch this off so we can focus more on say work, hobbies or whatever. Some dudes don't learn to switch it off. It doesn't really matter what you wear EXCEPT that the more revealing clothes are easier to scan and take less mental energy and attract the eye faster. Just like a steak on a plate attracts the hungry man's eye faster than cows in the field.

Anyhow... nothing you can do about it except ignore. Or casually mention how your boyfriend just got out of prison for killing a guy who touched you OR how your husband is a special forces vet who broke a guy's back for flirting with you. Suddenly this manager won't notice you anymore at all. Of course feminists won't like this because it points out that women do need men for protection. Even imaginary men.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

I don't know what you should or shouldn't do, I geuss do whatever you feel you need to.
I just wanted to give my male experience. I try to not to noticeably look or stare, hell I try not to look at women that way at all, especially when they are wearing normal professional clothes that cover up, but sometimes a nice round butt catches my eye and it can be hard to avoid looking when I know it's there.

So not victim shaming, not saying women need to dress like nuns and not saying I'm allowed to look, just saying sometimes it's a struggle to not look at a attractive lady.

coxoabean · Accepted Answer

You could ask him what his deal is. In a nice way obviously. I have that happen often and overtime it gets annoying. It's not very respectful for guys to just stare at a girl in a sexual way, but sometimes they don't seem to be thinking either. I would ask him about it.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

You're probably visually his type, but as long as he doesn't approach you or say anything possibly sexual to you it's difficult to report it. If he makes you uncomfortable just stay a safe distance away from him.

Anonymous · Answer

How do you know for sure? Honestly these days a lot of women can say whatever as far as men. When in reality that isn’t always the case. A lot of women call men narcissistic but in reality it was cause he didn’t give into all her demands or wouldn’t give t her $500 for a bag. A lot of women are delusional. A man can tell a woman the truth but because she doesn’t like how he delivered the message now he’s a million different words like controlling, insecure. Maybe he just looks down a lot. I know I do especially when I’m trying to avoid interacting w people I don’t want to interact w. If he really is looking at you chances are he likes you. Why not go up to him, talk to him. Make things a little less awkward by breaking that ice.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

He's thinking that he wants to have sex with you.

And maybe he's thinking that he needs to stop staring because he doesn't want want to get fired for sexually harassing you.

But mostly he's thinking about stripping you naked and having sex with you.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you're not offended, or it doesn't make you uncomfortable while at work, why do anything? Are you seriously wondering what he's thinking, or any man is thinking, if they stare at your crotch? He's NOT thinking "wow, her clothes fit really well. What a fashionista!"

Sharkstealth · Answer

Leggings definitely attract my attention. I have an appointment for waxing and a very cute girl works the front desk. She had tight black leggings on and of course I snuck a peek at her ass and crotch. It was right in front of me. She had recently had her nails done with cool 4th of July stars and I told her that they were cool. She liked that and said thank you. I want to fuck her of course but I didn't hit on her.

MinnieMousse · Answer

I’d try moving away from him and if he keeps following you, then you could tell upper management about him.

JesseP1nk · Answer

My question is how you know they are looking at you while you are not looking at them? That does not make sense. If you see them looking at you meaning you look at them.

Keyboardkat · Answer

As long as he doesn't do anything to act on it, I guess you're all right.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Wow, first world problems. Stop melo dramatic.

noohair · Answer

My father gave me advice when I was young. He told me to keep my personal life separate and away from work. I believe that is was excellent advice. He is an idiot.

nawtee_me · Answer

Ask him, he may just be trying to judge your mannerisms since you are new and doesn’t want to stare at your breast….

handsomelad70 · Answer

Complain to your Human Resources Department about his creepy behaviour towards you.

jimmy2 · Answer

Look I work in prison and I went part time and every weekend I had to strip men down and no they are like every man not big unless you pump it up

Anonymous · Answer

Is he former law enforcement or military?

zombiewoof · Answer

What do you want to do

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Are you hot? Don’t be surprised.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Wants his face between your legs clearly

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