Is it normal for men to have hidden meanings behind calling a woman pretty or beautiful? Or do they often simply mean just that?

[Anonymous]

[nolabels]

I can only speak for myself.

This depends on if those words are spoken directly to the woman, or if they're spoken of from afar, perhaps to a friend or just to the air surrounding said lone man.

When I do so from afar, it's as if in appreciation of a wonderful work of art, or a moving piece of music.
My day has been affected in a positive way for maybe just a moment or so, and life continues on.
The memory of such beauty may reenter my consciousness from time to time in the following hours or days, enriching my life.

If such a comment is extended directly to this lovely lady, there could be a range of meanings intended by myself, from simply being so struck by such beauty that the word or words simply fall from my mouth, unbidden by myself; through a continuum of intended meanings up to that indicating that I feel that I must get to know this person and my opening overture to her is to vocally acknowledge that I find her to be beautiful in my eyes.

[MrOracle]

Certainly, there are some men who scheme and plot and lie, but the vast majority of men say exactly what they mean (except for some guys who struggle to get the right words out, especially if they are nervous).

Lots of men work in dangerous environments, where communication MUST be direct and to the point or things break or people get hurt, so most of us tend to use simple, clear, direct language, and we certainly tend to talk to other men that way. We don't use hints or subtext as a rule, outside of a small minority of very privileged, usually very catty men, who most other men don't respect.

[ProbablyClueless]

That's not normal. I would say that probably 97% of the time, a comment like that should be taken on it's face.

The vast majority of men don't have the social skills or awareness to do the whole "hidden meanings" thing. It's literally just not in the tool kit. For the men who DO have that ability, they're most likely going to know that calling someone beautiful is a really weak way to deliver a hidden meaning.

It's just not a good statement to have layers of nuance; it doesn't have that depth of meaning.

[ohsheeT]

All men are different..
There are ones that are totally being honest and then there's ones are totally lying to you to try to get something from you.

And you can tell them both apart just by looking into their eyes as they speak to you

A man that's being honest
We'll see what he has to say and that's it

A man that is lying to you will say what he has to say
But then we'll keep talking about more and more and more just to keep that lie going..

[Asker]

I had a guy I was dating once, I actually had really liked him but things just didn’t work out. Anyway, he would often just look at me and say “You’re so pretty” “I love your dimples and the way you cheeks rise when you smile.” “I love how feminine you are without even trying” “I love your eyes and how they glow.” Etc etc etc and in the beginning I swore he was just telling me what he thought would make me feel good. Until I slowly realized all those things he pointed out to me that he found attractive and felt made me pretty, was actually real lol. I don’t say that arrogantly but in a truthful way. I do have dimples, my cheeks do rise very high when I genuinely laugh/smile, I do sometimes do feminine things naturally such as cross my legs when I sit or when I stand and my eyes do have a glow to them. I guess that’s another way to tell if a guy is being honest or just lying. What he says is not made up but real

[ohsheeT]

So the moral of the story is know who you are and love yourself first..

Because you can tell when a guy is feeding you bullshit and when the guys being honest all you have to do is look into their eyes and listen to their words.

Because if they're lying to you they're going to tell you the truth and the same exact sentence you just have to be paying attention to listen

[OfMiceandMen]

Whenever I use it, it is just mean to be a compliment, no hidden meaning or trying to hit on her.

The way I see, it so many people (men and women) are insecure about their looks, even when they shouldn't be, so I said to myself what better way to spread a little happiness around then to just randomly say they are looking good today or that they are beautiful.

[Finchie40]

The only hidden message he isn’t saying out loud , is the fact that he more than likely wants more with her , and wouldn’t mind banging her. Most guys’ are very visual when it comes to seeing a beautiful girl , So when we tell a girl she is beautiful , we are basically implying we are interested in her and wouldn’t mind getting to know her more. Hoping she will be interested in us as well. It’s a compliment , we are complimenting her hoping she will compliment us back basically

[hahahmm]

Men use words like tools in the garage. Simple. To the point. Does one job. Women use words like the ingredients in the pantry and she can whip it up into any of 5,000 different meanings depending on her mood. This is why women often seem crazy from the male POV.

You overthink stuff all the time.

[HawkPerception]

Some guys could be saying whatever just to get in a girls pants. You have to learn to read which ones are genuine about it and which ones just want to get in bed with you.

[Mr_twoface]

I would say in general men have no hidden agenda calling someone pretty or beautiful. It is the action they take thereafter which may have an agenda assigned to it.

[BlkM84]

Depends. Some may have a hidden meaning behind it, others will genuinely mean it. If I call a woman beautiful, I mean it. Nothing more to read into.

[Asker]

I guess it depends on context and what he does after the compliment. Like if he sees you and calls you pretty and chooses to continue to get to know you and possibly date you then it’s likely he meant it but if he says it constantly to you each time he sees you, even when you’re not looking your best, you guys aren’t dating, you aren’t an item, he isn’t trying to get to know you etc he may have a hidden meaning behind it.

[Asker]

Because then it’s like? What are you telling me for? Lol

[BlkM84]

I understand what you’re saying
Sometimes though, us guys can be infatuated with a woman, not necessarily want to date, but just find some women so beautiful and attractive, we compliment them often
And I get it, you may not want to hear it often cause it sounds like we’re up to more than just a compliment…lol

[HotManPlayboy]

When I see you looking really beautiful, I call you beautiful. For example, even if I see a beautiful woman while walking on the road, I say "you look so cute" and continue on my way.

[LiamJHayden]

Some men , maybe most, use those terms as manipulators. Others just say them meaning just that and carry on with their day or life.

[SotiCoto]

They have motivations. I wouldn't go so far as to call them "hidden" though.

[Anonymous]

I have never put hidden meaning in those terms.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah men don't do that. We say what we mean.

[DishLady]

A good guy -- a real man, I should say -- will say things straight up... no hiding, no bs... But there are also cowardly guys who are immature and don't communicate with others directly, so the hidden meanings do then get generated. It's not something a good person would choose to do.

[Juxtapose]

@DishLady I haven't seen men like that since I last watched a politician talk or encountered a teenager.

But then again even when I do hang around degenerates I make sure they are not cowardly degenerates.

[Juxtapose]

Actually if I include online interactions then the bitch level increases exponentially from then but online interaction is its own beast really.

[Juxtapose]

*from men

[DishLady]

They're around... more like jellyfish than men because they don't step up and speak in a straightforward or honest manner. They're usually busy trying to crack the code to a girl's chastity belt (so to speak). Guys can be WAY different around other guys than they are around girls.

[Juxtapose]

@DishLady ever walk into a card hobby shop with one of your friends being the only woman there (besides you)? As soon as she stepped in, they all looked at her and it was so creepy.

I am obsessed with women and sex but I really can't get why some guys act so damn desperate. You should be able to live without it.

[DishLady]

Actually, I *have* been that woman bc I'd take my son when he was little. Endless weekends of comic books, trading cards, then ice cream. I've never cared whether all or none of the guys are looking. I don't exist for them, plain and simple. A guy's gotta work to get my actual attention.

Some guys just are... and some girls are also. Dishonestly it's not gender-specific. I try to cull it out of my life as soon as I spot it... like an unwanted patch of weeds in an otherwise lovely garden.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah, it seems pretty annoying. On one hand I am envious of how much attention women get on the other hand not so much.

[noohair]

Men are simple, not complecated. It is part of courtship.

[serious]

No, there are no hidden meanings in that.

[RavVid]

We call it as we see it.

[Makeushiver]

Sometimes a cigar is simply a cigar

[Dongie]

Ain't no skin and bone. We mean it.

[OtterMan68]

take it at face value

[spartan55]

Not often, always.

[OddBeMe]

Sex isn’t a hidden meaning for us.

[jahaims]

No lol

[shortster]

Just that

[ChinaGrove]

Probably