Please tell me he means it this time? Read below because I'm genuinely actually afraid for my safety?

[Brokenheartedx]

He's been in and out my life for 12 years, we were never dating more casual. Then he dumped me, his words were we are done over text. Then the texting started to bait me to respond like want sex and even asked me to have a 3 some when I told him to eff off hed give me abuse and get others to give abuse, so I changed number. Then it was dating sites I used, he'd let me know I knew it was him,, things like *mine* you'll never get better than me *I'll have you anytime anyplace anywhere* in different aliases, Over 2 years hindering me from moving on, then it was kik, I'd delete his chats and ended up deactivating it. Peace until 2 years ago an email I junked that straight away.. Few weeks ago strange email address I didn't recognise so responded. We did chat and met up for sex then he went hot and cold on me. Then arranged meet up again where I stupidly gave him my address, he said he was coming straight after work didn't show, so I sent 3 messages asking where he was, no answer and an email telling him never to contact me again. Then next morning a barrage of abuse, how I was a rat, he didn't trust me, I had mental health issues and he said that he was putting an end to this pronto.. Please tell me he means it? I'm absolutely scared now because he knows I'm capable of cutting him off and now he knows where I live.

Does he mean it?

He doesn't mean it and is he hellbent on making my life a misery?

[DryGermanGuy]

I think you should have a serious talk with law enforcement, at the very least to create a record about that guy and at best to have them directly investigate him or give him an undeserved shot in front of the bow:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Revenge_porn
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity_theft
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking

[Brokenheartedx]

I threatened him when he was calling me names, I said if he contacted me again or even opened his mouth about me the screenshots would see the inside of a police station. His reply was ok

[DryGermanGuy]

I am assuming you don't trust him to have really gotten the message, otherwise you would not have posted this question?

[Brokenheartedx]

Not now no, if he'd had just ignored me I'd have been fine with that but the full blown attack on me the next day is him reverting back to treating me poorly like in the past. I just deactivated my messenger. A few weeks ago he kept asking were I lived, he asked a few times and I didn't tell him, then he said he watched a video recently of me in leather jacket doing a sex act on him from 10 years ago. Who even keeps them if they've been in several relationships later?

[DryGermanGuy]

Exactly. So what I wrote earlier stands. If I were you I would not "muse" about it on G@G, I would talk to law enforcement and get a professional opinion, weigh your options and get ahead of this awful game instead of constantly being forced to react (which is typical stalker m. o. ) .

[HollyK21]

Only time will tell if he means it, but for now I’d say to do your best to cut him off. He keeps attacking you with abuse because you still allow him to have access to you in one way or another. If you block him on everything and stop feeding into his abuse, assuming he’s not some type of psychopath he will back off disappear completely. I doubt he’s someone to be “afraid” of, just a bitter man who can’t put his ego to the side.

[Brokenheartedx]

I don't understand it, I'm not his type he'd say things like I pick them over you, his type are bigger women with big boobs, I'm slim with small boobs. Even when he was dating them he was at me asking to meet up, one even had his baby and he was asking me to meet him. He's a clown.

[HollyK21]

If sex is involved at all, you don’t have to be his type for that. He’s going to the women who aren’t giving him a hard time, and berating them when they do, like he’s doing with you. He can’t let you walk away peacefully, he’s too egotistical to be “left” and feels the need to tear the woman down who’s trying to discard him, most likely because he was treated that way in the past. Men like that are just big ass children, he needs to grow up and learn to be a better person.

[Alli112]

He sounds unstable and you should probably been finding outside help. If you fear for your safety go to the police, bring any messages, etc. At the very least inform the people around you, ie. trustworthy neighbors, friends, family, etc. Have people walk you home at night, avoid contact, etc.

[Brokenheartedx]

I'm not saying I'm innocent in this, at the start when he dumped me I begged and pleaded, I mean total meltdown. But after the abuse I changed my number.. But the dating sites the getting my Kik name on it under fake name is just to much.. Then he says he has videos from years ago doing stuff on him because he told me when we met, said I was wearing a leather jacket.. I remember it because it was 10 years ago!

[DishLady]

If you’re TRULY afraid for your safety get off the computer and go file a police report and get a restraining order. Stop generating drama and go SOLVE your problem.