Why do all guys call me wifey material but still refuse to date me? I’m getting confused now?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Likely because they're just looking for casual, no-strings-attached sex, not dating or a relationship, so they're doing the right thing and not trying to pursue you - ideally leaving you for the men who ARE looking for a real relationship.

My guess is that these guys are largely the good-looking, popular guys that all the other girls want too. That's who most women go for. The problem is that these guys have such endless opportunities with women that they have NO reason to commit to any of them and LOTS of reasons not to - they have no trouble using women for casual sex, and many of the women are perfectly fine being used for casual sex - so there's no reason for them to change.

The guys who are looking for a relationship are rarely the MOST desirable guys overall. That doesn't mean that some of them aren't above average, just that they're not likely to be the TOP guys. But since most women ONLY go after the TOP guys, they see anyone less than a top guy as being UGLY or BORING and "below average." It's likely that you've had actual "relationship men" approach you and you've turned them away, pursuing instead the kind of men who have no intention of committing to ANY woman for any reason.

What you need to do is figure out what your priorities are. Do you want to be a wife and have a lifetime relationship with a man, and perhaps a family? Or do you want to go wild and "have fun" and have men see you as "only good for sex" (if for anything at all) for the rest of your life? Because that's really the two choices you have. And if you want a relationship, you have to realize that you'll have to choose from the pool of "relationship men" rather than from ALL men - because a LOT of men are not in the pool of "relationship men" and may never be.

[spartan55]

Any guy that uses the term 'wifey' should be avoided.

[DishLady]

Guys who just want to fuck won’t mess with wifey material unless they’re really cruel sort of guys. You should be grateful they’re kind enough to leave you alone.

[SweetJoyGirl]

They just want a good time.

[BarryLiverstone]

If a guy doesn’t accept your dating request a lot of times that’s due to a lack of physical attraction. They may be pumping up other aspects of your personality but lacking that body image yk

[noohair]

Confusion is a mental health diagnosis, try perplexed. It could be that you don't date a MILF, you just fuck a MILF.

[Danny_dan92]

Maybe they’re noticing the same red flag

[Asker]

I don't know what it could be, it’s starting to get annoying. Can being weird/awkward peg me down a few?

[Danny_dan92]

I’d say so, yeah

[Luckycharms12]

Want to have fun at the moment

[zombiewoof]

Maybe they are not looking for a wife

[Julian7312]

They all refuse?