Why would a guy want a “low value “ broken woman to begin with?

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I know I’m not high value… I have low self esteem, I seek male validation and I don’t dress modestly on the internet… I will never trust a man who isn’t degrading me or wanting just sex.

I could never trust a man who seems to want something more with me… it makes me feel that he’s low value.. especially when he has a good job, money ect…

I hate that I feel this way but men like this I can’t trust. Why would he want to be with a slut?

Then once he found out I wasn’t worth it he treated me how I’m worth and now he’s pursuing women he feels is better and higher quality.. like doctors or whatever

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well you know what I would love to run into you on the internet sometime and start talking with you because what I would tell you..

Why in the world would you believe that you believe you're stuck in a major rut down at the very bottom of the low value pole.. . First of all you shouldn't think it that way about yourself because I doubt it's true I would probably say that you are a beautiful good looking fun woman to be around but see you're never going to have that opportunity because you're always putting yourself down and always thinking that the guy that wants to treat you right and treat you good is what full of crap or he's low value no... You need somebody to start treating you right and 10 times better than the way you're being treated and treating yourself right now. Feel what it feels like. . When somebody really likes you and respects you and wants to make you happy. one of these days. I hope I run into you on the internet. Because I am one of those guys that can seem full energy and emotions I can tell you exactly who you are 3 minutes within talking with you I'm would probable see things in you. You don't even know about I look at everything in detail and break it all down and plus I'm honest so that's the major part that's the best part cuz that'll have to bull sheet

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because sadly you are your own worst enemy by labeling yourself as a low value woman. Most guys’ don’t give 2 shits about how much money a girl makes , as long as she isn’t a mooch , Guys’ look at beauty first when they see a beautiful girl that catches his eyes , we are very visual when it comes to seeing a beautiful girl. Her job or the money she makes or the car she drives doesn’t come close to her beauty. Sadly most females’ think opposite of what guys’ think when it comes to money. So you are allowing yourself to degrade yourself by thinking that way , if you want to be treated like a slut , you will be treated like a slut , if you want a loving healthy relationship with someone , stop being a slut , just become his slut lol

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Very controlling guys (including narcissistic and predatory guys) LOVE this kind of woman because they're master manipulators and sense the woman is weakened from heartbreak and other issues.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

People are attracted to those similar to themselves

ticktds · Answer

Um, I would say that for most guys using terms like "high value" and "low value" is going to be a bit of a red flag, just because you don't seem to be interested in who people are as people.
The stuff you said makes sense, and it's understandable to feel this way. High self-esteem, in this economy? Seeking male validation is actually something many guys feel is in a recession right now, so kind of a good thing to be honest. It makes sense that something more than just sex can be intimidating, that's why those guys are the way they are. And no, it doesn't have to be that way, so chin up.
Most hypogamous men aren't going to be impressed with some fancy doctress at all.
It's true the baseline for most guys is "beauty" but many girls mistakenly assume they don't fit into that because they don't look like that Avengers chick who looks like Sid the sloth. Those women aren't beautiful per se, they are just visually striking, that's what movie stars are hired for, and models are hired for superficial first impressions, just before you read the logo. The women I actually find the most attractive are just... normal women, they really aren't dazzling in any way, it's usually just because they look like girls and look... real.
Now that's the baseline, but it's not important. It's like a fork, you can't eat without a fork, but it's not the point. I guess it's just about the way we interact with the world, but that's literally just like... the very first thing, there's still everything after that. Its why men are expected to approach women first, because we have the right number of "candidates" that we can quite literally just go and chat them all up one by one, as opposed to just no one really standing out. But just me finding you pretty is enough or the only thing I care about. And it's not as predictable and "totally doesn't include them" obviously" as many girls seem to assume. Dating a girl I wasn't visually attracted to would be like going to a restaurant and ordering a nice meal, but... "Excuse me waiter wears the fork?" "You eat it with your fingers sir." "Oh well that kind of... really changes this experience then..."
After appearance comes mannerisms, the way you walk and talk, and treat others, especially men, will be something I notice. And this is just as important as the last step, but not the end of it. And then after that it gets a bit more personal to each guy.
So, for me at least it's like I'm initially attracted to a certain number of girls, and then I'm looking to see if I lose that attraction any step of the way.
The idea of weighing her value and feeling attracted to her based on that feels honestly super shitty and I'm not sure why people would do that. Just sounds like universalizing your own preferences and requirements.

Anonymous · Answer

He doesn't know any better.

I fell for a "broken-low-value-woman". But I didn't realize what a predator she was as well.

Men are built for work. We're natural problem solvers. When we meet a woman we like with problems it's in our DNA to want to fix them. Problem is, a lot of these women do not want them fixed. Some of these women are toxic like Chernobyl. And only want to pull him down into the much with her.

Guys if they are not taught this they WILL learn the hard way.

Drackusdredge · Answer

This varies a fair bit. Also, question before I answer more: You mention 'slut' but only mention photos, normally slut implies you have casually slept around habitually. I just want to make sure are you using in this sense or are you only using it in relation to the online images stuff?

JFilton · Answer

It really depends on the person and your relationship together. But if you are tlaking generally best to look at yourself and really think about what you want in a relationship and what the relationship is for.

Best thing is just to keep talking and being open and honest about your feels and see what they say.

spartan55 · Answer

This is NOT why he lost interest. Why do you keep lying about this?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You should seriously consider long term psychotherapy.

normalice · Answer

If you have a nice butt and give it away freely most guys aren't going to pass that up for long.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

That's a good question, it's good he eventually came to his senses tho

Radiate143 · Answer

To keep as a back up and use as a sperm toilet.

Anonymous · Answer

You have really low self esteem. You need therapy. Also if you really hate being slutty you could always stop.

exitseven · Answer

Some people just like to get a fixer upper.

Staximus · Answer

Why the hell would you want to be or value being degraded? You need to stop dragging yourself through the mud.

Anonymous · Answer

Another guy posting as a female, obviously.

MasterKS · Answer

everyone loves easy options! who gives too much effort for high value when you get low value so easily!

moneymagnet24 · Answer

It's depends how you look.. Looks matter..

SoJust · Answer

You should ask that man about this

Pohjolan · Answer

So what exactly makes you low value?

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