Guys, He told me to move on, now he won’t stop calling me?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand this. We’re both in our late 30’s. I met him on tinder and we went out three times. Communication was AWESOME, we had fun, we had great chemistry, etc. I guess I got too over excited about him and he thought I called him and texted him a lot. Then one day, he sends me this message saying “I need space. Please don’t call or text me anymore as you were doing it too much. Please move on and if we’re meant to be in each other’s lives, we will be.” So I responded promptly with “No worries. I’m sorry if that was a problem, but I only called and texted at the same frequency as you. If that was a problem, then you should have told me but since you didn’t and were essentially doing the same thing, I didn’t think it was a problem, but that’s ok. I can always find another man so I wish you the best. I agree with you that I need to move on.” Then he basically responded by turning it on me and saying that I was rude and that I should have just known that he wanted to be left alone and it’s not his job to teach me proper phone and text ettiquette. I ended the conversation by saying “I get it and I again I agree that I need to move on. Perhaps one day a long time from now there’s a slim chance we can be friends but for now, you’re right and we shouldn’t be in each other’s lives. Have a nice life and goodbye” and I blocked his number, blocked him on Facebook, and on Tinder. This all happened two weeks ago, now he’s calling and texting me from various numbers saying he wants to “talk” to me and that he misses me. I just keep blocking him but I told him that if he contacts me again, I’m calling the cops. Wtf? If he wanted me to move on so badly and wanted me to leave him alone, why isn’t he leaving me alone? I don’t get it.

[Finchie40]

You are best to keep blocking him and moving on from him. It sounds like he is involved with someone else and just trying to use you as a convenience. Because if he was single? He wouldn’t be telling you he needs space. That right there is a huge red flag , because you did nothing wrong , by texting him and wanting to be closer to him and hearing from him , So don’t fall for his bullshit that he needed space. I can’t stand people that say that to someone , that they are initially showing interest in , People that say I need space? Are selfish piece of shit people that only really care about themselves , So even if he was telling you the truth? which I highly doubt he was , Would you want to continue dating someone that needs space from you? I dump girls’ all the time that say they need space all of a sudden , that start to treat me like a convenience, If I am not her priority , she won’t be mine period. Sending a simple text to someone to let them know you are thinking of them , should not be rocket science , it takes 2 seconds to reply , even if they are busy? All they have to say is sorry I can’t talk right now , but I will call ya when I am finished. So do yourself a favor and stay away from people that use the word space , kick them to the curb where they belong they only care about themselves, and have no dignity or respect for anyone else but themselves Find yourself a guy that chooses you the same way you choose him , . When I really like a girl and I am interested in a girl , The phone works both ways. Almost every single person on this planet carries a cell phone by their side at all times , sending a text isn’t hard to do. Even when I don’t have my phone on me? I will still write her back as soon as I can if I see a message from her , and tell her what I was doing. So don’t change who you are as a person , just realize you deserve way better than that shit. Sadly most people on this planet have become selfish and disrespectful people , I blame social media for being a big part of the reason. Casual sex is like the new norm it seems these days because people only really care about themselves. So if you are seeking a real relationship with someone , stay clear of those red flags of someone saying the need space , they need space because they are selfish POS people. That are clearly weighing their options.